Enye yezinhlelo ezihlekisayo kwakukhona indaba mayelana nomhlangano wokuqala wesilisa nowesifazane. Bavuma ukubuza emhlanganweni 3 imibuzo ethandekayo wonke umuntu.
Uzobuza imibuzo: "Uhlobo luni lwezimbali ozithandayo?" Ungubani wena ngesibonakaliso se-zodiac? Uthanda ukudlala hlobo luni? "
Uzobuza imibuzo: "Kukuphi isifunda okuyizindlu zakho? Iyiphi imoto imoto yakho? Imali engakanani ku-akhawunti yakho yasebhange? "
Abesifazane abaningi ngosuku lokuqala abafani neze amaqhawe omabili nhlobo, kodwa uhlobo oluthile lwabasebenzi basebhange abenza isinqumo sokunikeza isikweletu. Ngako-ke, iningi labantfu labanyenti bantfu labanyenti labanyenti batfutfukisa umhlalaphansi.
Ngokuvamile, ekuxoxweni kokuqala, ukuphenywa kuqhutshwa ngothando, kufanisa nomphenyi oqaphelayo, ezama ukuveza isithunzi sabo kumxhumanisi, ukuphahlaza ngaphandle kokuyeka. Zonke ezithathwe ndawonye azikwazi ukukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane. Njengoba kuboniswa ucwaningo lwengqondo, ngomzuzu owodwa nje umuntu wakhiwa umbono wokuqala.
Khona-ke lo mqondo ungaguqulwa noma uqinisekisiwe, kuthatha isikhathi esiningi. Indlela yokwenza umhlangano wokuqala ungapheli ngomzuzu, kodwa kungaba ukuqhubeka kobudlelwane obunobungane noma obunothando.
Njengomthetho, sithanda labo abanjengathi. Ngabantu abanjalo kulula ukuxhumana futhi kulula ukuhambisana. Abantu, okukhona phakathi kwabo abathembekile nokuxhumana okuhle, baqala ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Kuvela ukuze ujabulise omunye umuntu okudingeka ufanane naye. Futhi akudingekile ukuthi lokhu kuthiwe yebo ngezwi ngalinye ku-interlocutor yakhe, bese ukopisha yonke into yakhe njengemonkey.
Kwanele ukwakha inkhulumomphendvulwano mayelana nezithakazelo zakhe futhi uthole indawo ejwayelekile. Ungathukutheli uma kungekho amaphuzu, udinga umuntu ongenawo futhi angeke abe khona okufanayo? Kunezimfihlo eziningana zokuxhumana ongazithandayo umuntu omthandayo, nokuqonda ukuthi udinga ukuqhubeka nokuxhumana naye. Ake sibheke izimfihlo zokuxhumana namakhono omngane othakazelisayo nokukhangayo.
Khetha isihloko senkulumo
Okubalulekile emhlanganweni wokuqala ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo yisifundo senkulumo. Ngakho umuntu unquma ukuthi uyamthakazelisa kanjani kuye. Inketho enkulu kakhulu yokuwina kuyobe ikhuluma ngomuntu ngokwakhe. Kodwa kulesi sihloko esivuthayo kubalulekile ukukhuluma kuphela okuthakazelisayo ku-interlocutor, okubalulekile kuye, futhi hhayi nje kuphela okukuthakazelisayo kuwe. Isibonelo, mayelana ne-akhawunti yakhe yasebhange, mayelana nomsebenzi, uma engeyena osebenza ngokungenayo. Abesifazane kuphela abenza isono ukuthi ngosuku abaphendukela kubaphathi bezisebenzi ze-pedantic abathola ukuthi yiluhlobo luni lomgcini kanye nokuthi luhlangabezana kangakanani nezidingo ezibekiwe. Yiqiniso, imibuzo enjalo idinga ukucaciswa, kodwa kungcono ukuyenza kancane kancane futhi unobtrusively.
Izinkolelo
Abantu bayakwazisa kakhulu izinkolelo zabo, futhi uma uthola okuthile okuthakazelisayo futhi kubalulekile kumxhumanisi, ungaba umuntu othakazelisayo kakhulu. Ngokuba izindinganiso ze-interlocutor zingase zibe nesifiso sokusiza abanye, umsebenzi, ubudlelwane nabantu, ukuthanda izilwane, usizo, izinzuzo nezinye izinkolelo. Isibonelo, ungathola ku-interlocutor ukuthi uyini inzuzo ayinika isikhathi.
Uzoqonda lokhu ngokushesha uma usuphuzile usuku, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokhu kuyigugu kuye. Veza ubuhlobo bakho ngamazwi: "Ngikuqonda ngempela, ngoba angithandi uma othile ephuzile." Ngakho-ke, wena uvumelane nezinkolelo zakhe, futhi engxoxweni ulethe umphakathi wemibono yakho. Uma uphatha ukuthola ulimi oluvamile, i-interlocutor ungenza umqondo ongcono kangcono. Futhi isikhathi eside ngeke afune ukuyeka ukuxhumana nawe.
Ngokusekelwe ekucabangeni okunjalo, emhlanganweni wokuqala udinga ukwakha ingxoxo mayelana nawe ngezikhathi ezihlobene namanani we-interlocutor. Uma enza ezemidlalo, ngitshele ngemiphumela yakho yezemidlalo, uma ungaphandle kwezemidlalo, ungakhulumi kuze kube yilapho unanoma yiziphi ezinye izithakazelo ezithintekayo.
Ulwazi lomuntu siqu
Amaphutha amabili, abahlengikazi ababili, abaqoqeleli ababili abahlangana, bayothola ngokushesha ulimi oluvamile. Kungenzeka futhi uma uhlangana nomuntu ofunde nawe enyuvesi noma esikoleni. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho noma "amabalazwe" kuhlangene futhi kulezi zindawo zomgwaqo zibe yinto "yokufana", ukwesekwa okuvamile. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kulula ukuba izidakamizwa ezikoleni zemfundo nasemsebenzini. Ngisho nakho okuvamile, okuhlangenwe nakho okulula kusiza ukuqala ukuxhumana nokuthembela.
Uzokhumbula abangane abavamile, izimo ezifanayo ozihlangabezane nazo, izindawo oye waba nazo njalonjalo. Esikhathini ngasinye sesicoco sokuxhumana, vumelana ngokuvumelana, faka imishwana engxoxweni, ezokwenza kucace ukuthi uhanjiswe ku-wave eyodwa evamile ne-interlocutor. Uma kungekho okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene, ungayidala kalula, isibonelo, vakashela imicimbi yomphakathi noma yaseshashalazini.
Sebenzisa umhlangano wokuqala endaweni engakhohlwayo, ukuze kamuva ube nakho, imizwa ehlangene. Khumbula ukuthi akukho okumele kuphule lomhlangano, uma esaba ukwesaba ngeparachute, khona-ke lo mhlangano ngeke ubonakale uphumelele. Into eyinhloko yowomuntu ofuna ukumjabulisa ngakho, wazibonakalisa ngendlela engcono, futhi akakwazanga ukungena esimweni lapho ezwa khona engaphephile.
Phatha ingxoxo
Emhlanganweni wokuqala abantu abazanazi okwamanje, bazizwa benqatshelwe. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ingxoxo ingaholela ekupheleni kokufa. Kodwa kaningi asivumeli ingxoxo yamanje isuke ibe ngukuxhumana ngokukhululekile. Futhi kuvela ngoba asazi ukuphatha ingxoxo, sicela imibuzo engalungile. Imibuzo evulekile iqale ngamagama athi "nini", "kanjani", "kungani", "kungani nokunye njalo, futhi udinga impendulo ekhulisiwe.
Ekuqaleni kwengxoxo, imibuzo evulekile i-wand yangempela. Uma ubuza umbuzo kumlingani wakho "Kungani wakhetha le moto?", Uzoqala ukukhuluma ngentshiseko ngemoto yakhe, ngakho-ke ungakhuthaza umxhumanisi ukuthi aqhubeke nengxoxo. Uma ubuza imibuzo evaliwe ebonisa ukuthi impendulo engaphenduliyo "yebo" noma "cha, isibonelo," Ingabe lena imoto ebiza kakhulu? ", Khona-ke ingxoxo enjalo izofinyelela ngokushesha ekupheleni kokufa.
Nazi izibonelo zendlela enjalo ehlukile
- Kubonakala kimi ukuthi umsebenzi womlobi wezindaba uthakazelisa kakhulu, ngitshele ukuthi kungani uthanda lo msebenzi? Ingabe umbuzo ovulekile.
- Uyathanda umsebenzi wakho? - Umbuzo ovaliwe.
Imibuzo evulekile ifanele ukuthola ulwazi, futhi imibuzo evaliwe kufanelekile ukucacisa lolu lwazi.
Ukuze ukwazi ukulalela
Uma u-interlocutor wakho engumuntu oveza imizwa yakhe ngokuzenzekelayo, ungumuntu osebenzayo, khona-ke kuyoba nzima ngaye ukuxhumana nomuntu ongenamuntu ofihla imizwelo yakhe. Abantu balindele ukusabela okunjalo, yileyo ndlela abaqaphela ngayo ukuthi bayakuqonda. Ukuqhubekela phambili kulokhu, zama ukuvumelanisa nokunyakaza, ukuthinta nokubonakalisa ubuso bomlingani. Futhi akudingekile ukukopisha konke okwenziwa yi-interlocutor, nje ukuziphatha ngendlela ejwayelekile futhi.
Uma ukhuluma nomuntu othukuthele, zama ukuvuselela amagama akho ngokuthinta, khuluma ngokushesha, ukuveza imizwelo yakho ngokucacile. Ngabantu abanentshisekelo abathandekayo ekukhulumisaneni, ikhwalithi elilodwa elihle lihlanganisa, abakusho lutho ngokwabo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo bavumela abaxhumanisi babo ukuba baqonde ukuthi uyamthakazelisa kuye, kubalulekile kuye futhi kuqondwe nguye. Leli khono libizwa ngokuthi ikhono lokulalela elisebenzayo. Umuntu akagcini nje ngokuthula, ulalele umxhumanisi, kodwa futhi ukhuthaza umlingani. Lokhu konke kudala isimo esihle sokusondelana phakathi kwabantu ababili nokwethemba. Imfihlo embalwa ongayisebenzisa.
Ukuphindaphinda
Faka izingcaphuno zomlingani wakho emishweni yakho "Ucabanga ukuthi owesifazane akufanele asebenze?" Phinda amagama okugcina wegama lomsebenzisi-ngezwi. Zama ukuphinda ngezwi lokubuza imibuzo amagama ambalwa ashiwo ngumlingani.
Ukuqhathanisa
Isici esifushane sezitatimende zomlingani. Zama ukwakha ifomu lesonic lokho okushiwo umlingani. Landela i-logic yakho, kodwa landela ingqondo yomlingani.
Ukuhumusha
Isitatimende sokucabanga kwencazelo yangempela yalokhu okushiwoyo. Buza ukucacisa imibuzo, "Cishe usho lokhu ngoba ...?", "Cishe usho ukuthi ...?". Sebenzisa inqubo yezizathu ezinemibandela noma imibuzo yokuhlola: "Mhlawumbe ungathanda ...?"
Ukuqhathanisa
Ukubukeka kwenkinga ehlukile - "Uthi awukwazi ukushayela imoto, kodwa ngiyabona ukuthi uhamba kanjani ngokuphambene nazo zonke izimoto zokuhamba?".
Ukulungiswa kabusha
"Uma ukhuluma ngo ... yini oyibonayo?". Ukusebenzisa lezi zindlela, ungasiza ukusondelana komunye nomunye ngokushesha, sakha ukwethemba, futhi uvumelane nomuntu oyedwa ngobude obufanayo. Ngakho-ke, ekubeni nesithakazelo komunye umuntu, ungakhululeka futhi uzizwe uqiniseka. Khumbula ukubaluleka okubalulekile ukuthi i-interlocutor, lesi sibuko, esibonisa ukwehluleka kwethu nesithunzi sethu.
Manje siyazi ngosuku lokuqala: imfihlo yokuphumelela, lalela izimfihlakalo zempumelelo, futhi uma ungakwazi ukubonisa izimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu umlingani wakho azithandayo, uzothola isihloko somfazi othakazelisayo nesithakazelisayo emhlabeni jikelele.