Namuhla, ngeshwa, "intsha yanamuhla" iyazifunela, iyaziqhenya, ingalaleli abazali, ayihloniphi asebekhulile, ayikwazi ukusebenza, ikwazisa imali kuphela. Ngesibindi sokubheka intsha enjalo, wonke umama onothando uyazibuza ukuthi angenza kanjani umuntu omuhle enganeni? Indlela yokukhulisa ingane kahle?
"Ukwethula umusa kumntwana" kulula futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo akulula, kodwa wonke umzali angakwenza, umzamo othile uyadingeka.
Izwi elithi "umusa" linomqondo ojwayelekile, njengegama elithi "injabulo". Omunye umuntu ujabule ngokunqothula inkulumo ka-Everest, omunye ejabule ngokuthenga indlu noma imoto, owesithathu ujabule nje ngokuba ngubaba.
Ngomuntu oyedwa, ukunakekela abazali kungomusa, ngoba omunye umusa unenzuzo kubangani, okwesithathu - ukwenza kwindlu yabo indawo yokukhosela izinja ezilahlekile namakati. Njengoba sibona konke kuhlukile futhi kunemikhawulo nemigomo yabo.
Ukuqhubekela phambili kulokhu, umzali okhathalelayo, okokuqala, udinga ukwenza okuqondile futhi yena ngokwakhe ukunquma ukuthi inkulumo ethi "umuntu omuhle" isho ukuthini kuye. Yenza isikhumbuzo sakho, ubhale iziphetho zakho.
Umzali ophethe futhi okhathalelayo kufanele aqonde ukuthi izingane eziphakathi kweminyaka eyodwa kuya kwemihlanu azikwenzi lokho okutshelwa ngamazwi, kodwa ziphinda izenzo zabazali bazo. Le nkathi yabazali inhle, ngoba ayinakuphikwa futhi igunya eliphelele kumntanakho, ngakho angathinta kakhulu ukuziphatha kwengane. Ngakho-ke, udinga nje ukuba ube "umthamo womusa" wengane yakho. Noma kunjalo, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kuzofika isikhathi lapho ontanga nezithombe zizoba igunya lomntanakho, futhi igunya lakho lizohamba ngemuva, ngakho-ke kufaneleka yonke imizamo futhi uhlangabezane nezindinganiso ozikhulisa kumntanakho.
Wonke umzali ophishekela umgomo wokukhulisa ingane enhle kufanele akhumbule ukuthi asikho isidingo sokugqugquzela u-egoism wezingane, okuyisici esiyingxenye yazo zonke izingane. Futhi, ingane ayidingi ukufundiswa ukunikeza izipho ezihlala njalo. Izipho ezingunaphakade zihlobo "lwe-syndrome", okuvame ukubonwa kulabo abazali ababona ingane yabo engavamile kakhulu, njengoba bebenza kanzima futhi banakekele ingane ngamathoyizi nezinye izipho. Okubi nakakhulu, uma isethulo sesipho sihambisana nemishwana elandelayo: "Bheka ukuthi umama wakho wakulethele! Umama uyakuthanda kakhulu! "Noma" Gijima ngokushesha kubaba futhi ubone ukuthi uthenge wena! ".
Uma uthanda ingane yakho, kubalulekile ukufaka kuye isimiso - ukunikeza izipho njalo kumnandi kunokuthola. Kungcono kunzima ukugxilisa lesi simiso, ngoba iningi lezingane ligxile kuphela, ezifisweni zazo, ngakho-ke inkulumo ethi "lokhu kungokwenu, uyithathe noma ngikunike yona" izwakala kakhulu futhi imnandi kakhulu kunegama elithi "linike omunye noma linikeze." Uma unquma ukuthenga ingane yakho ithoyizi ebiza kakhulu, ungaxoxisana naye, unikele okuthile komunye ingane futhi hhayi ngempela umngane. Kungaba ingane yomakhelwane, ingane evela emndenini ohola imali encane, ingane edlala ebaleni lokudlala. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukhethe ithoyizi okufanele ayinike. Lesi simiso sisebenza njalo ukunqoba. Ungasebenzisa lesi simiso nezembatho ezintsha.
Ngomntwana kubalulekile ukubambelela uthando ezintweni ezinhle. Isibonelo, uma umthenga i-candy, izithelo noma amanye amaswidi, bese uhlela nomntwana ukuthi uzowabelana nabo nalabo bantwana abazobadlala egcekeni. Fundisa ingane ukuba inike njalo futhi yonke indawo bese ukukhulisa umuntu omuhle kuyo ngeke kube nzima.
Kubalulekile ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho nengane. Faka futhi utshele izingane zakho izindabakwane nezindaba ngabantu abalungile, ukuthi kukhona umthetho emhlabeni "lokho umuntu akuhlwanyelayo, khona-ke uzokuqoqa." Ukuveza ikhwalithi echazwe enganeni, kubalulekile ukuthi uhlanganyele empilweni yengane, ukuze ufunde kanye naye izwe elizungezile nemithetho ekhona kuyo.
Hlwanyela othandweni lwengane yakho futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzovuna umuntu ohloniphekile, onomusa futhi othembekile futhi ukwazi ukuziqhenya kuze kube yilapho esekhulile!