Kwenzekani kumntwana?
Ngasekuqaleni kwezinyanga zokuqala, lapho i-crumb ishintshelwe impilo ye-extrauterine futhi ngokuvamile yayizolile kahle. Kodwa hhayi nakancane. Abanye abazali bakhononda ukuthi amasonto okuqala babefana nokubuhlungu. Umntwana wakhala njalo, kepha wayengenakuqonda lokho ayekufunayo, mama. Lokhu kwaphela kokubili. Isithombe esinjalo sivame ukukwenzeka uma uke wabhekana nobunzima bokubeletha. Ngisho nokuzalwa okungcono kakhulu kwengane kuyinkinga enkulu. Futhi kufanele nje akhale, akhamuluke, qinisekisa ukuthi akukho okwesabekile okwenzekile. Kulo mzuzu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umama abe nomntwana ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuwuthwala ezandleni zakhe, ukuncelisa, ukuhlela iphupho elihlangene nengane. Umama wasungula umbuso wokudla, wafunda ukuqonda imvuthu. Inyanga yesibili yadlula kahle ngokuthula, futhi lapha - izinkinga ezintsha, lapho. kuvela, akulungile neze.
• Akukho ubisi obanele! Ukwesaba kungenasisekelo uma udla ngokufunwa. Kungenzeka ukuthi le nkinga iphutha ekusetshenzisweni, okungazibonakalisa ngalesi sigaba, ngoba ingane iqala ukuncelisa ngokwengeziwe futhi izidingo zayo zokwandisa ubisi. Uma i-crumb ngenkathi isondla ngokuphazima kweso iphonsa lesi sifubeni, iqala ukukhala, akusho ukuthi inkinga isendaweni yakho ye-mammary. Kungenxa yokuthi okunamathiselwe okungalungile, umoya ovuthwe ngumntwana. Msize abuye futhi axoxe nomchwepheshe ekunceliseni ingane. Khumbula ukuthi ngesinamathiselwe esifanele, ingane ayiyisisisi isisindo, kodwa ibamba yonke i-okolososkovuyu areola.
• Ukuvutha ukukhala. Mhlawumbe ekuqaleni ingane ilele ngokuthula futhi yayingavumi ukuzwakalisa, kepha wabe eseqala ukukhala. Mhlawumbe une-colic. Zama ukusabalalisa imvuthu esiswini sakho "isikhumba esikhumbeni", unakekele isimiso sezinzwa zomntwana, ukuvikela ingane ekukhanyeni okukhanyayo nokukhala okubukhali engxenyeni yesibili yosuku. Maye, lezi zinyathelo azisizi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uhlobo lwe-colic lungaqondakali odokotela, kunezinguquko zalokho okubangela ukuthi bangabonakali ohlelweni lwezinzwa kanye nomzila wamathumbu. Kodwa ungaphelelwa yithemba: iningi lezingane ezihlushwa yi-colic hhayi amasonto amathathu kuya kwamane. Uma izimo ezinjalo zingapheli inyanga futhi zenzeka nsuku zonke isigamu sehora noma ngaphezulu, odokotela bahlolisisa i-colic. "Kwezinye izici, kubhekwa ukuthi ingane ihamba isikhathi esithile sokujwayela impilo yokuphila .Ukuhamba kancane kwezokuthuthukiswa Abazali abaningi banenkinga yokuthi umntwana, ngubani ngaphambi kokuba athuthukise amakhono amakhono, ngokuzumayo "uyeka ukuqhubeka." Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo! Ezinyangeni ezintathu nje kuphela, izingane ziqala isiteji sokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono amamoto amnandi, futhi inkulu "imisa okwesikhashana." Kule minyaka, umntwana uqala ukuthatha konke futhi uzama ukuxhaphaza izinto ngosizo lwezandla, futhi yilokho okumkhanga ngaphezu kwemizamo yokunyakaza okusebenzayo.
• Ukuphendula okungokomzwelo okungalindelekile. Kule minyaka yobudala, izingane eziningi ziya ezandleni zabantu abadala abadala, kodwa kukhona okuhlukile. Isibonelo, i-crumb ingase ingamukeli noma yiziphi izihlobo noma yenqaba ukuxhumana nanoma ubani ngaphandle komama. Ungenzi iziphetho ezifinyelela kude. Ukushintsha okunjalo ngokomzwelo kushintsha ngokushesha, ungathinti ukubaluleka kubo.
Kwenzekani kumama?
Kubonakala sengathi sekuyisikhathi esihle sokuba umama azizwe ekwazi kahle futhi ekwazi kahle. Kodwa kwakukhona, kwaphakama imibuzo nakakhulu. Ngaphezu kokukhathazeka ngomntwana, umama uphinde akhathazeke ngezinkinga zomuntu siqu. Futhi abesifazane abaningi basesimweni sokucindezeleka.
• Ukukhathala kuqoqa.
Akuwona wonke omama abancane abathola ushintsho endleleni yokuphila, abaningi bakuthola kunzima nengane encane, ngokuvamile owesifazane kufanele ahole indlu futhi asebenze ekhaya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukujabula kwamaviki okuqala kudlule, futhi owesifazane uyaqaphela ukuthi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze angeke akwazi ukuzinikela isikhathi esiningi kuye. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuthi iholidi lakho lingenye yezinto eziza kuqala. Buza usizo ezihlotsheni: bavumele bahambe nomgibeli, futhi uchitha lesi sikhathi ephusheni. Shiya amahora ambalwa imvuthu ekhaya nomuntu ovela emndenini wakho nokuphumula.
Ukuphila ngokocansi
Omama abaningi abasha babuyela ekuphileni kwabo obuseduze ngaphambi kokuba ingane iphenduke izinyanga ezimbili ubudala. Kodwa-ke, labo ababenamaphutha noma izibeletho ezihlukumezayo abakwazi ukwenza lokhu kuze kube yizinyanga ezintathu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwabanye besifazane ngemuva kokukhuphuka kwe-libido, kanti kwabanye - kwehla ngaphansi kwethonya lama-hormone nangenxa yokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo. Labo abazizwa bengathandi, naphezu kokuthi umzimba uphinde wabuyiselwa ekubelethweni, ochwepheshe batusa ukuqala ngethenda ukuvumelanisa nomyeni wakhe. Khumbula futhi ukuthi i-libido inciphise ngenxa yokuntuleka kokulala. Uma unenkinga efana nokumelela kwesisu noma ubuhlungu ngesikhathi sokulala, sebenzisa izithako. Ubuhlungu obukhulu phakathi nenyanga ezintathu emva kokuzalwa - ithuba lokubonisana nochwepheshe.
• Ubuhlobo nobaba osemncane. Ngeshwa, akubona wonke umuntu olungele ukwabelana nomuntu omusha omkhathazayo okuhlobene nokuvela kwengane, futhi lokhu kuholela esimweni esicindezelayo emndenini. Ngamahloni wena wandisa ukuxabana. Qaphela ukuthuthukiswa kukababa osemncane wengane, ukuthi ufunda uyise, njll. Kusihlwa, khulumisana, ugeze ndawonye bese ubeka imvuthuluka. Enye iphuzu kubalulekile: ngezinye izikhathi izikhalazo zethu zingenasisekelo, futhi ukuhlambalaza akulungile. Ufuna umyeni ukuba abelane nawe ukunakekelwa kwengane. Uyakhathala usuku, futhi ulindele ukuthi uzofika futhi azothatha ingane phezu kwakhe. Kodwa awuboni ukuthi ubaba akazange aphumule usuku lonke. Wasebenza futhi, njengowe, udinga ukuphumula. Uma isimo sezezimali sivumela, ziqashe umsizi ozokukhulula ntambama, ukuze kusihlwa ungazizwa uphelelwe amandla futhi unganikeza isikhathi kumyeni wakho othandekayo.
• Ukufundiswa kwesikhala. Kule minyaka yobudala, abazali abaningi bazama ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alale embhedeni owodwa futhi angavuki ebusuku. Abanye ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuyasebenza kakhulu, futhi batusa ukuthi abazali benze lokhu ukuze baphumule kahle futhi balele ngokwabo, bavame ingane ukuba yenzeke ukuthi kuyadingeka ukwenza izinto eziyekethisa. Ezinye izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuthi ingane ihlupheka uma ixoshwa umama ngesikhathi sokulala. Kuzodingeka ugxile kakhulu ekufundeni kwakho kunombono wezingcweti. Uma uzizwa ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokufundisa ingane yakho ukuba ilale ngokwehlukana, khumbula: kuthatha cishe amasonto amabili. Beka umntwana embhedeni emva kokudla okujwayelekile kanye nokuhlwa kusihlwa, umfisele ubusuku obuhle bese usuka ekamelweni, ungagudluli ezandleni zakhe futhi ungalindeli ukuba alale esifubeni. Uma ingane ingalali ngokushesha, ungaya kuye ngemva kweminyaka engu-5, bese kuthi ngemva kweminyaka engu-10, bese emva kwemizuzu engu-15 ukumshaya ngempendulo, uthi umama useduze, kodwa sekuyisikhathi sokulala. Iningi lezingane emasonto owodwa noma amabili lifundiswa ukulala ngokwabo, uma abazali beziphatha ngokuqinile nangokwethemba. Kodwa-ke, sizophinda sibuyele, hhayi zonke izingane ezilungele ukuxoshwa okunjalo. Ingane idinga uMama kakhulu. Ungabeki kabusha i-crumb ekamelweni elilodwa, faka isikhala sakhe embhedeni wakho, ususe udonga ohlangothini. Yebo, izinyanga ezintathu kuyinkinga yokuphila okunzima. Kodwa, njengoba unqobile izinkinga, uzobe uqiniseka kakhulu kuwe.