Noma kunjalo, namadoda ajwayelekile, mhlawumbe injabulo! Lokhu akusho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukubekezelela ukwehluleka kwabo ngokwesaba ukushiywa yedwa. Izidingo eziphezulu kubantu abesilisa ohlukile zikhona kithi ngokwemvelo: ukukhetha umlingani, sichaza ngokucophelela uyise wezingane zethu, okusho ukuthi kumele abe nempilo, esebenzayo, enomusa, enomthwalo wemfanelo, enokwethenjelwa ... Abaningi balinganisa indoda ekahle kumfazi omuhle ngalezi zimingcele intuitively, ngaphandle kokutadisha irekhodi lakhe lezokwelapha kanye nesitifiketi esivela emsebenzini wakhe.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlola "ukushada" kwalowo ozobhalwa yiyo kuphela amahora ambalwa okuxhumana. Isigaba sesibili sokuthi "ukuxilongwa" sisuka ezinyangeni eziningana kuya ngonyaka futhi kuqukethe ukuhlola uhlamvu lomkhethiweyo. "Ungase ucabange ukuthi ngithanda ama-roses, hhayi ama-carnations" noma "Ngangibuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa awuzange uqaphele!" - kumadoda wonke lokhu kubonakala sengathi akukho okungaqondakali. Eqinisweni, abameleli bobulili obuhle baziphatha ngalendlela ngendlela enhle kakhulu: kuyadingeka ukuthi banqume ukuthi umuntu angakwazi yini ukuzidela ngenxa yabathandekayo bakhe? Ingabe indoda ehlekazi yowesifazane omuhle isondele, akunandaba ngani? Ngakho uhlelo lokhetho lwabesifazane lusebenza.
Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi, akukho ndoda ebonakalayo ekahle yowesifazane omuhle engabhekwa njengelungile - wonke umuntu uneziphambeko "ezingavumelani" nomshado.
Amashadi asemthethweni
"Akunamadoda avamile," kusho umlobokazi omdala. "Kukhona ukwehluleka ohlelweni lokukhetha abesifazane," kusho izazi zengqondo. Futhi izizathu zalokhu ukungasebenzi kahle zihlukile.
Isifo sezinkanyezi
Akudingekile ukuba ube umqoqo womncintiswano wokuhle noma umnqobi wokuthola umklomelo we-"Discover of the Year" - ukugula okuvela kwenkanyezi kuvela ekubuntwaneni, lapho indodakazi ingakhonjiswanga nje kuphela - ihlonishwa. "Ungumuntu omuhle kunazo zonke futhi ohlakaniphile kithi," - ukuphinda lokhu njengesipelingi, izihlobo zenza le ntombazana ukuthi kunabantu abaningi emhlabeni abangenakufanelekela ngempela. Cishe konke! Le ntombazane idinga ukuthandana, kodwa lo mlingani ubona ehlushwa kakhulu. Ekugcineni, unquma ukuthi: "Cha, angikwazi ukubekezelela izimfanelo zakhe." Ngifaneleka kangcono, "futhi uyaqhubeka efuna indoda yakhe ekahle ngowesifazane omuhle.
Ukuzethemba okuphansi
Izindlela eziqondile eziphikisayo zokukhulelwa nazo zingaholela emphumela ofanayo. Intombazane engakaze ifundiswe ukuzithandayo, iyesaba ukuba nobuhlobo nendoda. Uyesaba konke ukuphila kwakhe ukuthi angashiywa, akhohlisiwe, ayeke ukuthanda. Futhi lokhu kuyabuhlungu kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ukungazi lutho kwakhe kudala indlela yokuzivikela - ukucinga amaphutha kumuntu ofanelekayo wesifazane omuhle. Uma nje owesifazane ezwa ukuthi uqala ukuzwa ngokomzwelo kumlingani wakhe, ukwesaba ukushiywa kuyasebenza ngokwengeziwe futhi kumenze avikeleke: "Angikwazi ukujabula nendoda e ..." - futhi uyaqeda ubuhlobo.
Intukuthelo
Ngesinye isikhathi wayengenanhlanhla namadoda. Futhi, mhlawumbe, ukudumazeka kokuqala kwaletha uyise. Indodakazi ingase ingakhumbuli izingxabano zabazali bayo, kodwa ifunda ukuthi unina nomkhulu babemtshele njalo ukuthi: "Bonke abantu bayizimpongo!" Intombazane ikhula ekuqaleni ekumelaneni namadoda. Kakade kusukela ngesikhathi sokuzijwayeza, akabheki ezimfanelweni ezinhle, kodwa ezimbi. Ungalokothi uthi: "Indoda enjalo epholile!" noma "Ngavele ngilahlekile ikhanda lami!" - ngoba kungenakuphika ngamabomu. Kwenzeka ukuthi nazo zonke izimangalo zakhe zisaqhubeka zishade, zibeletha ingane, bese ziqala ukuthola iphutha kumyeni wayo ngazo zonke izindlela, zimphoqele ukuba zihambe. Futhi lapho ehamba, unqoba: empeleni, umuntu akanakuthembela emadodeni! Uthando lokuqala olungaphumelelanga noma ukuhlukana okubuhlungu, nakho, kungabangela ukuba impilo igcine izidingo ezifakwe kumlingani. Ngakho-ke, lezi zinhlobo zabesifazane zihlala sonke isikhathi zifuna umuntu ofanelekayo wesifazane omuhle.
Imvelo ephakanyisiwe
Iningi labantu lamukela iqiniso ukuthi ngokushesha noma kamuva isigaba sokuqala sobudlelwane bomshado siqhubeka. Kukhona izingxabano, inhlanhla, izinkinga zansuku zonke, kodwa abashadile bathola i-charm eyinqaba ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Kodwa abantu abanezici eziphakeme badinga iholidi ejwayelekile. Amantombazane aloluhlobo alukwazi nje ukuhlala nomlingani wabo uma behlushwa yilo: ukucasula wonke amagama, yonke into! Njengomthetho, omama abancane abathandayo ababheki ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga yabo siqu. Baqala ukufuna umuntu ofanelekayo wesifazane omuhle kabusha, futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi umdlandla uthathelwe indawo yizinkanuko.
Umfowenu omncane
Yebo, ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka, yiphutha lakhe. Indodakazi endala emndenini ivame ukukhanga ukunakekela umfowabo omncane. Ngakho-ke ezingeni elingenakuqaphela ukuthi abafana kudingeka bahlale bebukele, bawadonsa phansi, bafundise ingqondo. Uqala ukubheka amadoda njengothisha wamakilasi amancane-amasheya wesibili. Ukuthambekela kwakhe kokufundisa kuveza indlela efanele yokuziphatha, ithoni yezwi, ngisho ne-shazi. Ikakhulukazi ecasulayo kumuntu yinto umfowabo omncane ejeziswa ngayo esemncane. Isibonelo, "udade osekhulile" angakwazi ukuhlukanisa uG nomuntu kuphela ngenxa yokuthi uphonsa amasokisi, noma ngabe ukuphi noma ugoqa emaceleni emakhasini encwadini.
Ephuphuthelwe yilokho okwakukhona
Kodwa-ke, akubalulekile kakhulu ukuthi kungani bekuyisifiso sokuhlangana noMnu Perfection. Into eyinhloko ukuthi lesi sifiso singakwazi ukunqoba (futhi kufanele) sinqobe - ngoba ukuphelela akukwenzeka emvelweni. Ngisho nesikhulu sasinezinganekwane, kuzoba khona amaphutha afanayo njengendoda evamile. Awufuni ukuchitha konke ukuphila kwakho yedwa? Kufanele unciphise ibha yezimfuneko.
Ukukhetha umlingani wesikhathi esizayo empilweni, kubalulekile ukugxila kulowo ongakaze afakaze izimfanelo ezinhle futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, uyakuthanda, futhi konke okunye ... yenza ngokwakho! Yebo, yebo! Njengengoma ingoma: "Ngangimphuphuthekisile kulokho okwakukhona, bese-ke okwakunjani, bese-ke sithandana," - isiqondiso esihle kakhulu sokusebenza!
Maka konke okuhle, ukusebenzelana nendoda, ngokuyisisekelo, ejabulisa kuwe. Yini, kufanele uvale ngokuphelele amehlo akho ezinkimbisweni? Cha, kungcono ukuwaphatha ngendlela engavamile. Lokhu akukhiyi izimangalo zakho namazwana, nje iphutha ngeke liphazamise umqondo womuntu.
Hlala ukhumbula engozini eyakuvumela ukuba ucabange kahle ngalowo muntu. Ngokushesha nje lapho ucabanga: "Nkulunkulu wami, indlela engihlala ngayo nalokhu ... Futhi amasokisi ahlakazekile yonke indlu!" - khumbulani ngokushesha into enhle. Khumbula ngokuningiliziwe: izinzwa, imisindo kanye nephunga, bheka izinto ezikhumbuza umzuzu omuhle. Ukuzivocavoca kusekelwe ohlelweni lwe-neurolinguistic - lusebenza nakanjani. Umngane futhi uphinde waba yindabuko futhi oyifunayo.
Thola isizathu
Ngokujwayelekile konke okuhle umuntu akwenzayo, siyabona njengendlela evamile, futhi kumaphutha esiwagxile kulo. Zama ukuchazela izenzo ezimbi ngenhlanganisela engalungile yezimo, kodwa uhloniphe abantu abalungile njalo ngangokunokwenzeka!
Izimangalo ezivulekile ziyasiza - zisisiza ukuba siqonde kangcono. Abantu bangakwazi ukuhlangana ndawonye uma isilinganiso sobuciko obuhle nabangalungile singaba ngu-5: 1. Futhi isilinganiso sezimangalo sinye. Namuhla usubongile kakade izikhathi zakho ezinhlanu ezithembekile? Khona-ke isikhathi esisodwa nawe ungasolisa.
Indoda ekahle yowesifazane omuhle akuyona into engafani. Dumisani futhi mthande umlingani wakho, ngisho noma engayifanele ngempela. Ngokuvamile ngangokunokwenzeka, tshela umuntu ukuthi unomusa kakhulu, unomusa, unakekela. Isikhathi esincane - futhi uzoba njalo.
Amadoda amanengi aqaphela ukusilela kwabo begodu akanakho okuphikisana namazwi. Indoda iyokwenza lokho okufunayo: kufanele nje ufake izifiso zakho zibe ngamazwi akhonkolo - abaziqondi "izicabha" ezicashile. Bangakwazi, isibonelo, ukubheka udoti kungagcwalisa futhi awuqondi ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokusikhuthazelela. Ngitshele! Futhi konke kuzokwenziwa ngokukhululekile.
Amadoda angenakwenzeka mayelana nokuguqulwa kwemikhuba yomuntu siqu. Ngenxa yabathandekayo, balungele ukushintsha, futhi kunoma yisiphi isikhathi! Ungesabi ukungapheleli kwesilisa - dala indoda yakho ekahle ngowesifazane omuhle.