Ngokuvamile isahlukaniso siba yilokho okuthiwa icala lomphakathi: imibhangqwana eminingi kufanele ihlukanise nokho hhayi ezindongeni zehhovisi lokubhalisa, kodwa enkantolo. Inqubo yezomthetho yesahlukaniso iqukethe ama-nuances kanye nobuqili bayo, ukwazi ukuthi yikuphi okusemandleni akho okuwenza kube lula ukuphila kwakho esimweni esinjalo. Ungakwazi ukufeza umgomo ngemiphumela encane. Kumelwe uqaphele ngokucacile: ngemuva kokuba isinqumo senkantolo sidluliselwe, asisekho ushintsho. Noma kunjalo, kungenzeka njalo ukuthonya inkambo yenqubo. Lokhu kungenziwa kanjani? Okokuqala, udinga ukubhala isitatimende ngendlela efanele, ngokucacile, ngokusheshisa futhi ngendlela efanele. Okwesibili, kulungile ukuziphatha enkantolo. Lokhu, mhlawumbe, izikhathi ezimbili eziyimpumelelo.
BHALISA ISITATIMENDE
Njengomthetho jikelele, izimangalo zesehlukaniso zenziwa endaweni yokuhlala yangempela yommangalelwa noma enkantolo yesifunda lapho ebhaliswe khona. Ummangalelwa ngumuntu ozohamba naye ukuchitha umshado. Uma ehlala kwenye idolobha noma endaweni yakhe yokuhlala awaziwa, isimangalo sithunyelwa enkantolo endaweni yokuhlala kommangali. Kulesi simo, inkantolo iphoqelekile ukuba ingamukeli nje isitatimende sokumangalelwa, kodwa futhi ukumemezela ukusesha kommangalelwa ngemizimba yezindaba zangaphakathi.
Ukufaka isicelo enkantolo, udinga amadokhumenti alandelayo:
■ Isitatimende sokumangalelwa kwesahlukaniso;
■ isitifiketi somshado;
■ izitifiketi zokuzalwa zezingane (amakhophi kungenzeka);
■ isitifiketi esivela endaweni yokuhlala;
■ isitifiketi esivela endaweni yomsebenzi;
■ Uma bobabili bomshado bevuma ukuhlukanisa, isitatimende esivela kummangali mayelana nemvume yakhe;
■ ukutholakala kokukhokhwa komsebenzi kahulumeni.
Esikhathini esitatimendeni, chaza ngokucacile ukuthi kungani ungahlali ngqo nalomuntu (ukuhlukaniswa, ukungabi nobuhlobo bomshado, ukuba khona "ngaphandle" komunye umndeni, njll).
QALA! IKHASI IYAZA!
Ngakho-ke, wonke amadokhumenti aqoqwe, isicelo sithunyelwe, usuku lomhlangano luqokwa ... Kuncike ekuziphatheni kwakho eseshini yenkantolo. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi uma bekhalaza enkantolo noma besesimweni esiyingozi, inqubo yesehlukaniso iyoba yimpumelelo. Ukuthi lokhu kuzokhipha isinqumo sejaji sokuhlukanisa impahla ngokuyithandayo. Lokhu akunjalo! Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ijaji kufanele lisebenze namaqiniso, futhi kungenjalo ngezimzwelo. Angase acabange nokuthukuthela nokukhala kwakho ngokomzwelo njengomzamo wokumcindezela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo sengqondo sejaji esiningi ngokweqile singabangelwa, njengokungathi kumuntu osebenza kuphela ngamaqiniso, ukusola, noma ngabe unempilo engavamile. Ngokusobala, izincomo "zokuhlala enkambeni yesahlukaniso ngesinqumo senkantolo zizolile futhi zibandayo" ezimweni eziningi akunakwenzeka, ikakhulu uma izingxabano ezibonakalayo ezibalulekile noma ikusasa lezingane lixazululwa. Uma isehlukaniso sidideka, uyesaba ukuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nemizwa yakho futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo une okungenani izinto ezibonakalayo - kungcono ukumema ummeli.
UMPHAKATHI - KUNGANI AKUFUNA
Ukukhetha ummeli kuyinkimbinkimbi kunalokho ongase ucabange ekuboneni kuqala. Yiqiniso, ilungelo lakho, ngokuthuthumela isikhwama sakho, ukumema enye yezinkanyiso zebha ukuqhuba ibhizinisi. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi kuye inqubo yesehlukaniso ngesinqumo senkantolo ngeke kubonakale ingafanelanga ukunakekelwa, uma siqhathanisa nalezo zinqubo ezinzulu ezazikhona emisebenzini yakhe. Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yemali yakho, usengozini yokuthola umsebenzi woku "wehlisela imikhono yakho" kumuntu wommeli. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula: hhayi ummeli obiza kakhulu - hhayi ukuthi awukwazi kahle futhi ongenakwenzeka! Isibonelo, umfundi we-intern (nakuba lokhu, kunjalo, kuyingozi kakhulu) ngemali enkulu kakhulu, impumelelo enkulu ingafinyelelwa. Lowo "umgcini" ngeke abe wesaba, kodwa ngenxa kanembeza "ukumba umhlaba". Isibonelo, kwanele ukukhumbula ummeli-ntombazane ovela kwifilimu ethi "Mimino", owenza lokho okwakungalindelekile kuye. Esimweni esinjalo esicabangekile, ufeze umgomo wakhe, noma kunalokho, umgomo wakhe. Kungcono ukumema ummeli ovela kulokho okubizwa ngezinga eliphakathi: okuhlangenwe nakho okuthile, kodwa hhayi ukuzikhukhumeza, inqubo yakho yesahlukaniso ayibonakali engelutho. Yiqiniso, ummeli kufanele abe ngumphathi oqeqeshiwe. Isimiso esingabalulekile kakhulu ukuthi ngabe uyakwazi yini ukugqugquzela ukuzethemba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyamjabulisa kuwe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukuzwelana nokuthembela kuhlangene. Ngingayithola kuphi ummeli ukuze akwazi ukuyikhokhela, nokuthanda kwakhe?
■ Amahhovisi omthetho noma iseluleko sezomthetho sikahulumeni. Qala ngekholi yocingo, kuphela uma ujwayele umlingani ongenzeka.
■ Ezikhangisweni: kumaphephandaba (ikakhulukazi izindaba zomthetho), kwi-Inthanethi, ekukhangiseni kwamahhala, okufakwa ebhokisini lemeyili. Naphezu kwemibono ekhona emphakathini, umuntu angathola umlingani onokwethenjelwa kusuka kule mithombo.
■ Okwesithathu, ngokusebenzisa abajwayelene nabo. Ungazitholi nje ngesazi sokwahlukanisa - vele ubuze ngommeli. Ngisho noma lo mmeli engasithathi amacala omshado, thatha inkinga ukuthatha ifoni yakhe - mhlawumbe uzokuncoma kumngane wakhe.
Ekuqaleni komsebenzi nommeli, mchazele ukuthi yini ongathanda ukuyibhala kulolu hlelo lokusebenza nokuthi yini ofuna ukuyithola ngenxa yesehlukaniso. Nokho, akudingekile ukuchaza izisusa zesifiso sakho. Isibonelo, uthi: "Ngifuna ukusola indlu." Futhi akekho ummeli angeke abuze ukuthi kungani udinga noma ukuthi unamahloni okushiya umkakho ngaphandle kwempahla. Ummeli uzokwakha isu lakho ngokusekelwe ezifisweni zakho. Ngakho-ke, cabanga kahle. Cabanga ukuthi ummeli angakutshela ukuba ulinganise ukudla okulindelekile: akusiwo wonke amandla, futhi ezinye zezidingo zakho zingase ziphikisana nomthetho (wesaba abameli abathembisayo ukuthi akunakwenzeka!).
ISIVUMELWANO SOMSHADO
Yini engayenza "ukuba mnandi" impilo yakho ngesikhathi sesehlukaniso yisivumelwano somshado. Empeleni, lesi sivumelwano ngokuhlukaniswa kwempahla. Akumangalisi ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kweHollywood kuthi: "Kumele ube ushaqile ukushada noma ukushada ngaphandle kwesivumelwano somshado." Namuhla, abameli emhlabeni jikelele batusa uhlobo olunjalo lomqulu, olwenza ngokwehlukana umbuso wobunikazi kanye nesikhathi somshado, futhi uma kungenzeka, isehlukaniso. Ngenkathi, uma umfazi ephethwe ukungasebenzi ngesikhathi somshado, kodwa kuphela ukuphatha umndeni, ngemuva kokuhlukanisa isimo sakhe kungaba nzima kakhulu. Ukuze ugweme lokhu, kungenzeka ukuthi ufake phakathi kwenkontileka into enjalo: "Uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso, impahla yomfazi iba yindawo: impahla, imishini, ubucwebe."
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