Uthando olungalindelekile luye kwenzeka okungenani kanye empilweni yowesifazane futhi ngezinye izikhathi kwaba yisizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi owesifazane ugijimela kanjani indoda. Ngokuvamile, umuntu okhethiwe angase angaqapheli ngisho nokuthi owesifazane uzizwa emzwa, ukuze owokuqala athathe isinyathelo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngokuphambene nalokho, uyazi ngakho konke, kodwa akafuni ukukubona. Kodwa, ngaphezu kokuthandana okungathandwayo, owesifazane angakwazi ukufeza indoda ngezizathu eziningi eziningi ezingokwengqondo, esizozama ukukutshela ngakho kulesi sihloko.
Uthando lufana nakho konke okubonakalayo
Kuyinto uthando nokuzwela okungaholela ekubhaliseni izinkondlo, izingoma, umculo kanye nokuthi kungani abesifazane begijima emva kwamadoda. Kodwa ngesikhathi umuntu ezwa ukuxiliswa okuphelele kumfazi noma efuna nje ukuba avele engakwazi ukuhlukumezeka emehlweni akhe, uqala ukuzwa umuzwa wokungabi nalutho owamqhubezela ukuba agijime le ndoda futhi azame ukubeka kancane kancane ezinye izinhlanzi emehlweni akhe. Konke lokhu kungaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho owesifazane engatholi isifiso salo muntu noma uzomtshela ukuthi akayithandi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kungaphenduka kancane uma ukhumbula ngomuntu othanda ngaphambili noma ubambe enhliziyweni yakho isilonda esijulile futhi ubuhlungu hhayi nje kuphela lo muntu, kodwa uhlanga lonke lwesilisa.
Yiqiniso, ukuziphatha komfazi okunjalo kungabhekwa njengesenzo esingenangqondo, okungafanelekile ukwenza nhlobo, ngoba awukwazi ukuthola umuntu ukuheha. Ngandlela-thile, kwamanye amadoda, ukuqinisekiswa okunjalo kuleso nkosikazi kungabangeli nje ukuzwa ukudelela, kodwa futhi nokwesaba ukukhuthazela kanye nesifiso sokungatholi lokho "okungokwakhe".
Izizathu ezicatshangelwayo noma "ubhontshisi besepha" wezinkolelo
Ngaphezu kokuthandana okungenakuqhathaniswa owesifazane osesimweni esingasetshenziswa angasetshenziswa ezinye izici zengqondo. Isibonelo, emva kokukhula, akakwazanga ukukhipha umkhuba wokulutha wokufuna uthando olungenamkhawulo nokunakwa kwabanye, okuvela ekuziphatheni kobulili obunamandla. Ngesikhathi esemncane, izwe lomntwana onjalo lenziwa uthando nokunakwa ezihlotsheni nabangani, kodwa kudingeke ukuba sikhumbule ukuthi imithetho yokuphila komuntu omdala ine-postulates ehluke kakhulu. Akuwona wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukuphindaphinda futhi anikeze owesifazane ukunakekelwa nokuthandwa kwakhe. Yingakho owesifazane owonakele engenakho ukunikeza indoda futhi uqala ukumlandela, ezama ukutholwa lutho kuye.
Lokhu kungabonakaliswa nokuphila okungenalutho kowesifazane, okungekho okuzilibazisa, okuqhubekayo okungekho emphakathini futhi okudabukisayo. Ngakho-ke, lo wesifazane ukhetha into ethile yokudumisa futhi uqala ukuhlanza "ubuchopho bokuphila" ukuwuphishekela. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, izenzo zabesifazane zingaqondiswa ukwesaba nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, okunye okuwukuthi ukwesaba isizungu. Isibonelo, emva kwemizamo ephindaphindiwe yokuhlela impilo yomuntu siqu nalena noma lowo muntu, owesifazane unenkinga ephelele ye-fiasco. Ngakho-ke, udumazekile, uzama ukulungisa lesi simo, kanti nanoma yimuphi umuntu ozobonisa ukuthi uyamkhathalela ubhekwa njengengumqashi wangempela. Lokhu kungenxa yalesi sizathu nje lona wesifazane uzama ngandlela-thile ukuthi "uhambe" kulo muntu, uzibophezele.
Esinye isizathu esicabanga ukuthi uqhube owesifazane ukukhuthazela ngesinyathelo kuyimzamo yokufakazela okuthile ngaye "umdlalo" ngobulili obuqinile. Esimweni esinjalo, lo wesifazane ulungele ukubheja naye ukuthi esikhathini esizayo uzokwazi ukuthola indoda ekhethiwe futhi, ekukhohlwa ukuziqhenya kwakhe, uqala emva kwakhe, njengokungathi uyisisulu sakhe, ukumxosha, njengoba bekusho, ezithendeni. Ngendlela, evame ukuyifinyelela, le nkosikazi ingamane ivele ikhulume nale ndoda. Phela, owesifazane akadingi imizwa nhlobo, ukhangwa yinto ecacile, injabulo nesifiso sokuvivinya "amaqhinga nama-pranks" ekusebenzeni. Ngamanye amazwi, le nkosikazi, umphumela awubalulekile, kodwa iholidi lomphefumulo, elitholayo ngokuphishekela into yakhe kanye nokubonakaliswa kwesifiso sokumnqoba nokumenza okungenani okwesikhashana.