Igama elithi "ukuxhumana" livela egameni elithi "jikelele". Ingane iqala ukuxhumana nabantu abadala. Ukuxhumana kwalolu hlobo kunethonya elikhulu hhayi kuphela ekuthuthukiseni kwengqondo yengane, kodwa futhi ekuthuthukiseni ngokomzimba. Izinhlobo eziningana zokuxhumana zingaqashelwa. Isibonelo, ekukhulumisaneni kwezenhlalakahle kuqondwa njengendlela yokugcina isimo sezinga lesimiso sezenhlalakahle zomphakathi, okungukuthi, ngokwezinga lapho ubuhlobo phakathi komphakathi nomuntu bubonakala khona. Futhi kusukela endaweni yokucabanga kwengqondo, ukukhulumisana ukugcina ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu. Ukuxhumana kungukuxhumana kwabantu ababili noma ngaphezulu abanomgomo ofanayo, okungukuthi, ukusungula ubuhlobo. Noma yimuphi umuntu uzama ukwazi nokuwazisa abanye abantu. Ngalesi sizathu, unethuba lokuzivocavoca.
Ukuxhumana nabantu abadala kunendima ebalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ingane. Ungaziphatha kanjani lapho ekhuluma nabantu abadala. Imisebenzi ephakeme kakhulu yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo esikhungweni sokuqala isakhiwe ngaphandle ngaphandle komuntu oyedwa kodwa ababili noma ngaphezulu bahlanganyela ekubunjweni kwayo. Futhi kuphela lapho beba ngaphakathi. Ezinganeni ezincane, ukukhulumisana nabantu abadala kuyincwadi yokuhlola, inzwa neminye imithombo eminingi yethonya. Ingane kule minyaka ihlala ilandela imisebenzi yabantu abadala futhi izama ukulingisa konke ukunyakaza kwabo. Kwabaningi, abazali ngokwabo baxoshwa.
Kunezindlela eziningi zokuxhumana phakathi kwezingane nabantu abadala. Izingane kufanele ziziphatha kanjani uma zixhumana nabantu abadala? Uma ukungabikho kokuxhumana phakathi kwezingane nabantu abadala kulandelwa, isisindo sokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo sinciphile, ukunyuka kwezifo kuyanda. Futhi uma kungekho ukuxhumana nabantu abadala, izingane zinzima kakhulu ukuba ngabantu futhi zihlale zifana nezilwane, njengeMowgli nabanye. Kodwa-ke, ukukhulumisana phakathi kwezingane nabantu abadala ngezigaba ezahlukene kunomqondo ophawulekayo. Isibonelo, kusukela esemncane ingane iphendula izwi labantu abadala kakhulu kunanoma yimiphi eminye impawu. Uma kungabikho ukuthintana nabantu abadala, ukusabela ekuthintweni okubukwayo nokubukwayo kwehlisa. Isibonelo, emntwaneni, isikhathi sokuqala esikoleni sithathwa njengenkathi lapho isikhala sokuxhumana sithathwa kahle ngokuxhumana nabantu abadala. Kulesi sikhathi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana nabangane kuqala. Uma le ngane idale kahle ukukhulumisana nabantu abadala, khona-ke ngeke kube khona ubuningi bezintambo eziphansi. Isibonelo, uma ehambela, lapho kunabangane abaningi nabantu abadala, uzokwazi ukuziphatha kahle kokubili nabangane kanye nabantu abadala. Futhi lezo zingane ezingenakukhulumisana ngokugcwele nabantu abadala, zingaboni ukunakwa ohlangothini lungaba kanye nabazali. Ngesikhathi seminyaka yesikole, ukukhulumisana nabantu abadala sekusezingeni elihlukile lokuthuthukiswa. Isikole senza imisebenzi emisha yengane. Ukuxhumana kulokhu kukhishwa njengesikole sokuxhumana nabantu. Konke ukuthuthukiswa kwengane kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila kuze kube sekupheleni kokuphila kungukuxhumana. Ekuqaleni ingane ikhuluma nomuntu omdala omdala, bese kuthi inhlalo yakhe yezenhlalakahle ikhula, abantwana baqoqa yonke imininingwane, bahlaziye futhi baphathe ngokucophelela.
Ukukhulumisana okuphelele phakathi kwabantu abadala kanye nezingane kuholela ekuthuthukiseni kwengqondo ngokugcwele kwengane futhi akusizi kuphela inqubo yokuthuthukiswa okulungile nokujwayelekile kwe-psyche, kodwa futhi ingaba "ikhambi lokuphulukisa" uma kwenzeka ukuthuthukiswa kwezakhi zofuzo.
Isibonelo, izingane ezinokuphuza kwengqondo zahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amaningana: ukuhlolwa nokulawula. Lapho beneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, izingane zafakwa ekunakekeleni abesifazane, abanenkinga yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo. Babesezikhungo ezikhethekile. Futhi elinye iqembu lezingane lahlala enqandane. Eminyakeni eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye kamuva, abacwaningi bathola idatha ngesimo sezingane. Amaphesenti angaba yisishiyagalombili neshumi nanhlanu ebantwini beqembu elilawulayo bakwazi ukuqeda isikole, kanti ezine zazo zaba amakolishi. Abaningi baba abantu abazimele futhi begcwele futhi bangakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nokuphila. Amantombazane amaningi asele eqenjini lokuhlola afa, futhi labo abasinda nabo bahlala ezikhungweni ezikhethekile. Ubuntu luyisimiso sezengqondo esivumelwaneni esaphakama phakathi nokuphila kwemisebenzi yabantu futhi senza umsebenzi ohambisana nabantu abakuzungezile. " Ukuxhumana kwezingane nabantu abadala kunezici zayo. Abadala, nabo, banezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuziphatha, izinhlamvu ezahlukene futhi bahlakulele ubuhlobo obuhlukile phakathi kwabo nabantwana. Kukhona amacala uma kungekho uthando lomama, ukufudumala, ngenxa yalokho izingane ezingathembi ngabantu abadala noma ngisho nabantu bonke abakuzungezile. Ngisho nokukhuliswa kahle kwezingane kuxhomeke ekukhulumisaneni. Uma ingane ibona inhlonipho, uthando emndenini, khona-ke ayikwazi ukuziphatha ngokuhlukile lapho ekhuluma nabantu abadala.