Ungalali izinyembezi.
Ungatsheli indodana encane ekhungathekile: "Abafana abakhala." Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu akulona iqiniso: abafana abancane kusukela ekuzaleni bakhala ngaphezu kwamantombazane. Lokhu kuchazwa yiqiniso lokuthi uma kuqhathaniswa nesimiso sezinzwa samantombazane, abafana abancane abavuthiwe kancane. Yingakho balala kancane, bakhamuluka kakhulu, kunzima ukuzola. Uma ufuna ukukhipha izinyembezi zendodana yakho, amanye amagama abumnene akwanele (nakuba amantombazane le ndlela yokuzola, njengomthetho, esebenza ngokuphumelelayo). Kufanele usebenzise isithakazelo sakhe ezweni elizungezile: vula bese uvala ukukhanya izikhathi eziningana, bonisa inyoni ngaphandle kwewindi, noma ithoyizi elisha. Ungamangazi ingane encane yokukhala. Ingane, kungakhathaliseki ubulili, inelungelo lokuzwa nemizwa (kokubili okuhle nokubi).
Ungalinganisani inkululeko.
Uma ubona ukuthi indodana yakho iqhuma ngamandla amaningi, masigijime, gxuma, iqhwa. Abafana ngokuvamile basheshe kunamantombazane futhi kubalulekile ukuba baphonse amandla. Ngakho-ke, ungazami ukuvimbela inkululeko yengane, ukumshiya enkundleni yezemidlalo noma ukumphoqa ukuba ahambe ngesiteji ukuze ahambe. Imidlalo yemvelo izozuza kokubili impilo yengqondo nengqondo yengane.
Ngivumele ngizame.
Amadoda kunoma yikuphi ubudala anesithakazelo ekulungiselelweni kwezinto ezizungezile. Futhi ngithanda konke okuxhunywe nobuchwepheshe. Yiqiniso, ekufundeni akuyona into ethakazelisayo kubo - bafunda isakhiwo sezinto ngokusebenza, ukuhlaziya nokuwaphula. Ngakho ungathukutheli futhi ungamangaleli indodana yakho encane ngenxa yesitokisi esiphukile noma imishini. Kungcono ukususa zonke izinto eziyigugu nezinkambu zokubuka nokufinyelela kwengane, futhi wenze ukuhlolwa kwakhe kuphephile.
Ungalinganisanga izithakazelo zomntwana kuphela ngoba kubonakala sengathi akufanelekile kumfana. Ngikholelwa, akukho lutho olubi ngeqiniso lokuthi indodana ifuna ukushayela i-teddy bear esihlalweni sabakhubazekile noma ukudlala idonsa. Ungakhathazeki, uma umfana ethanda imidlalo yamantombazane. Into eyinhloko ukuthi umdlalo uletha injabulo yezinyane futhi uletha injabulo.
Qaphela.
Kubonakala kuwe ukuthi ingane ekhuni yenza izinto eziyikhulu ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi ayikwazi ukugxila kunoma yini. Ungasheshi ukuphazamisa umdlalo wakhe. Vele uzame ukumgcina njalo emkhakheni wakho wombono. Yenza izindlu zikhululekile ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze kutholakale imvuthuluka futhi kusukela ekudala kuya kufundiswa eziyisisekelo zokuphepha: awukwazi ukubalekela kumama wakho emgwaqweni, ukhuphuke etafuleni, uphume esihlalweni. Abafana, ngisho nangaphezu kwamantombazane, badinga imithetho ecacile yokuziphatha.
Nika indodana yakho isikhathi esiningi.
Zonke izingane zithinteka kakhulu kunina, kodwa abafana banzima kakhulu kunabesifazanekazi abancane, baze bahlukane kancane nomama wabo. Ngakho-ke, uma kungenzeka, uhlele impilo yakho ukuze iminyaka emithathu yokuqala indodana idlule ekhaya nawe, upapa noma omunye umuntu oseduze. Lokhu kuzosiza ingane ukuba izwe iphephile. Uma uyinikeza kakhulu kusensimini, ingasinda ekucindezelekeni okukhulu, uzizwe ulahliwe. Zama ukwenza lokhu kulungiselelwe enkulisa njengethambile futhi kancane kancane ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ungamphathe njengesikhulu.
Kakade uneminyaka emibili, qala ukuqeqesha indodana yakho ukuthatha amathoyizi akho ngaphambi kokulala (yenza konke ndawonye kuqala). Lapho umntwana ekhula kancane, makakusize emisebenzini yasemakhaya elula, ngisho noma kusuka kulokhu kuyoba nokudideka okuningi kunokuhle. Ngenxa yalokhu, uzoqonda ukuthi izindaba zekhaya akuzona "ibhizinisi labesifazane" kuphela. Chaza kumuntu omncane ukuthi uthatha kanjani amantombazane. Ukuthi abakwazi ukucasuka, kubalulekile ukubathanda nokubanakekela. Futhi abantu abadala kumele balalele futhi bahloniphe. Fundisa umfana imithetho edingekayo yokuziphatha.
Khuluma, funda, cula.
Ngokusemthethweni, abafana baqala ukukhuluma, banolulumagama oluncane olunamazwi angaphezu kwamantombazane. Ngakho-ke, khuluma ngangokunokwenzeka nendodana yakho, tshela okwenzekayo okuzungezile, funda izinkondlo, inganekwane kanye nezindaba, uhlabelele izingoma zezingane. Lokhu kuzocebisa ulwazi lomntwana, futhi kumsize ukuba afunde ngokushesha izinto eziyisisekelo zokukhuluma.
Mkhulule ngesikhathi.
Kuze kube yiminyaka eyisithupha ingane yakho encane izomathela kakhulu kuwe, kodwa ke upapa uzophuma phezulu, okuzoba yisigunya sakho esingenakuphikiswa kumuntu wakho omncane. Nakuba lokhu kungase kubonakale njengesenzakalo esiseduze nakusasa, udinga ukuyilungisa ngokuziphatha manje. Lokhu kuhlukana kumama kuyisigaba esidingekayo ekuthuthukiseni umfana.
Zama ukungaphuthelwa lutho emfundweni yendoda yakho encane, ngakho kamuva lapho ekhula, akufanele ube namahloni ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Futhi ukuthi owesifazane wakhe othandekayo, wake wakutshela ukuthi "ngiyabonga."