Kungani ukukhashelwa kwentombazane?

Abanye abantu abathandekayo kakhulu bavuka ngokuthukutheza okubandayo, lapho bephuka ngokukhaphela kwentombazane. Ngokwemvelo, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazokujabulela ukubona lokhu, ngisho nasephusheni. Kodwa empeleni konke kungabi kubi kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma ukhumbule yonke imininingwane yobuthongo bese uthola incazelo ehambisanayo encwadini yephupho.

Ngokuvamile, ukukhwabanisa kwentombazane ephusheni kungahlanganiswa nezici ezivela ekuphileni kwangempela: isibonelo, ukuxabana nomuntu othandekayo, noma amagama wezihlobo ngokuziphatha kwakhe okungajwayelekile. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uhlasele ehlombe futhi uhlukanise, kufanele ubone ukuthi ukukhangwa kwentombazane kungaba yini.

Intombi yami yangishintsha ngephupho. Yini okufanele ngiyenze?

• Iphupho elinjalo lingasho ukuthi umfana ongenandaba naye akafuni ukulahlekelwa ngumthandekayo wakhe futhi wesaba ukuthi othile uzothatha
• Futhi, umbono onjalo ungabangela ukungavikeleki kwentombazane ngamandla akhe, okwenza ukuba azizwe engakakulungeli ubuhlobo obude.
• Ukwelapha intombazane kuyisixwayiso sokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuba umfana alungise izici zakhe zobuntu kancane kangangokuba umlingani wakhe akazukusizakala ngalokhu ngezinhloso ze-mercenary.
• Uma kwakukhona ingxabano phakathi kwabalingani kusihlwa, le nsizwa kufanele ijabule nje iphupho elinjalo. Kusho ukuthi lo mbhangqwana uzobuyisana ngokushesha.

Ukuchazwa kwezincwadi zephupho: ngephupho intombazane ishintshile

• Uma intombi yakho ishintshile wena nomngane wakho, khona-ke ekuphileni kwangempela kufanele uqaphele umngane wakho. Cishe, le nsizwa ayiyena umngane oqotho, kodwa umphikisi.
• Uma ukukhwabanzeka kwenzeka ngaphambi kwamehlo akho, empeleni umlingani angase abe nesifiso esingenasisekelo noma ngisho nenhloso ecacile yokwenza ubugebengu.
• Indaba efanayo ingase isho ukuthi lo mbhangqwana uzoba nengxabano engathí sina, isisekelo esingaba nokwethenjelwa kokubili futhi sisho ngezinhlelo zekusasa.
• Isiqephu lapho umphuphi ekhuluma nentombi yakhe, futhi uveza inhloso yakhe yokuyishintsha, khona-ke empilweni yangempela umbhangqwana ulindele isikhathi esinzima. Bayoba nokungaqondi kahle, ukuphikisana ngokweqile nokunganaki kwentombazane. Insizwa ingakwazi ukugwema ukuthuthukiswa okunjalo ngokuhlela isidlo sothando noma ukuthenga nje into ejabulisayo yenkosikazi yakhe yenhliziyo.

Ungayiqonda kanjani iphupho lapho ushintsha khona intombazane?

• Izincazelo eziningi zephupho zithatha isakhiwo esinjalo njengenhloso yomlingani ongaqondakali ukuthi "uye ngakwesobunxele." Futhi, kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu sekuvele kwenzeke, futhi lo mfana uzwa ukuzisola.
• Enye incazelo yikwanda lokukhathazeka kanye nochungechunge lokuhluleka empilweni.
• Encwadini yephupho likaMiller kubhaliwe ukuthi ukukhonjwa kwentombazane kusho ukuthi empilweni yangempela le nsizwa encane isilungele ubuhlobo bomndeni obude futhi icabanga ngokuqhubeka komndeni.
• UFrud ukholelwa ukuthi ukubona ephusheni ukuthengiswa kwentombazane ukuthi abalingani kudingeka baxoxisane kakhulu futhi bahlanganyele kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi lo mbhangqwana usanda kubhekana nokungezwani nokungavumelani, kodwa ngesikhathi sezingxoxo ezibucayi bazokwazi ukuthola amaqiniso amasha ngomunye nomunye, okuzosiza ukwakha ubuhlobo esikhathini esizayo.

Lapho uhumusha amaphupho anjalo, kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi hlobo luni lobuhlobo obambisene nabo manje. Kuphela ngalezi zisekelo ungakwazi ukuhumusha ngokufanele lokho okubonayo ngesikhathi sokuphumula ebusuku bese uthatha isinyathelo ukuvimbela imicimbi engathandeki.