Nakuba, ngobuqotho enhliziyweni, ngifuna ukusho lokho ngenxa yezinye iziphambeko, sigcina amehlo ethu: ngoba kuwo wonke umuntu ungathola into ongayithola iphutha ngayo. Okubi kakhulu kwesimiso sethu sezinzwa kanye nokuzethemba kwethu ngokujwayelekile ukuthola ngaphansi kwe-mask of "ekahle" i-pacifier. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane anemibuzo eminingi, ukuthi angahlukanisa kanjani umuntu "owenziwe"? Ungayibona kanjani njenge-pacifier? Futhi yini okufanele uyenze neyunithi yezocansi ezinamandla, okwenzeka ukuba kube yizero? Yilokhu okushiwo isihloko sethu.
Umnikazi wenkathi yomoya
Umehluko omkhulu phakathi komuntu wesilisa ungumuntu ongathintekiyo wokuvela futhi ubheke kangcono (ohlakaniphile, okhangayo, othakazelisayo, ocebileyo, njll) kunokuba eqinisweni. Umuntu onjalo, njengengane encane, uthanda ukuziqhenya ngamapumelelo, ngisho nokuthobeka noma okuphelele. Endabeni yokukhipha umthombo wefantasy, uyakha azungeze udonga lwemfihlakalo. Kuyinto yabesifazane besifazane abangenayo ukuthi bangakwazi ukuvela ngezidingo ezilindelekile: ukunqoba ebusweni bokuthandana, kanye nomsebenzi wakhe, nehhashi elimhlophe elinokuvala.
Yiqiniso, abantu abanjalo bangakwazi ukuhambisana nesithombe somuntu onomuntu onokuzikhethela, okwenziwe izingubo, okuzohlanganiswa ngokuqinisekile ngokuhambisana nokufaneleka kwakhe okubalulekile. Ngoba uziqhenya ngezinto angenayo ngempela: imoto yakhe, ingcebo noma ipasipoti, ungakwazi ukuyifunda kalula. Ufuna ukwazi kahle ukuthi yenzani? Ngengozi, mvakashele emsebenzini! Wena, eqinisweni, uzobona lapho "pacifier", okuyinto ethatha ibhulukwe, ngesikhathi sabo sokuphumula abantu abanjalo ngokuvamile "hang" in social. amanethiwekhi, ngakho-ke angabangeli ukuthembela okukhulu kubaphathi bawo futhi angaboni ekukhanyeni okuhle kakhulu. Ehhovisi uhlala ezingeni eliphakathi, akukho lutho olungavamile emisebenzini yakhe, kodwa abantu abanjalo bakholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi wakhe uyathandeka futhi kubalulekile. Ngokuvamile, kufanele kuvunywe ukuthi "i-dummy" ngencazelo ayinayo i-intelligence ne-intelligence.
Inkinga ehlukile idinga umbuzo wemali. Ngenxa yezizathu ezicacile, abanakho, ngakho-ke ngeke kusimangaze ukuthi uma ngezigaba zokuqala zokuthandana uzohamba epaki yasebusika, hamba lezi zikhangayo, ujabulele umoya omusha we-frosty, ukubukwa komthando, ingxoxo engapheli elula. Izindawo zokudlela zokuqala kanye nezimbali ezivela kuso azikwazi ukulinda. Ngokuvamile umkhawulo unye rose, amathikithi ambalwa we-movie kanye ne-popcorn.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuba uqaphele i-dummy yindoda ngombhalo onjenge-dreaminess - uhlala evula isikhwama esikhwameni esingaphili. Uhlala ehlela ibhizinisi lakhe namaphupho, emva kwezinyanga ezingu-6 uzoba umgidi. Uzobeka kalula amazwe angama-12 nezindawo zokungcebeleka, lapho uzohamba naye khona. Futhi, emva konyaka, lapho uthola isithakazelo kuye, uma uhamba ngamathikithi, "i-dummy" izokunika izizathu ezigidini, abantu kanye nemicimbi evimbela ukukhishwa kwamasu akhe amakhulu kakhulu.
Isibonakaliso sokugcina se "dummy" singabizwa ngokuthi isimo sakhe sengqondo kuwe, nesimiso sabesifazane. Ngokuqinisekile, izindebe zakhe zihlabelela ngothando olungenamkhawulo, ubuhle, kodwa akukho lutho olungalandela la mazwi! Uthembisa ukuthi izinkanyezi ezivela esibhakabhakeni, amadayimane, zonke izibusiso zomhlaba, ziqinisekisa ukusiza endlini nokusekelwa okuthembekile, ngokungangabazeki ufunga ukwethembeka. Kodwa uma sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isenzo, senza njengesihlahla, ongenakukwazi ukuhlala isikhathi eside esimweni esiphuthumayo noma esimweni sasekhaya. Izenzo zakhe zonke zizofakazela ukuthi noma yikuphi inkinga izowela emahlombe akho abuthakathaka. Ngenxa yalokho, cabanga ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuba uthathe ukuphila nommeleli wesilisa onjalo. Esikhathini esizayo, uma unabantwana, i-mortgage, ibhizinisi elihlangene, uzokwazi yini ukuphakamisa umthwalo ongenakubekezeleka wedwa?
Uhlu lwe "crash tests" lwabantu abanjalo
Masixoxe ngakho konke okushiwo ngenhla bese sinquma ukuhlolwa kwakho okuthandayo ukuthi adlule ngaphambi kokuba ubhalise ubuhlobo bakho futhi uzosusa isisindo sesikhulu.
- Ukusebenza komsebenzi nokusebenza kwezezimali. Ngokungokwemvelo asifuni ukufakazela ukuthi lezi "zikhulu" zithola umholo ongaphezu kuka $ 10,000 ngenyanga. Ngokuvamile, zonke izibalo zihlobene. Kubalulekile ukuthi uqondiswe yilapho umlingani wakho ehlala khona emkhakheni wezemisebenzi, ukubheka izinhloso azibeka yena nokuthi yini akwenzayo ekusebenziseni kwazo - lezi yizona ndlela ezihlukanisa i-parasite evela e-megalomania evela kumuntu othola imali yangempela.
- Inani lamacebo, amaphupho kanye nezenzo zangempela. Uma insizwa yakho ikhuluma kuphela futhi yenza amapulani, khona-ke uvele nje nge-pogor ne-braggart. Ikhudlwana idijithi yokugcina, ingcono. Ngendlela, kunoma yiluphi udaba lwe-your down down, hlukanisa "ama-noodle" avela kumaqiniso. Thina, besifazane, njengoba siyazi, bathanda izindlebe, kodwa udinga ukukhetha umngane impilo, ubuchopho nenhliziyo.
- Kunoma yisiphi isimo sinokwethenjelwa. Ikhono lokuphendula ngamagama akho yilona uphawu oluyinhloko lomuntu. Uma ethi uyothatha umshini ekuhlanzeni okomile futhi akwenze ngaphambi kokukhumbuza isikhulu sakho - lo ngumfundi ofanelekayo. Uthatha ingxenye eqondile emfundweni yabantwana futhi empeleni kukusiza ekhaya - kakhulu! Uma uqala naye, ngisho nento elula, futhi uthatha iningi lemithwalo yemfanelo nemithwalo yemfanelo - kulokhu unenhlanhla! Kumuntu okwazi ukwenza ngezandla zombili!
- Uma uveza konke okungenhla ngegama elilodwa, kuzozwakala kanje: "umuntu oyedwa" uhlukaniswa negobolondo lokufakelwa elidalwe nguye, ukuphikisana nomloli nokuntuleka okuphelele kokuqukethwe ngaphakathi.
Ekuphethweni ..
Uma wena, emva kokufunda izinga lethu eliyisibonelo (noma, ngokunembile, ukungabi nalutho), waqaphela ngokukwesaba: Nkulunkulu wami, yilokho indoda yami efana nayo ikwenzayo, kanjani? Uma ngokuphazima kweso, ke ulahle izinto ezingenasidingo nezingadingekile ekhaya. Ngokwemvelo, indoda, isikhathi eside emihlanganweni yakho, iyilutha, inothando futhi inesidingo sayo, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi awusona ingane, uyaqonda kahle ukuthi awukwazi ukwakha ikusasa lomuntu onjalo. Ukuqeda ubuhlobo kungcono ekuqaleni, kuze kube yilapho isihawu sakho se "dummy" sesibe sesinye into. Kukhona amadoda amaningi angempela emhlabeni, aqinile, ahlakaniphile, athembekile! Kumelwe sizithande futhi sikholelwe ukuthi ufanelwe okuhle kakhulu! Njengoba bethi, imicabango inempahla yokwakha!