Ngezinye izikhathi angizizwa ngisukuma, ngifuna ukulala ngibone futhi ngizizwe ngiphupha. Ngamunye wethu wayevame ukuphupha ngephupho elidangayo, futhi emva kwesinye iphupho eliphuthumayo ngangifuna ukufunda okwengeziwe ngamaphupho ahlukumezayo, nokuthi yini abayiphupha ngayo. Ngakho-ke, kusho ukuthini amaphupho ahlukumezayo?
Izazi zemiqondo zithi amaphupho angenangqondo noma "amaphupho ngothando" iphupha ngisho nezingane, kanti abadala siba nabafundi abanolwazi, ikakhulukazi amaphupho ethu. Futhi abesifazane abavela kumaphesenti angu-25 kuya kwengu-40 ubudala abadinga amaphupho abonakalayo. Ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi amaphesenti angaba ngu-10% amaphupho kubantu - abahlukumezayo. Ukulala ngokwedlulele kuphela nge-orgasm kwabesifazane abangama-55% namadoda angu-15% kusukela eminyakeni engu-25 kuya kwezingama-35.
Ngakho-ke kusho ukuthini amaphupho angenangqondo? Futhi kungani siphupha ngabo? Mhlawumbe bathwala izifiso zethu zangaphakathi, noma azisho izifiso zobulili, kodwa into yansuku zonke. Kungenzeka ukuthi siphupha ngocansi ngoba sithatha enye yezindawo eziyinhloko empilweni yethu, futhi angicabangi ukuthi kufanele inqatshelwe.
Futhi sithola i-orgasm ephusheni? Yebo, nakuba ubulili bethu obuhle bujabulela injabulo encane kunamadoda, kodwa ngokuguga, amadoda ngokuya ngokubona amaphupho omuntu ongathandeki. Amaphupho e-Erotic avame ukuphupha ngalabo bantu abathi empeleni banqatshelwe ubulili, okungukuthi, kubonisa ukuthi umuntu ucindezelwe ngokobulili. Ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi i-orgasm ihlangene nabafana abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili, kanti owesifazane emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane, nje le minyaka edlule ibhekwa njengeminyaka yokunganeliseki ngokocansi. Ngokuvamile, amaphupho omuntu ongathandabuzeki awubhekwa njengokuphambuka, ngakho-ke akufanele abesabe.
Ama-sexologists ahloniphe izinhlobo ezintathu zamaphupho ocansi. Owokuqala uvulekile, okungukuthi, umuntu ulala ocansini, amaphupho anjalo avame ukuthwala izifiso zangasese, yini oyifunayo, kodwa ungathini ngalokhu.
Uhlobo lwesibili luhlukaniswa, ubuchopho bufake iphupho, ngakho kubonakala sengathi kuyiphupho futhi akusizi, kepha umuntu obona iphupho elibhalwe kahle uthola yonke into ngokuhlukile futhi njengemiphumela yokutholwa ngokocansi.
Uhlobo lwesithathu luyingozi, okungukuthi, amaphupho ahlobene nokushintsha kocansi noma ubudlelwano bobulili obufanayo, la maphupho awasho lutho olubi futhi angenayo ingozi nhlobo. Amadoda, ngendlela abavame ukuphupha ngayo amaphupho anjalo, lapho bezibona khona njengabesifazane.
I-sexomnia yisimo esingavamile lapho umuntu olalayo angalala naye nomlingani olele eceleni kwakhe futhi angavuki ngisho nokuvuka. Lokhu kungenye yezinhlobonhlobo zokulala, okuhambisana namaphupho ahlukumezayo.
Amaphupho e-Erotic angachazwa njenganoma iyiphi enye iphupho - njengokuthi, isibonelo, uma ubona usana ephusheni, khona-ke lokhu kuyinhlanhla. Kuvela ukuthi uSigmund Freud unikeze isandla kakhulu emkhakheni wezocansi zobulili. Abacansi bezocansi bathola ukuthi amaphupho abesilisa nabesifazane ngobulili ahluka kakhulu. Nazi ukuhumusha kwamaphupho ajwayelekile kakhulu. Ubani olala naye ephusheni? Futhi kusho ukuthini amaphupho angcolile?
Uma ulele nesoka lesandulela ngculazi noma umyeni - abesifazane abaningi baqala ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka ngocansi ephusheni nabangaphambilini. Empeleni, lokhu akuyona into embi - nje usenayo, mhlawumbe, unomuzwa ofudumele ngaye, noma ulaka. Abacansi bezocansi bakholelwa ukuthi ubulili nomuntu owayengumthandayo ufihla izifiso zakho eziyimfihlakalo, eziphuma ngaphandle. Ngokufanayo, ubulili nomuntu ofunde naye esikoleni noma nomuntu ofunde naye ekilasini, ongamphefumulanga naye, kufanekisela isifiso sakho senkululeko. Futhi ubulili nomfana omakhelwane omakhelwane kusho izintshisekelo zakho ezingalindelekile nokuguquka ekuphileni kwakho kobulili, mhlawumbe ufuna okuthile okusha futhi ngokuzenzakalelayo, njengobulili endaweni ongalindelekile, noma umuntu ongalindelekile, kodwa ngezokugcina ngineluleka ukuba ungazami uma unayo usuvele unomlingani wezocansi.
Uma ulala nesithombe sakho noma nje ngodumo , isibonelo ngoMel Gibbson noma uBruce Willis, kusho ukuthi unezifiso ezithile eziyimfihlakalo ongathanda ukuzibona, ufuna ukuba nalokho ongakabi nakho bese ungenakho. Noma awukatholi umuntu wakho ofanelekayo, ngakho-ke uwushintshe ngodumo oluhle emehlweni akho. Hmm, ngubani ongafuni ukulala noMel Gibbson noma uRichard Gere?
Uma ulala nomuntu ongekho mnandi futhi enengekayo kuwe - izazi zengqondo zicabanga ukuthi ungathanda ukuba nazo lezo zimfanelo ezikuye, ufuna ukufana naye, kodwa ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuphansi kuwe. Futhi namanje, uma uphuphile njengalokhu, ungathukutheli, cabanga ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo ongathanda ukuzibamba.
Futhi kuthiwani uma uyingqingili ephusheni, noma ulala nowesifazane ? Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu abaningi bangathanda yini ukuzama ukulala nomunye owesifazane? Bangaki abesifazane abanjalo? Akuwona wonke umuntu ozothola ithuba ngalokhu, ngoba kwabesifazane akekho into enjengaleyo esetshenziselwa ukulala naye nendoda. Kodwa ake sibuyele emaphupheni, ubulili nomfazi kuyiphupho kowesifazane ngokungajwayelekile, futhi uma usenalo iphupho elinjalo, lifanekisela isifiso sakho sokufana naye, ukuba ube naye. Iphinde ibonise ukuthi umlingani wakho wamanje kufanele abe mnene futhi abonise uthando nokuthandana okuningi, ngoba ubulili besifazane ababili busekelwe ngokujulile othandweni nobumnene.
Ngokuvamile kakhulu ephusheni, senza ucansi nomfokazi. Ngokuvamile amaphupho anjalo awashiyi ukubonakala okubi, amaphupho anjalo asho ukuthi ukhathele impilo yansuku zonke, futhi ufuna ukushintsha okuthile empilweni yakho, ukuthola ezinye izenzakalo. Ngakho-ke, qaphela abesifazane ababizayo ukuthi bashintshe okuthile ekuphileni kwabo, bangeze into entsha emisebenzini yakho yansuku zonke. Uma ulala nomuntu ongaziwa endaweni yomphakathi ephusheni, noma uma ubanjwa nje kulokhu, kusho ukuthi udinga ukuphuza izidakamizwa, ngoba amaphupho anjalo afanekisela ukukhathazeka kwakho.
Uma uphupha ukuthi ushaya indlwabu, kusho ukuthi unesizotha esincane, qala ukuziqonda. Abanye abantu baphupha ukuthi basemzimbeni wobulili obuhlukile, kusho ukulangazela okulula, uzibuza ukuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa kanjani ngesikhathi socansi.
Ngemva kokubhekana namaphupho akho ngezikhathi ezithile zokuqukethwe okwemvelo, ake siqhubekele kulokho okwenzekayo, izazi ze-psychologists zikholelwa ukuthi amaphupho angamahle angalawulwa. Ngaphambilini, i-yogis kuphela, ama-shaman kanye nama-aborigines ayehlanganyela kulokhu, okungukuthi, bayala amaphupho. Ukuze uhlele iphupho elidangayo, udinga ukuqeqeshwa okuningi futhi kuthatha isikhathi esiningi. Akuyona iqiniso lokuthi uzothola okokuqala noma okwesibili, kodwa ungakhetha umlingani wokuzijabulisa ngokocansi ephusheni.
Futhi-ke, uma uthanda lo mbono, qala ukudala izimo ezifanele, okungukuthi, ungaphuzi itiye nekhofi ngesidlo sasemini, lolu suku kufanele lube lula kakhulu. Phuza amanzi amaningi, futhi ungaphuzi nhlobo utshwala. Ngaphambi kokulala ungasebenzisi futhi ungacabangi ngalutho - zama ukuphumula ngokuphelele. Thetha ukuze ikhanda lisezingeni eliphansi, futhi ulale okungcono emhlane wakho. Awukho umsindo owedlulele akufanele ukuphazamise wena. Ungalali ngokushesha, zama ukucabanga ngesimo, ukuthi ungathanda kanjani ukulala ocansini, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu! Kufanele uzame ukungalali, kodwa akufanele uhlale uphapheme, kufanele ubambe lesi senzo segolide, futhi uhlale kulo mbuso cishe imizuzu eyishumi. Inkinga yabaqalayo ukuthi balala ngokushesha. Futhi ngemva kwalokho, ngemva kwehora nesigamu ngemuva kokulala, uzoya lapho ulala khona emibonisweni yakho, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu ommele. Jabulela amaphupho akho, bafazi bami abathandekayo!