Ubudlova emindeni bubathinteka kakhulu abesifazane nabantwana. Ukuvikela umama, izingane zingathola ngaphansi kwesandla esishisayo. Ngokwezibalo, abesifazane babehlose udlame ezingaphezu kwama-70% amacala.
Ngokuvamile, abesifazane banamahloni okukhuluma ngezikhathi ezifanayo zokuphila kwabo emndenini noma kubangane, ngakho umbuzo wokucindezela emndenini uvele usuvele lapho umfazi esenakekelwa ngokujulile ngenxa yokushaywa, noma oshade naye uthinte ingane kanzima. Kuyadabukisa, kodwa izenzo ezinjalo kuphela ezinomthelela ngandlela-thile zingaletha owesifazane ekhanda futhi zimsize ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuzivikela yena nabantwana.
Kodwa-ke, enombolweni enkulu yamacala anjalo, abafazi baqhubeka bebekezelela isimo sengqondo esinjalo, bebonisa ukungahambi ngamagama - "kuqukethe nathi", "lokhu kuyindawo yakhe yokuphila", "ingane idinga ubaba", futhi kukhona izizathu ezimbi kakhulu - "ukushaywa kusho ukuthanda." Kungaba okuthakazelisayo ukubuka emehlweni omuntu ocabanga ukuthi uzoza nalokhu.
Ukuguqula ikhodi lobugebengu kungamangalisa, ngoba akucaci ukuthi ubani ovikelayo, uma umfazi nezingane behlala bengavimbelwe ukuhlukumeza ekhaya ngumyeni wakhe nobaba. Ikhodi inikeza isijeziso uma kwenzeka ukuthi udlame luyisidumbu, kepha uma ilungu lomndeni, iziphathimandla azikwazi ukwenza noma yini. Bhekisela eqinisweni ukuthi lezi yizinkinga zasemakhaya, futhi umndeni ungaziveza wona. Yebo, amalungu omndeni ngokwawo ayaqonda kuze kube yilapho umuntu ethunyelwa kwelinye izwe.
Abesifazane abaningi abanesifiso sokuthola uhlobo oluthile lokuzivikela bona kanye nezingane zabo, aboni nanoma iyiphi enye indlela yokuphuma, indlela yokubulala umonile. Ngokuvamile, njalo isikhathi sokuzama ukushayela i-ejensi yokuphoqelela umthetho akupheli lutho. Ngisho noma lowo owehlayo uthathwa esikhungweni se-remand, sisakhululwa ngemuva kwesikhathi.
Into ehlaba umxhwele kakhulu ukuthi uma owesifazane, ngokwemithetho yonke, ephumelela ekutholeni inkantolo, umuntu kufanele unikeze ubufakazi kuphela, futhi lowo owenze iphutha uyobe esenqatshelwe inkululeko isikhathi eside, futhi ngeke esakwazi ukumhleka usulu kanye nezingane, kodwa cha! Owesifazane unesihawu ngomlingani wakhe onganaki "Ungaba kanjani ompofu ngaphandle kokudla kwasekhaya? Uyothola izifo eziningi lapho! " Njengoba abe nesihawu, oshade naye ucela isigwebo esinemibandela, noma wenqabe isicelo ngokuphelele, futhi ngemva kokukhululwa isimo emndenini asishintshi.
Izikhungo ze-Crisis zivula ngokwengeziwe ukusiza ezimweni ezinjalo, kodwa inombolo yabo namanje ayikwazi ukufinyelela kubo bonke abesifazane abadinga usizo. Futhi ongoti bale phrofayli asanelutho. Yini engenziwa ukuze kuvinjelwe ukuhleka okunjalo?
Ngingazi tape ebomvu, ngizohlala eSochi. Udlame phezu komkakhe luqala ngezigaba eziningana. Okokuqala, le ndoda imbuka kahle, ikhuluma amazwi amathenda, inikeza izimbali zezimbali nezinto. Bese kulandela umshado ojabulisayo, labo abasanda kushada bavutha injabulo futhi akukho lutho kodwa uthando. Okulandelayo ukuzalwa kwengane. Emva kwalesi sigaba, umuntu kufanele abone kakade ushintsho esimweni sengqondo nokuziphatha kwabathembekile.
Embhangqwana yokuqala, indoda iyabacasula, ingathuka, ishaye izitsha. Izimbangela zokuthukuthela zingahluka - isobho akufanele ukunambitha, isikhathi asizange sigeze amasokisi, singasuswa esidlekeni semindeni.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isikhundla sayo yisigaba sesibili. Lapha, indoda ingabamba izandla ngakho, phonsa.
Isigaba sesithathu sibonakala ukuthi ukuhlaselwa kuba inzuzo yansuku zonke empilweni yakho yomndeni. Ngokuhlala njalo, kukhona okwenzekayo. Ngemuva kwanoma yisiphi isenzo sobudlova, umlingani onganaki ucela ukuthethelelwa, aguqe futhi afunge ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi isikhathi sokugcina. Owesifazane uthethelela futhi ngosuku olulandelayo ukhokhela ngokushaywa okusha.
Ngaso sonke isikhathi isikhathi sokuphinda script kanye nemithetho siba namandla.
Uma umyeni eshaya umkakhe, khona-ke kunendlela eyodwa kuphela eqinisekile yokuphuma kwalesi simo. Lesi yisigaba sokuqala noma sesibili sokuqonda ekuziphatheni komfazi wodlame bese ushiya. Ukuthola isinyathelo esinzima kunzima kakhulu esigabeni sokuqala, uma owesifazane ethola izizathu zalokhu - lokhu kuziphatha kungenziwa ngenxa yosuku olukhuni lokusebenza, ubudlelwane obunzima nezihlobo, ubunzima bezezimali, njll. Owesifazane ucabanga ngalezi zindaba, ukuthi kudingekile ukuba aphile futhi konke kuzoba okufanayo. Futhi nganoma yikuphi ukuzama ukuhamba, lo wesifazane uzoshaywa ngokushesha ngezimbali, amehlo azinikezele ngezinyembezi azobukeka, athi "uthethelele", futhi owesifazane ngeke akwazi ukumelana naye. Ngokuvamile isimo esifanayo sibonakala esigabeni sesibili.
Abesifazane bathola izizathu zokuziphatha kobudlova komyeni wakhe, ukuvala amehlo akhe ekuqapheliseni ukuthi izinto ngeke zithole okungcono, kodwa zimbi nakakhulu. Kuthiwani uma umyeni eshaya umkakhe futhi kukhona indlela yokuvikela izingane kanye nabo?
Izingane aziqabukeli izizathu eziyiqiniso abazali abafunga zona, bafuna into eyodwa kuphela - ukuthi ubaba nomama baphile ngokuthula futhi bangamemeza. Kodwa uma bebona ukuthi isimo sobudlova sivele phambi kwamehlo abo, bazohlale bevikela ohlangothini olubhekene nobudlova. Lapho nje ingane izama ukuvikela umama wayo, ezama ukuzikhandla ekulweni, ingakwazi ukuphonswa ngokushesha kwenye indawo egumbini. Imiphumela yalokhu - abafana bakhula nenkinga enkulu, ukuthi abakwazi ukuvikela noma ubani kulokhu kuphila, futhi amantombazane agwema ukushada.
Uma ukuphikisana kuvuthwa, kubalulekile ukugwema izakhiwo ezinjalo, lapho izingxenyana eziwubuwula nezizinto ezibukhali zingatholakala. Futhi gwema ukugeza kanye nekhishi. Njalo ugcine iqembu elilodwa lamakhikhi avela efulethini nasemotweni ukuze ukwazi ukuphuma endlini noma nini bese ushiya. Hlala endaweni ephephile ipasipoti yakho, imali edingekayo nanoma yimiphi imibhalo ongayidinga ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho. Sincoma ukuthi uhlele nezihlobo noma abangane ukuthi bangakunikeza ukukhoseliswa kwamacala anjalo. Noma iyiphi idatha engase ikhombise indawo yakho kufanele ibhujiswe. Khuluma nabomakhelwane bakho ukuthi uma bezwa umsindo nomsindo ovela endlini yakho, vumela ngokushesha bacele amaphoyisa.
Ezimweni lapho umyeni eshaya umkakhe, akuzona njalo umuntu osola. Ngesikhathi lo wesifazane evumela ukuba kwenzeke izinto ezinjalo zendlu, isimo ngeke sishintshe esikhathini esizayo. Kodwa-ke, kwezinye izimo ngisho nezingane azikwazi ukuba nesisusa esanele sokubalekela kumuntu onjalo.
Ayikho amaphoyisa, abantu noma umthetho awukwazi ukuvikela owesifazane ekushayweni, aze azimisele ukuzivikela. Futhi owesifazane kuphela onganquma umphumela walezo zenzakalo. Futhi ngokugcwele kuphela owesifazane, kuncike ukuthi ngabe ingane izokhula yini into efana neyakho noma ayikho. Phela, ungakhohlwa ukuthi isimo esinjalo sobudlova sinezizathu zayo.