1. Emsebenzini konke kwashintsha, yini okufanele uyenze?
Inselele enkulu yowesifazane ophuma ngekhefu lokubeletha ulinde, ngoba ubuyela lapho ayeke khona. Futhi lo wesifazane ulindele ukuthi uma ebuya, konke kuzoba njengangaphambili, noma ngabe ngaphambili kwakungakahle kakade.
Ngesikhathi lapho lona wesifazane ephethe isimemezelo, imisebenzi yokusebenza, izimo zokusebenza zokusebenza zivuselelwa, ithimba liyakwazi ukuyibuyekeza, nomkhathi eqenjini. Khona-ke owesifazane angabhekana nokumangala, okuyinto engayikhathaza ngokuyisimanga.
Ukuze ulungele, futhi wazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela, ngaphambi kokuba ushiye ikhefu lokubeletha, bheka ukuthi yini eshintshile ngokungahambi kwakho, bheka lapho uya khona. Emaqhinga asezempi, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlonishwa endaweni, lapho kubalulekile ukuhlola indawo, ukwenza isici. Futhi kulokhu kulungele konke ku-100%.
Khuluma nabalingani bakho, thola ukuthi umsebenzi wakho ulindeleke emsebenzini, bangaki abantu abasha abavele emsebenzini, yiziphi izimo zokusebenza, yiziphi izenzakalo ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokungabikho kwakho. Thola ozakwabo abangakusiza. Bavumele ukuba bakulethele esikoleni, bakusize futhi bakhulume nabasebenzi abasha ongakabazi.
2. Kufanele uzilungiselele kanjani izinkinga?
Ukwazi ukuthi yini okulindelekile emsebenzini, udinga ukulungiselela izinkinga okumelwe ubhekane nazo. Zibhalele ephepheni, ubunzima obungase buvele emsebenzini, isibonelo:
- ukungabi namakhono okudingayo emsebenzini,
- ukungazi kwabalingani abasha nokunye.
Ngokuphambene nento ngayinye, bhala lezo zindlela ezizokusiza ukuthi ubhekane nobunzima obunjalo, noma omunye angakusiza ngalokhu. Hlela uhlelo lokuxazulula izinkinga futhi ulunake kusengaphambili. Ukuqeqeshwa kwezenhlalo nezengqondo kungakusiza, okuzokwandisa izifundo zakho zokuzihlonipha noma zokuvuselela, okuzovuselela amakhono akho nokusiza emsebenzini oqhubekayo.
Khumbula konke owaziyo
Ukuziphatha, njengokubukezwa kwakho konke owaziyo nokwaziyo. Thatha iphepha, ubhale kuyo yonke into oyaziyo ukuthi ungayenza kanjani ochwepheshe, nezinye izindawo zomsebenzi. Ngokuhlukile, bhala amandla akho nazo zonke izikhwepha.
Masenzeni lo msebenzi
Esikhathini, siyothola indawo ezobe ichaza isimo samanje, samanje uma uphuma isinqumo sokusebenza. Sisho le ndawo ngento ethile. Ngebanga elithile ukusuka kuye, ngemuva, wabeka enye into, kubonisa okwedlule, lapho iminyaka engu-3 noma engu-4 edlule ihamba ngekhefu lokubeletha.
Ngaphambi kokuqala sizobeka enye indawo eyobonisa ikusasa lakho futhi wena kulo eminyakeni engama-4, futhi le ndawo izokwaziswa ngento ethile.
Masiphakamise endaweni yesikhathi esedlule futhi sikhumbule ukuthi ungumuntu onguchwepheshe, ukuthi wazizwa kanjani esimweni sobuchwepheshe, yiziphi amakhono owawunayo, ukuthi wazizwa kanjani ngaleso sikhathi.
Bheka okudlule kusuka esikhathini esedlule, kokungabaza kwakho, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka. Nikeza iseluleko kuwe namuhla, ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani amakhono akho endala futhi uvumelane ngokushesha emsebenzini. Sitshele ukuthi yini eyakusiza emsebenzini, okujabulisayo nokuphefumulelwe.
Buyela endaweni omi manje. Uzwa kanjani manje? Buyela emuva esikhathini esedlule, futhi uqaphele ukuthi ushintshile, sekudlule iminyaka eminingana futhi uthole ulwazi olusha. Uyini okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, yini oyitholile ngalesi sikhathi, futhi yini eshintshile phakathi nesinqumo?
Manje yima endaweni yesikhathi esizayo futhi uhlole izinzwa. Ungobani? Uzizwa kanjani? Yini oyizuzile kule minyaka? Udinga ukuzibheka wangempela, ubone ukuthi yini ekusizile ukuba ube lapho ukhona manje nokuthi yini eyasiza ukuvumelanisa endaweni yokusebenzela. Sitshele.
3. Ukufuna ukwesekwa
Njengoba ukusebenza emsebenzini kuyisenzakalo esicindezelayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi owesifazane ahlinzeke ngenkxaso kule nkathi. Kufanele itholakale emndenini, ukwabelana nezinkinga zabo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yikuphi ukusekelwa okudingayo okwamanje. Kubalulekile ukuba owesifazane abe nelungelo lokuxoxa nabanye abathandekayo bakhe, ukuba nethuba ukuthi izihlobo akufanele zifundise, ukuthi ziziphatha kanjani, zingabonakali amaphutha, kodwa ngokuphambene zithi konke kuzovela kahle nokuthi kunamandla. Buza umyeni wakho ukuthi akhulume ukuthi ufuna ukuzwa kuye, noma ucele umyeni wakho ukuba ahlalise, akukhumbuze, noma nje akulalele, noma ngabe ufuna ukumtshela.
4. Yini okufanele ilungiselelwe?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owesifazane ulungele noma angakulungeli ukuqala umsebenzi wakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyayiphatha kanjani umsebenzi wakhe, ngoba owesifazane obuyela emsebenzini kuyisenzakalo esicindezelayo, kuzodinga isikhathi esithile sokujwayela nokugqugquzela wonke amandla akhe.
Futhi isizathu sihlezi ukuthi ukuya emsebenzini emva kwekhefu elide yilokhu:
Ukushintsha kwendawo yokuphila
Phela, owesifazane ngaphambi kokuya emsebenzini isikhathi eside asetshenzisiwe ekhaya. Manje uzobe esesimweni esingavamile, esihlukile.
Ukushintsha kwesimo
Ngokufinyelela komsebenzi, isimo sowesifazane sishintsha. Iphakama uma isimo sowesifazane esisebenza futhi sithola umholo omuhle sikhulu kunokomama wendlu. Uzokwehla uma isimo sengqondo sokuzithoba kumfazi osebenzayo sibi kuye kunokuba owesifazane umyeni wakhe anakho, noma uma engafuni ukuya emsebenzini. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, kuyoba isimo esihlukile, izici zezombusazwe, ezenhlalakahle nezomnotho zowesifazane.
Isigqi sokuphila sishintsha
Ukusebenza nawe kuhlanganisa ushintsho kwisigqi sokuphila. Manje, uhlelo lokusebenza luzobanjwa njengesizathu, futhi luzoxhomeka ngesikhathi sosuku nosuku olungasebenzi, ukunakekela amalungu omndeni, ukunakekela indlu, ukulungiselela isidlo kanye nenani lesikhathi samahhala. Ushintsho kwisigqi sokuphila kuholela ekushintsheni emsebenzini womzimba nokuphumula kwawo, ukudla nokulala.
Izinguquko zezindima zomndeni
Uma owesifazane eya emsebenzini wenza indima yakhe yomsebenzi, futhi wenza indima yomgcini wendawo, umama nomfazi, kodwa kaningi kangako. Ngakho-ke, kukhona ukwabiwa kwemithwalo yemfanelo kulo mndeni nokushintsha isimo sengqondo.
Ukuhlukana kusuka kwengane
Ukuya emsebenzini yisikhathi lapho umama nomntwana behlukaniswa omunye nomunye. Ingane iba isizimele ngokwengeziwe, asisekho njengoba efuna umama, futhi iya enkulisa. Ngomntwana nangomama, isikhathi esimnandi nesinzima sokuhlangana komunye nomunye siphelile, uma umama ekhuluma kahle ngomntwana "thina".
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukukhumbula nokuqonda ukuthi owesifazane ukuya emsebenzini ukucindezeleka. Udinga ukuqaphela leli qiniso, uqonde ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe, khona-ke lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukuba usinde.
Ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane uhlangabezana nokucindezeleka, ukulahlekelwa amandla, ukudabuka, ukukhathala nokungaqondi ukuthi kwenzekani kuye, uqala ukuzizwa enecala. Kubonakala sengathi le mizwa ibangelwa ukulahlekelwa amakhono, ukungakwazi ukujoyina iqembu, ukungathandi ukusebenza. Kodwa empeleni kuyasabela ekucindezelekeni. Owesifazane udinga ukunikezwa isikhathi ukuze akwazi ukushintshela kumsebenzi omusha, futhi ukuvumelanisa kwenzeka. Ukuqonda kahle leli qiniso kusiza ukucindezeleka.
Ukusebenzisa lezi zeluleko kanye nezincomo, owesifazane oshiye isimemezelo angakwazi ukubuyisela ngokushesha amakhono akhe ochwepheshe futhi ajoyine ngokushesha umsebenzi wokusebenza.