Kukhona umehluko oyinhloko phakathi kwemibono yokwesaba nokufihlwa noma ubuhlungu. Umama onamahloni ufuna ukuxhumana, akwazi nje ukuthi uyesaba kanjani futhi uyesaba kanjani. Ivalwe - ayifuni futhi ayikwazi. Uhlala ezweni lakhe, evumela kuphela izihlobo zakhe eziseduze. Kuphela kuphela abangamthatha "ukhiye": umama, ubaba, ikati lesilwane noma i-hamster. Ukuvalwa kuvame ukubhalwa abazali ngenxa yobuphiko obukhethekile nokuthuthukiswa, bathi, inhlakanipho encane nezingane ezivamile ayinandaba neze. Noma kunjalo, izazi ze-psychologists ziqinisekisa ukuthi lokhu kuyimphutha! Lezi zingane, "amacala" ahlale enhliziyweni kakhulu enhliziyweni ngoba angakwazi ukuphila impilo evamile kanye neontanga zabo. Ngeke baqonde njalo imbangela yosizi lwabo, bayithwale baba ngabantu abadala.
Izizathu zokuzihlukanisa kanye nobumnyama
Lezi zizathu ngokuvamile zilele ebuntwaneni bokuqala. Ngokuqondile - empumelelweni yokukhulelwa. Izingane ezizalwa kakhulu kusengaphambili, kuze kube amasonto angama-33, ziningi amathuba okuba abezethulo (abantu abazimele). Isizathu salokhu ukuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside kwengane kumama ngokushesha ngemva kokubeletha (izingane ezingakabiphi zifakwa ku-kuvez - idivayisi ekhethekile egcina izinga lokushisa, umswakama, njll). Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akudingekile ukuba ubhale yonke into kuphela ngenxa ye-prematurity. Izingane zivame ukuhoxisa ngaphakathi kwazo, uma zigula, zikhathele noma zithatha inkinga ethile. Yiqiniso, ingane ihoxisiwe futhi iyabuhlungu kulokhu, hhayi njalo, kodwa okwesikhashana.
Isimo sibucayi kakhulu, uma ukungenakulinganiswa kuvele ngenxa yezimo zangaphandle. Isibonelo, ingane yesikole ingavalela ekuphenduleni ukuxhaphaza izingane ezifunda nabo uma ziyidambisa ngenxa yokugunda, ukuphelela noma ukugqoka izibuko. Izingane ezincane zingakwazi ukuhlukaniswa nokuxabana phakathi kwabazali. Esikhathini sokuqala, ingane ivinjelwe kusuka eqinisweni ngodonga olucabangelayo, ngoba kulula kakhulu kunokuzama ukuzivikela njalo kwababi. Okwesibili, kubonakala sengathi ingane iyindlela engcono kakhulu yokubuyisana nomama nobaba ukuthi ingabonakali kangako, ngoba izingane zihlale zisola kuzo zonke izingxabano ezindala.
Ingane evaliwe ingabuye ibe ngenxa yokuthi imane ikhulumisana nezingane. Isibonelo, uvame ukugula, angayi enkulisa, uchitha isikhathi sakhe sonke nonina noma ugogo wakhe. Ekuqaleni, kuyamcasula: uyaxoshwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ("Asikho isikhathi sokudlala nawe, sinezinto ezanele zezindaba zethu"), bese eqala ukungena. Phela, oontanga bangaphula amathoyizi, futhi basuse konke, hhayi lowo mama nonogogo.
Kodwa ivaliwe?
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngaso sonke isikhathi kudingekile kuqala ukuthola ukuthi ingane yakho ingumuntu osesimweni noma wena ucabangile le nkinga. Uma ingane ingenabo abangane abaningi nokuthandayo ukudlala yedwa - ayivaliwe. Uma abazali bexoshwa, isimo sengqondo sokuvimbela ingane kulabo ababazungezile cishe kuyingozi. Bacabanga, njengoba kungase kungathandi ukuxhumana nabantu, kuyathandeka kakhulu? !! !! Kodwa kumelwe siqonde ukuthi umuntu ngamunye unesimo sakhe sengqondo nomlingiswa wakhe. Uma ungacabangi impilo ngaphandle komphakathi, lokhu akusho ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele abe okufanayo. Ngokusho kwengqondo, uma ingane yakho ijabulela ukuya enkulisa noma esikoleni, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ikhulumisana hhayi wonke umuntu olandelanayo, kodwa kuphela abakhethiweyo, lokhu akuyona neze ingane ye-glum hhayi ngisho nevaliwe. Njengalokhu kwenzeka lapho umntwana ehamba nokuhamba nabangane bakhe, kodwa ngenkathi egijima ibhola enqamula ensimini, ubambalela emasimini noma ebuka amatshe amatshe.
Kungenye indaba uma ingane ifihla ngempela emanzini. Kule nkinga, inkinga idinga ukungenelela okuphuthumayo, ngaphandle kwalokho ingane izoqhubeka imbiza futhi isabise abantu abangabazi ngaphambi kokuphela kokuphila, isimo esingavamile. Akakwazi ukuxhumana ngokugcwele nabanye futhi ngenxa yalokho uzolahlwa yibo. Kudingekile ukuhlinzeka usizo olusemandleni okwenza izinto ezincane ngesikhathi esifanele, kungenjalo kuyoba ngaphezulu nezinhlaka ezintsha, ezizomvimbela ukuba aphile impilo evamile.
Indlela yokusiza ingane ukuthi ihluleke
Ivalwe futhi ikhukhumezekile, ingane engenakuhlukaniseka futhi ehlonishwayo idinga usizo lesazi sengqondo. Kodwa kukhona ongakwenza futhi nabazali ngokwabo.
- YENZEKA OKWENGEZIWE KANYE NONYANA, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka engakanani. Zonke izingane zidinga ukunakekelwa kwabazali. Asikho isidingo sokwesaba ukwamukela ingane ngesisa, ukumbumbana nokuqamba - zonke lezi zingane zidinga okungaphezulu kunezinye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakwazi ukucindezela nokukhukhumeza ingane, ngaphandle kokuzikhohlisa kuzo zonke izifiso zakhe.
- UNGAFUNA UKUTHOLA. Izingane azikwazi ukuhlola ngokuphumelelayo izimpumelelo zabo nokunqoba. Ngubani, uma kungekhona abadala, akwazi ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba kwabo?
- VUMELA ABANGENZI BEZINYE. Vumela ingane ukuthi ijwayele ukuthola abantu abahlukahlukene. Ngcono nakakhulu, uma izivakashi ziza nezingane zabo. Esimweni esivamile futhi esijwayelekile, ingane evaliwe izokhululeka ngokushesha futhi ifunde indlela yokuxhumana nabangane. Wena, naye, kuzoba lula ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwakhe, ukusikisela ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani eqenjini.
- XHUMA AMAKHOSI KONKE, khuthaza ukusebenza komntwana emphakathini. Masifunde izinkondlo, ahlabelele ngaphansi kwe-karaoke, ukudansa, ahlanganyele ekudlaleni kwekhaya. Mkhiphe esimweni sokunganaki okuvamile, uhlele imidlalo ehlekisayo, umvumele ukuba anqobe - ukunambitheka kokunqoba kubangela ukubuyisela ukholo kuye.
- YENZA UMNTWANA ENTSHA. Izingane ezivaliwe zihlala zihluka njalo nge-conservatism. Kubalulekile ukuba bazizwe bezinzile ezintweni zonke: ekudleni, ebuthongweni, emidlalweni, ezindabeni zomlando zobusuku - konke okudingekayo kuzobe sekuhlelweni. Akudingekile ukunqanda ingane yalesi sizwa, kodwa udinga ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlukanisa umbuso wosuku. Isibonelo, indaba yenkathi yasemuva ingasetshenziswa esikhundleni se-cartoon, ukuhamba noma inkulumo enhliziyweni.
- KUKHUMBULA ukuthi UKUPHILA KOMNTWANA OYISIKHIWE KUPHELA. Isibonelo, uma ingane ingafakwa endaweni yokudlala, ungamphoqeleli ukuba ahlale phakathi kwebhokisi le-sandbox noma amphoqe ukuba alayishe intaba nge "locomotive". Ukuze uqale, makangidlale nabo bonke abanye abantwana, bese ungakwazi ukuzithoba ngokumncane ukumondeza kontanga yakhe. Kuphela kakhulu okungahambi kahle futhi okunamandla kakhulu.