Kunoma yikuphi ukuqoqwa kwezingane kukhona ingane encane ephendukela ekubeni "isikhundla esingabonakali" noma "ukukhishwa". Izingane ezingafundile ukwakha ukukhulumisana nabanye zisencane, esikhathini esizayo, zingase zibe nezinkinga kunoma yiziphi izimo lapho kukhona khona ukuxhumana nethimba: kwizifundo, ezemidlalo, emsebenzini, ubudlelwane bomndeni. Bakuthola kunzima ukuthola abangane, abantu abanjalo bavame ukuba bodwa.
Kwezinye izimo, abazali bangakwazi ukubikezela ukuthi kwenzeka izinkinga ezinjalo kusengaphambili: kwaziwa ukuthi izinkinga ekukhulumisaneni nasekusungulweni koxhumana nabo kwezenhlalo ngokuvamile zivele ezinganeni ezinezintandokazi zomuntu siqu noma zokuziphatha, kanye nezingane ezineziphambeko zenkulumo. Uma ingane inezici ezinjalo - ungalindeli kuze kube yize "izinkinga" ziqala. Izifundo zokuxhumana kudingeka ziqale ngaphambi kokufaka izikhungo zezingane.
Abazali bangazisiza kanjani ingane ngobunzima bokuxhumana ukuze bangamlimazi?
Okokuqala, qaphela indlela ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwamalungu omndeni akhiwa ngayo, ngoba amakhono okuqala okukhulunywa ngawo ingane ekhaya. Ithembo ukuthi izindlu zikhulumisana, kanjani ukuxazulula izimo zokungqubuzana. Ngendlela ekhululekile yokuzikhulumisana, abazali banethuba elincane lokuba nezinkinga zokuxhumana, kanye nesimemezelo esihle kakhulu uma kuvela izinkinga ezinjalo.
Ngokuvamile abazali bayenqaba ukuvuma ukuthi isizathu sokuthi ingane ayinalo ubudlelwane nabanye kubona, hhayi kuontanga noma kubafundisi. Umama nobaba othandekayo kubonakala sengathi lezi zinsuku zabanye abantu abafundile, kanti abafundisi abangenakukwazi ukuthola indlela efanele kumntanakho. Eqinisweni, kungase kuvele ukuthi ingane ihlukumeze ezinye izingane, ikhombisa ukufutheka ngokweqile, eyaziwa ngokuthi ungumnyundeli, noma, isibonelo, uzama ukuziphatha njenge-barchuk encane: ukukhuluma noontanga ngendlela ehlelekile.
Ukuvala nokuzama kuphazamisa nokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono okuxhumana. Siza ingane ukuba yakhe ukuzithemba, umkhuthaze ukuthi akhulume, kuhlanganise nabantu abangabazi. Mcele ukuthi aphendule emtholampilo noma acele imakethe ukuthi kufanele yini ukuthi i-cherry ibaluleke kangakanani. Abazali kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi isisekelo sokuzethemba komntwana ukumukelwa okungenasimo komama noyise. Ungamfaki amalebula ("uhlanzile", "awunaki"), ungamqhathanisi nezinye izingane, ikakhulukazi ezingalungile ("Manje, Sveta, sengivele ngifunde ukufunda ngezilimi, kodwa namanje awukwazi ukufunda izincwadi! ").
Uma ingane ishukunyiswa ukuziphatha okubi, khumbula - ukwandisa izwi nokusebenzisa isijeziso sangokomzimba kuyindlela engafanele kakhulu yokuxazulula le nkinga. Qinisekisa ukuthi ukuhlukumeza akubangelwa ukungabi nokuxhumana nabazali, futhi akuyona ukukhala kokugcina komphefumulo, ngethemba lokuthi umama uyakwazisa. Izindlela eziphumelelayo zokulwa nokuziphatha okubi: ukukhombisa indlela yokuphepha ngokuhlukumezeka (isib. - ukwehlukanisa izicucu ezincane "zokufutheka" ngento eqoshiwe eyenza imizwelo emibi) nokubonakalisa ukuziphatha okunokuthula ezimweni zokuphikisana (isibonelo, bonisa ukuthi ungathola kanjani ukungathinteki uma ngabe izithakazelo zihambisane nezintshisekelo zomunye umuntu).
Izingane ezincane zizibophezela ngokwemvelo. Kunzima ukuba bazibeke endaweni yomunye umuntu - lokhu kungumthombo wenkani enkulu yezingxabano. Ngesinye isikhathi abazali bafuna ukunikela ingane ukuthi icabangele ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuthinta kanjani umuntu othize: "Manje, uma u-Vasya ephula i-kurichiki - ingabe uyayithanda? Futhi uma i-Masha ikuhlambalaza?"
Amathuba amakhulu okumelwe anqatshwe yiontanga ezinganeni ezingenakuzithokozisa ngokweqile. Ujwayele ukuyala futhi azibheke njengcono kunabanye. Ukuziphatha okunjalo, njengombuso, kuthathwa yizihlobo: abazali, noma ogogo nomkhulu, abangaboni kahle ekukhulekeleni kwabo, bakhuthaza ingane ukuthi iyona engcono kakhulu kuzo zonke izici, egcizelela ukuthi ezinye izingane kuye "futhi azifaneleki ikhandlela." Izingane azithandi "ama-dudes". Kubalulekile ukuchazela ingane ukuthi oontanga ababi nakakhulu, futhi kwezinye izimo kungase kube ngcono nakakhulu. Futhi lokhu kuvamile.
Abazali abavuma ukuthi ingane yabo inezinkinga zokuxhumana bavame ukubonisa ukuzimisela ukubambisana nabachwepheshe - isazi sezengqondo, uthisha wezenhlalakahle, uthisha weklasi. Kulesi simo, ochwepheshe bazotshela ukuthi abazali basiza kanjani ingane enenkinga yokuxhumana.
Kodwa, ngezinye izikhathi, impela isimo sengqondo esibi kwengane eqenjini sakhiwa ngumuntu oyedwa - isibonelo, uthisha ozwa imizwa engakhululekile kubazali bomntwana. Izingane ziyabona ukuthi utholaphi iphutha ngomfundi, uvumela izici ezizwakalayo, futhi imizwa yakhe idluliselwa kubo bonke iqembu. Noma ofunda naye ophethe igunya phakathi kwezingane nokulwa nomntwana othile uhlela ukuhlukunyezwa. Uma esimweni esinjalo beza "ukubhekana" nabahlukumezi, lokhu kuvame ukuholela ekubikeni kwesimo - uthisha uba yinkimbinkimbi ekucindezelweni kwengane, kanti oontanga bakhe bayamkhathalela, futhi baqhubeke beshushisa. Kuyadingeka ukuthola izizathu zokungafuni ukungathandwa kwengane eqenjini ukuzama ukuthuthukisa isimo, ukuhlinzeka ingane ngokusekela okungenasisekelo nokuphakamisa indlela yokuziphatha ngayo, kodwa hhayi ukumkhuthaza ukuba abe nesihe "sokungajabuli." Uma kwenzeka isimo siphume kakhulu - ingane ishaywa njalo noma ihlazekile - yisikhathi sokungenelela okukhulu.
Into eyinhloko abazali okufanele bayikhumbule ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi abakwazi ukukhombisa ukungabi nabulungisa futhi baphathe inkinga yengane, bethemba ukuthi konke "kuyakheka." Umama nodade bokuqala bathatha lesi simo ngaphansi kokulawula, kulula futhi ngokushesha imiphumela yomsebenzi wokulungisa uzofika. Uthando nokusekelwa kwabantu abasondelene kakhulu kanye nosizo lwabaqeqeshi kuyisihluthulelo sempumelelo ekuxazululeni izinkinga zokuxhumana.