Abasebenza emkhakheni womndeni kanye nomshado bahlale beqiniseka ngokuba khona kwezimo ezisemthethweni ezingafaka engozini emshadweni owodwa. futhi uma kunjalo - ungadikibali. ngoba uma ukuxilongwa sekuvele sekuyaziwa, "ukutakula" kuyindaba nje yesikhathi. bekuyoba nesifiso sokunqoba leli qembu elimnyama ngemizamo ehlangene - yilokho okubalulekile. ngoba ngaphandle kwalokhu, noma yikuphi, ngisho nemithi eyisimangaliso kakhulu ngeke ikwazi ukukusiza.
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Kulungile, ukuthi yini ozoqala ingxoxo mayelana nenjabulo yomndeni othulisiwe, uma kungenjalo ekukhohlisweni komunye wabalingani! Yini okumele ikhulume yindoda ebuthakathaka, futhi uma izilingo zihlangana nazo zonke izinyathelo, kunzima ukumelana, kodwa okuthakazelisayo yukuthi nakuba abasanda kushada bavame ukuzwa ukukhwabanisa ngokweqile ngokomzwelo, ngokushaya izandla kanye neminyango, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba isehlukaniso sithole okuningi kaningi kakhulu kunemindeni enobuchwepheshe.
Izazi zengqondo zichaza lokhu hhayi nje kuphela ukuthi emndenini omusha wesimanje uvame ukukhulula umusi ophuthumayo futhi, ngenxa yalokho, uhlalise ngokushesha. Futhi nokuthi uhlobo luni lobuhlobo oluphambili kubalingani emnyangweni womshado. Emindenini esanda kudalwa, indima ebalulekile, njengomthetho, ingokwabobulili, futhi emva kwakho konke, isekelwe ikakhulukazi emizweni, hhayi engqondweni. Ngakho-ke, ubusuku obuthandako, ngokuvamile esingaba nesiphepho esingaphansi kwesichazamazwi sangaphambili sobuhlobo, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuholela ekubuyisaneni, ikakhulukazi uma i-jerk "engakwesokunxele" yengozi.
Kodwa abashadile, abaye bahlala ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, banamathisela ukubaluleka okukhulu ekuthembekeni kobudlelwane babo. Futhi ekuhluphekeni kwabo, akusizi ngalutho kangangokuthi umlingani nomunye umuntu "ulele" njengokungathengiswa komuntu othandekayo. Futhi umfanekiso womlingani oye wangcwelisa ungcwelengcwele - ukuthembela ngokuphelele kuye, ukususa emqondweni kunzima kakhulu. Lapha awukwazi ukuthola ngemidlalo yokulala, ngoba kufanele usebenze engqondweni yakho futhi.
Nakuba imizwelo akufanele ikhohlwe, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekunqobeni inkinga. Isibonelo, indlela enhle yokukhohlwa okwedlule, uma ukukhwabanzeka kwenzeka esidlekeni somndeni, ukuqoqa emaphepheni ombhede kanye nemilenze nezingubo zokulala (abathintekayo bangangezela lapha nombhede uqobo), bese usishisa eduze kwedoti egcekeni, bese-ke ndawonye uye esitolo ukuthenga konke okusha.
Kodwa lokhu akuyona into esemqoka. Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologists, kubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu ofuna ukuthethelelwa ukuba aqotho futhi athembekile. Futhi ngamazwi, ngokuxoxa kanzima, futhi mhlawumbe isikhathi eside, ukuzama ukukholisa ingxenye eyodwa ukuthi lokhu ngeke kwenzeke futhi. Iqembu elimele lingalulaza into eyodwa: lalela ngokucophelela ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze uzwe ngisho ne-unspoken. Ngemuva kwalokho, uyingxenye eyodwa!
Ekuvikelweni kwemingcele yabo
Uma behlala isikhathi eside, bavame kakhulu ukuxabana ngesisekelo sokuthi bachitha kanjani isikhathi sabo samahhala. Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, le nkinga yabashadile emndenini wanamuhla inikezwa isikhundla esiphambili. Lesi sihloko sethula ukungqubuzana okuningi emndenini kunezinkinga zobulili noma izinkinga zemali.
Njengomusha, ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye kubhekwa njengendlela efanelekayo yokuzilibazisa, futhi akukho okuzilibazisa lapha okuhlupheka. Isibonelo, okokuqala abashade base-zorke bagijimela echibini eliseduzane lokubamba izinhlanzi, bese kuthi, kusihlwa, baye e-disco noma e-cafe. Ngenkathi yobudala (okuyinto engokwemvelo), intshiseko iyancipha, futhi manje umyeni ngamunye ufuna ukwenza okuthile ngeyakhe. Kodwa lapha kungaba khona isimo lapho umyeni noma umkakho kubonakala sengathi ukuhamba okubonakalayo ezinkingeni zomndeni jikelele.
Ngokuvamile, ukuhlambalazwa kunikezwa oshade naye. Lokhu kuyaqondakala: Emva kwakho konke, ngokuvamile umkakhe usematasa ngemisebenzi yasendlini ngaphezu komyeni wakhe, futhi ngezinye izikhathi uthola into yokuzilibazisa kule ndawo. Kodwa usazibheka njengento ehlangene. Ngakho-ke, ukushiya abathembekile isigamu sosuku egalaji noma ibhola ibonakala njengento ehlazekayo yokubalekela ekhaya. Futhi izinqwaba, izinqwaba zokucasuka.
Kulesi simo, kumele sizame ukuqonda abaqotho bethu. Awu, ungenzenjani - akukho madoda adalwe ukuze azikhiphe ezizindongeni ezine ngisho nendluzane ehle kakhulu yomndeni! Bafuna ukuzizwa njengezinyoni ze-freestyle ezikhukhuleni ezinkulu-futhi yilokho. Ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukunikeza umyeni ithuba elinjalo, ikakhulukazi uma engatholi umsebenzi. Masiqonde kangcono yena njengomenzi wejuba, kunokuba azinikezele futhi akhulele kuye isethi yabalahlekile.
Inkinga yobudala obuphakathi
Ngalokhu kuhloswe iminyaka yobuqabane ngokwabo, hhayi impilo yabo yokuhlanganyela. Ngokusho kokubona kwezazi zengqondo, esikhathini sethu, inkinga eyaziwayo yenzeke emndenini wanamuhla kakhulu kunangaphambili emashumini eminyaka adlule. Manje ubhekene nabantu abasha abasanda kugubha izinsuku zabo zokuzalwa ezingamashumi amathathu, hhayi izingane ezineminyaka engamashumi amane ubudala, njengoba kwakucatshangwa ngaphambili. Ukusheshisa konke okwenzekayo ezweni lanamuhla kubangela ukuthi amadoda aqale ukucabanga ngendawo yawo empilweni enkulu kakhulu. Futhi kwenzekani njengomphumela? Futhi impikiswano emndenini ivela.
Iqiniso liwukuthi lapho umyeni oneminyaka engu-33-35 ubudala ebona indlela ozakwabo abancane abalungile ngayo esikhwameni, uqala ukuqonda ukuthi akakwazi ukuhambisana nesivinini sakhe. Uyazi ukuthi angeke afinyelele noma yiziphi izindawo eziphakeme kulo msebenzi. Futhi lokhu, niyabo, akungezelele ekuthembekeni komuntu.
Kubesifazane, konke kwenzeka ngokuhlukile. Ngemva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa ekhaya kanye nezingane (noma ukusebenza isigamu samandla ngesizathu esifanayo), umama womndeni ekugcineni uthola ithuba lokuzibonela kahle futhi athathe umoya wesibili. Kukhona ukuthi uma nje umkakhe eqala ukwenza umsebenzi okhuthazayo, umyeni ugoba amathalenta akhe emhlabathini futhi uzama kanzima ukubeka isiphambano kuso. Lo umehluko ezintweni eziza kuqala, ezijwayelekile emindenini onolwazi, futhi kungabangela ukungezwani.
Uma lolu daba selufikile manje, khona-ke uchwepheshe kuphela angakusiza. Kodwa uma ukuduma kwezulu kuvela esibhakabhakeni somndeni ngezikhathi ezithile, zama ukungawucasuli umyeni wakho ngesithombe somuntu owenza ibhizinisi elincane, noma ngabe ungomunye. Inkulumo encane mayelana nempumelelo yakho namakhono akho. Ufuna ukwabelana ngenjabulo ejabulisayo - ukuziqhenya okungcono kwezingubo zanamuhla ezithengile ngesikhathi! Futhi wengeze ukuthi unomyeni onjalo onjengaye, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi ubheke "amaphesenti ayikhulu". Nasi umbhangqwana onjalo omuhle futhi sifisa ukuthi uhlale isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka.