Igama elithi "okuphambene" lisho "okuphambene", okungukuthi, okunye, ngokungafani. Futhi uma amadoda nabesifazane becatshangwa ukuthi bobulili obuhlukile, akumangazi ukuthi izwe liyabona, futhi liziphatha, futhi lithande ngezindlela ezahlukene. Asizange siqaphele ukuthi indoda ikholelwa lapho ibona, futhi owesifazane - lapho ezwa. Kodwa-ke ukuhlakanipha kwezizukulwane kuboniswe kanjani ekuphethweni: "Kungcono ukubona kanye nje ukuzwa izikhathi eziyikhulu"?
Isaga sakwaKazakh sasiyifakazela, esithi: "Izindlebe zikulungele ukuthatha konke okuncane, amehlo angalingisi isibonelo sabo." Futhi uSari Gabor uphawula ukuthi lo muntu uthanda amehlo, nowesifazane onendlebe. Futhi yini? Lokhu kusho ukuthini uma ulandela logic? Ukuthi owesifazane kulula ukukhohlisa, ngoba uthemba izindlebe ngaphezu kwamehlo? Maye, ngezinga elikhulu lokhu kunjalo.
Owesifazane onothando ovela ndawo ufika isici esingathandeki - ulahlekelwa ikhono lokukholelwa lokho akubona, uma engafuni ukukholelwa. Kodwa ngilungele ukukholelwa noma yikuphi amanga avela ezindebeni zithandwa sami, nje kuphela ukuba ngingadumala kulo. Iphutha elibaluleke kunazo zonke owesifazane onothando ukubeka isiteji, ukubeka umlingani kuye, ume eceleni, ubabaze futhi uzame ngawo wonke amandla akhe ukuze umgcine kulokhu kuhamba. Indoda ingakwazi ukuziphatha kulokhu njengoba uthanda, ukukhohlisa, ukushintsha, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuhleka ezindlebeni zamagama akho owathandayo othandana nothando, ukumqinisekisa ngothando lwakho. Futhi uzolalela futhi akholelwe. Kuwo wonke amazwi. Noma yikuphi ukukhohlisa. Uma kuphela izwe elincinci lenjabulo yakhe engenamanga ngeke liqhume noma liphule.
Futhi ingabhubhisa abantu abadumile kahle-abafisa kahle-omakhelwane, osebenza nabo, amahlebezi noma abantu abanobukhwele. Ngoba ukusola, ukunyundela nokuhleba, nezindlebe nazo ziyadingeka. Mhlawumbe yingakho zidalwe futhi zisatshalaliswa, futhi ikakhulukazi abesifazane bayalalela.
Indoda inzima kakhulu ukugcizelela okuthile ngokukhuluma. Futhi uma ebona okuthile, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukumbonisa ukuthi kungenjalo. Kungani la mazwi, wabona konke ngokwakhe!
Abantu bayazi kahle ubuthakathaka bomunye nomunye futhi abaningi basebenzise ngokungazenzisi. Cishe noma yiliphi owesifazane angatholakala, ekhuluma, ekhuluma, emtshela amagama amahle. Ngaso sonke isikhathi manje uthi uyamthanda, ukuthi impilo ngaphandle kwayo ayinangqondo, ukuthi ulokhu emfuna iminyaka eminingi kangaka futhi ekugcineni wathola ... Wonke umuntu wesifazane ngokushesha noma kamuva uzoyeka futhi aqale ukukholelwa. Futhi uyaqhubeka ekholelwa, ngisho nalapho umuntu efeza umgomo wakhe futhi elahlekelwe yithakazelo kuwo, amazwi akhe ahlala ngamazwi nje, engaqinisekiswa ngokuphelele ngezenzo. Kodwa lo wesifazane usuvele esithandana nalokhu, wanika okhethiweyo izimfanelo ezinhle zomfanekiso ayephupha ngawo, futhi akaqiniseki ukuthi uyathandwa futhi uyathandwa. Yona kanye isidingo sokuthandwa, ukuzwa kusuka kumthandi ukusakaza kwamagama amahle kumenza akholwe kulokho okwakungekho futhi akusikho.
Owesifazane othandweni uyajabula, futhi le njabulo idlala nehlaya elinonya naye. Ukhohlwa ukuthi lo muntu kufanele ahlulelwe hhayi ngamazwi, kodwa ngezenzo. Futhi uma othandekayo evele ehle, ungaphakamise umunwe ukusiza, ukusekela, ukumenzele okuthile noma endaweni yakhe, usho kakade okuningi. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi uma ebuzwa ukuthi yini owesifazane angamthanda, lona wesifazane angase aholele, lokhu okuvame ukuthukuthela kuyaphendula: "Uthando aludingi ukufakazelwa! Udinga nje ukukholelwa! "Kodwa ingabe lezi zimpikiswano? Amadoda kulokhu awona okude kakhulu, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi enza isenzo sokwemvelo.
Isibonelo esihle kakhulu ingoma ethandwayo akudala kakhulu mayelana nensizwa eyangena empini futhi yanquma ukuhlola indlela intombi yakhe enamandla ngayo. Wabhala incwadi lapho ebika khona ukuthi ushise ubuso bakhe waphula imilenze yakhe, wamcela ukuba eze naye ekhaya. Kodwa othandekayo waphendula ukuthi kwakungekho uthando, futhi wabuza ukumkhohlwa. Lapho umfana esebenze futhi ebuya, le ntombazane yahlangana ngenjabulo futhi yazama ukugubha, kepha yavuma ukwenqaba. Futhi yilokho konke. Kwakungekho amanye amagama adingekayo - isenzo sasikhona kimi. Ithi, akunjalo?
Lapha sihlukile - siqinile kunye futhi sisengozini kwenye. Amadoda nabesifazane, amehlo nezindlebe. Kodwa uma sifuna ukukhuluma ngokungagwebi, ukulahla zonke izahlulelo namazwi, umuntu onothando ngobuqotho akasithandi ngezindlebe noma amehlo, kodwa ngenhliziyo. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi ungubani - indoda noma owesifazane, ngoba akukho lutho olunamandla kunothando lweqiniso.