Ochwepheshe bathi ingane eneminyaka emithathu inezici eziningana nezengqondo. Kusukela kulesi sikhathi ukuthi uqala ukuzicabangela ngokwengeziwe. Kodwa abazali abasha abahlale bekulungele ukuguqulwa okunjalo, futhi kubalulekile ukucabangela izici zengqondo kwengane eneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Ngenxa yalokhu badinga, okokuqala, ukutadisha.
Kwenzekani kumntwana.
Kubonakala sengathi ingane yakamuva yayilalela, iqondakala kalula, futhi ngokuzumayo yaba yingozi, inkani futhi ingalawuleki! Ukungafani okuphawulekayo kwemibono: okubikezelwayo - okungalawuleki. Ingabe yedwa ingane ngokwakhe - ekushintsheni ubuntu bakhe? Noma mhlawumbe inkathazo yonke ikhona nabazali? Iqiniso lokuthi alungele ukwamukela umntwana wabo osekhulile, ukuthi bafuna ukuphinde balawule? Ngokuvamile, abazali abakulungele ukufuna okusemthethweni futhi okusemthethweni kwengane eneminyaka emithathu ubudala: "Mina ngokwami!" Kodwa izinto eziningi ingane eneminyaka emithathu ingase isenze ngokuzimela. Ungavumeli ngokushesha njengoba thina, abantu abadala, kodwa sisakwazi. Lokhu kufanele nje ujabule. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile abazali abaningi bayesaba nje.
- Asize! - Umama uyazibuza, ebheka indodana ezama ukugqoka izicathulo zakhe.
- Mina ngokwami! Uqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo umfana.
"Wenze kahle!" - Siyadabukisa ngokusemandleni ethu, kodwa sizobe sithukuthele. Okubi nakakhulu, ake siqale ukukhamuluka kwengane: "Woza ngokushesha!" Ngenxa yokucasuka okunjalo, ngaphandle kwesifiso sokwenza konke ngokushesha, kukhona ukwesaba kwangempela. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawula okuphelele, ukulahleka kokubaluleka komuntu siqu kwengane.
Isikhathi sokuba uhulumeni uqobo.
Qala ukuhlela "izinsuku zokuzibusa". Masibe usuku oluthile noma inkathi ngaphambi noma emva kokulala - akunandaba. Into eyinhloko ukurekhoda ngokucacile le nkathi yengane ngosizo, isibonelo, i-timer noma iwashi le-alamu. Okokuqala, umholi kumele abe ngumntwana, futhi uzokwenza lokho akucela kuwe. Uma ufuna ukwenza okuthile ngokwakho, umcele imvume. Kungcono, uma wonke amalungu omndeni ahlanganyela kulo mdlalo, uzogcizelela ubuqotho bomndeni wengane. Khona-ke amandla azoshintsha - wonke umndeni kuzodingeka ulandele imiyalelo yomholi omusha. Isimo esiyinhloko ukuthi wonke amalungu omndeni kufanele ahambele indawo yomholi. Uma omunye wamalungu omndeni engabambi iqhaza emdlalweni, khona-ke inani le-psychotherapeutic yengane liyancishiswa kakhulu.
Konke kuguqukile.
Ngalesi sikhathi ingane eneminyaka emithathu ubudala iyashintsha ngokuphawulekayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lezi azizona nje zangaphandle, kodwa futhi nezinguquko zangaphakathi ezibaluleke kakhulu. Ingane ikhutha ngokujulile izitho zangaphakathi, kunezimpumputhe ezibonakalayo ezibukhali ekukhuleni ngokomzimba. Izinguquko ezibalulekile ziyaxoxwa. Ingane yeminyaka engu-3 isiqaphela ngokucacile ukuthi ingenza izinto eziningi ngokwayo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo useyiqonda kakade ukuthi ngaphandle kosizo lomuntu omdala akakwazi ukukwenza.
Indlela yokuziphatha.
Ngenye into engathandekayo "Mina ngokwami!", Esikhundleni sesifiso esicasulayo sokunqoba - "Nikeza! Usengumuntu omncane ukwenza lokho! "- yima futhi udumise ingane ngokuthobeka:" Ungumuntu omdala! "Uzobona ukuthi ujabule futhi ujabule kanjani amehlo omntanakho azokhanya. Emva kwakho konke, uzokhuluma ngokuzwakalayo lokho akuzwayo. Esimweni esinjalo, kuyoba lula ukuthi ingane yamukele usizo lwabantu abadala-emva kwakho konke, ibizwe ngokuthi likhulu futhi akudingeki ukuthi aqinisekise noma yini kunoma ubani!
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zezizathu, izizathu ezenziwe ngokomzimba ngokuziphatha okubi "komntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala." Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu? Into esemqoka akuyona ukuletha isimo esimweni esiyingozi. Kodwa-ke, uma, ngemuva kokungena, isiqalo sesiqalile, bese wenza ngokuvumelana necebo elithile:
Thatha noma uthathe le kid kusuka noma ikuphi.
Manje, mhlawumbe kungcono ukumshiya yedwa okwesikhashana - ngenxa yokungabi nabathengi ingane izophola ngokushesha.
Susa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kwengane yakho ngezinyathelo ezimbalwa ezilula. Nikeza ingane ubumba obumnandi, masibeke isikhathi esincane esisezandleni zakhe.
Mcele ukuba aphule iphephandaba noma yiliphi elinye iphepha, kodwa kufanele lenziwe kanye nomntwana. Ungakwazi ngisho nokuhlela umncintiswano - ngubani ozothola izingcezu ezincane.
Ungaphinda ufunde iphepha elimnandi ezandleni zakho - lokhu kuyisimo esihle sokuzivocavoca, okwenza amakhono amancane amakhono. Beka umntwana entendeni yephepha elilingana nobukhulu be-A4, bese usikisela "ukufihla" ekhamini. Masize ingane kalula ngokucindezela umunwe wakhe phakathi kweqabunga ukwenza iphepha likhubazeke. Ngokomthetho awukwazi ukuzisiza ngenye indlela. Ungasiza uma ingane ingaphathi nhlobo, - ikhava bese ucindezela ikhamera yengane ngesandla sayo. Khona-ke ungadlala i-snowballs yamaphepha! Kuyinto nje massage enhle yezandla zakho futhi nje umsebenzi owusizo.
Ukushisa okulula kuyohlale kusiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka, ikakhulukazi ngemva kokucindezeleka okubudlova. Kukhona umdlalo omuhle kakhulu "Isikhuni esithandanayo": udweba umunwe kunento engemuva kwengane, bese uqala ukuqagela lokho owakhwelayo. Kodwa, mhlawumbe, kuyoba ngempumelelo kakhulu uma nje uzisola ingane, yamukele. Ekugcineni, lokhu "ukuqhuma" komzwelo kwakuhlose ukuheha ukunakekelwa kwakho okuyigugu. Yonke imisebenzi yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwengqondo ingenziwa ngemuva kokuba ingane ikhulile kancane.
Umngane nomlingani.
Yiqiniso, akuzona zonke izinto ezilula, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu - ukuqala. Vumela umntwana abe nemisebenzi eminingana engapheli, ezokwenza yona. Isibonelo, uyakwazi ukuletha amasokisi akhe ekuseni, usize unina ukuba agqoke itafula futhi emva kokudla ukuhlanza izitsha, njll. Ungenzelani ingane ukuthi yini engenza kahle ngokwayo.
Yiqiniso, okukhethekile kwengqondo yengane eminyakeni emithathu kunjalo ukuthi udinga ukwesekwa kwakho ngokukhethekile. Kodwa kufanele kube ukusekelwa, hhayi ukuphoqa: izenzo zakho kufanele zibe ezakhayo futhi kulindeleke ingane. Ekukhulumisaneni nomntanakho, kufanele uhlale unamathele ngisho nethoni, ungazivumeli ukusabela ngokomzwelo okungenasidingo ekuziphatheni kwakhe.
Ungazihlakuleli inkinga ngaphakathi kwakho, bese-ke le nkathi enzima ingane yakho izokwazi ukunqoba ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa futhi ithole ulwazi oluningi oluhle. Zama ukwamukela ingane yakho njengomngani nomlingani - yilokho okudingayo kakhulu.