Ukuze ingane ikhule ngokugcwele, idinga ukudweba. Zonke izingane zithanda ukudweba! Kodwa kukhona izingane ezifana nalezi ezinzima ukungafani ukupenda, zikhwaza: "Angifuni!" Yini okufanele uyenze ngakho? Okokuqala, ungesabi futhi uphumule, ungacabangi ngokushesha ngezingane zakho ezingaphansi. Qonda izimbangela zalokhu kuziphatha kwezimpumputhe bese uzama ukuthakazelisa umdwebo wezinyane.
Ngenxa yalokho i-crumb ikwenqaba ngokuphelele ukupenda? Isibonelo, namuhla ingane ayikho imizwa noma ayizwa kahle, mhlawumbe manje ufuna ukwenza ezinye izinto ngaphezulu kwalokhu.
Noma kunjalo, lokhu kungaba yinye noma kabili, kodwa kuthiwani uma ingane ingathandi ukupenda noma iyenqaba njalo? Lapha, yebo, kunezinye izizathu lapho sidinga ukuyiqonda.
Kukhona isizathu esinjalo sokuthi ingane ayifuni ukudweba ku-tutemu ukuthi iyabuzwa, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu omdala engazange azame ukukhathalela ingane nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Abazali njalo bathumela ingane ukuba yenze okuthile, futhi ungahlali, isibonelo, eduze kwe-TV. Abantu abadala bathi baqhuma: "Hamba uthole okuthile okuwusizo, upende okungenani!" Nokho, ingane ayiqondi ukuthi kungani ephazamiseka kulokho akwenzayo manje, ukuze uhambe amapensela namaflamasters?
Lapho izingane zidwetshwe enkulisa, othisha kufanele bafike ngezikhathi ezithile zokudlala, ezijabulisayo nezamangalisa, kodwa abahlale bekwazi ukuheha ingane.
Isibonelo, uma uthisha ethi kubantfwana: "I-bunny encane isifikile kithi, masidonse isanqante!", Khona-ke lokhu akunakwenzeka ukuba nesithakazelo izingane. Uma ngisho uthisha oqeqeshiwe engeke abe nesithakazelo esihlokweni esithize somculo, abazali ngeke baphumelele nakakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, izingane azifuni ukudweba ngoba azitholi into enhle ukudweba noma ngenxa yokuthi abaqiniseki ngamandla abo. Abantwana abanjalo banqabe noma yikuphi ukunikezwa komdwebo, ngaphezu kwalokho, njalo baqala ukukhala. Futhi sonke isikhathi lapho bethi la mazwi: "Anginalutho lokuzuza! Angazi kanjani! ".
Ukuze okungenani ngandlela-thile uxazulule le nkinga noma okungenani i-smootheneee, udinga ukuhlala eceleni kwe-crumb futhi umbonise ukuthi udweba kanjani noma ubonise abanye abamukeli abasha. Mhlawumbe uzozama ngisho nokuchaza ingane ukuthi awuzidwebi kahle, kodwa uyayithanda. Ngakho ingane ingakwazi ukuzola ngokushesha bese isula izinyembezi, ngokucophelela futhi ngokuzithoba uthathe ipensela noma ibhulashi bese uqala ukudweba, futhi imidwebo ngeke ibe yimbi kunabanye abantwana.
Izingane ezinjalo, ziyakwazi ukudweba, ziyesaba ukuthi ngeke ziphumelele. Ucabanga ukuthi imisebenzi yakhe izohlekwa ezinye izingane noma ngisho nabantu abadala, futhi mhlawumbe aze amangaze ngenxa yokuhluleka kwe-karakuli.
Ngokuvamile, izingane zizethemba kakhulu ngamakhono azo futhi zilungele zonke izinhlobo zezenzo nokuxhaphazwa. Uma, isibonelo, cela ingane: "Ungakwazi yini ukuhamba ngendiza?" Noma "Ungakwazi yini ukwakha indlu?", Khona-ke, omncane uzophendula: "Yebo!". Zonke izingane ezincane ziqiniseka ukuthi zingenza konke, ngisho noma empeleni azizange zizame ukwenza lokho.
Kodwa-ke, uma imiphumela yengane ingeke ihlale iheha, ngeke ibe yinto engathandeki noma ingaphezu kokungatholi ukubuyekezwa okuhle kakhulu, khona-ke ngokuqinisekile uzoyeka imisebenzi yakhe futhi ngeke afune ukuphinde abhale. Mhlawumbe, ngeke babonise isifiso futhi bazoqala ukwenza umsebenzi wokuthayipha, hhayi ukuzama nhlobo, omdala empeleni ngeke aneliseke ngomsebenzi wakhe.
Kunesizathu esisodwa sokwenqaba ukudweba, okuhlangene kakhulu lapho kuqhathaniswa nalabo abedlule. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu uhlukile futhi wonke umuntu unemicabango yakhe nezinkolelo zakhe. Kukhona futhi izingane ezinjalo ezingathandi ukudweba - abathandi ukuzenza. Ngisho noma kuhle kakhulu ukuzama ukunxusa ingane, ngeke avume, ngoba, isibonelo, uyathanda ukufunda izincwadi nokuqoqa amapuzzli amakhulu.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma ingane yami ilungile ukupenda?
- Akukho lutho!
Lokhu kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyoba ngcono uma ungayigodli ingane yakho ngalokho okufunayo noma okuthandayo. Shiya ingane yedwa futhi ube nethuba lokuzibandakanya futhi uhlanganyele kulokho akuthandayo. Ngesinye isikhathi ungamnika ucezu wephepha nopende noma amapensela, kodwa hhayi ukuphikelela nokungaxhomeki kumntwana. Mhlawumbe emva kwesikhathi ingane izobonisa isithakazelo ekudwebeni, futhi mhlawumbe lokhu ngeke kwenzeke. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abadala bathanda izinto ezithile, isibonelo, abesifazane abaningi abathandi ukupheka nhlobo. Ngisho noma njalo unikeza izincwadi zokupheka futhi uchaze zonke izinzuzo zokupheka, awukwazi ukuthanda ukupheka.
Nokho, emntwaneni ngamunye ungavusa isithakazelo nothando ngesikhalazo, udinga nje isifiso futhi, isikhathi-ke, isikhathi.
Ungazama kanjani ukuvusa uthando lomntwana lokudweba?
Kulesi simo, into esemqoka ukukwenza ngendlela efanele futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiba yini ukwesaba futhi ungabonisi ukungajabuli kwakho. Yazi ukuthi izingane zethu zixhunywe nathi nipsihologicheski, ngakho-ke sizizwe njalo imizwa yethu, futhi uma uqala ukuzwa noma ukwethuka, khona-ke lokho okuzokwenza kube nakho kuyisimo sengqondo esibi.
Ukugxilisa uthando lomntwana lokudweba, kungenzeka ukuthi uzame amasu angavumelani. Isibonelo, qala ukudweba ngokusebenzisa ama-stencil, ukudweba ngeminwe yakho noma ukufafaza ngemibala. Nikela ingane lokho akuthandayo kakhulu, ngakho-ke, lapho kuvela khona isimo sengqondo.
Uma ingane ingathandi ukudweba, ke ungaphoqeleli. Vele unikeze, kodwa unobtrusively. Uma i-crock yenqaba kanye, bese okwesibili akufanele iphinde iphinde iphinde iphakanyiswe ukwenza enye into.
Uma ingane iqala ukudweba ngokuzumayo, ungamkhathazi. Abantu abaningi abadala baqala ukulungisa ingane, bekhuphuka ngezeluleko zabo, ukuthi bangalungisa kanjani okuthile. Yiba ngaphezulu okugcinwe. Vumela umntwana athole njengoba enza. Uma ngokuzumayo uphazamiseka kakhulu ngotshani obomvu noma inja enemilenze eyisishiyagalombili, bese uchitha kule ndaba ingxoxo nengane, kodwa emva kokuba eseqedile ukudweba.
Ungenzi amazwana! Konke okubonakala kubonakala kungalungile futhi kungenjalo, i-kid ibonakala ijwayelekile futhi kufanele ibe. Qala ngemibuto. Uma ingane ibonisa isithombe sayo, buza ukuthi kungani wayibhala ngaleyo ndlela. Mhlawumbe udweba utshani obukhula nabafokazi, futhi inja ayiyena inja, kodwa isidalwa sezingane esingazihlangani ekuphileni kwakho kwansuku zonke.
Ungakhohlwa ukubonga njalo ingane yakho, ngoba kubaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, khumbula ukuthi izingane ziyazi kahle, ngakho-ke dumisa lezo zikhathi ozithandayo, into ekhishwe kahle.
Uma ulandela imithetho enjalo elula, ungafaka intshisekelo yengane kwezobuciko.
Kunoma yikuphi, uma ingane ingakafaneli ukudweba, zibuze umbuzo, uthanda ukuzithobisa kakhulu ???