"Ukuvakasha ngezocansi" - kuzwakalisa ukudlala, okuhamba kahle futhi okufashisa kakhulu. Unyaka ngamunye amadoda nabesifazane abaningi basebenzisa isikhathi sabo sokuphumula, benothando lwangaphandle nabantu abangabazi noma ukuthenga izinsizakalo zobulili endaweni. Ingabe kukhona imingcele yokuvakasha okuvunyelwe abathengi emhlabeni futhi kuphi indlela yokuthakazelisa ehola? Mayelana namazwe asekude, ulwandle oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, amehlo amahle - konke okujabulisayo nemigoqo yokuvakasha kocansi ukukhuluma namuhla.
Umdlali we-Charlotte Rampling oneminyaka engamashumi ayisihlanu nesishiyagalolunye wayazi kusengaphambili ukuthi uphukisa amahloni lapho u-Ellen edlala emabhayisikobho ethi "Eningizimu", ekhishwe ngo-2006. Ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engama-70 uthisha waseNgilandi oneminyaka engama-middle ubudala waya eHaiti efuna izinzuzo zocansi. U-Ellen uhlangana nendawo yokuhlala ephethe umfana omnyama wendawo futhi amkhokhele ngocansi. I-cinema ihlukumeze izintambo eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa futhi yabonisa ukuthi lolo hlangothi lokuphila, okuyinto emphakathini ngokuvamile ethanda ukuthula. Ukuxoshwa kwelinye lezingxoxo uthe unqume ukuqala inkanyezi kuleli filimu elishaqisayo "ngaphandle kokubambisana nezwe elihluphekayo laseHaiti futhi ngenxa yesihawu sabesifazane okufanele baye emkhawulweni wezwe ukuze bazizwe bewathandwa."
Imizila eshisayo
Ngonyaka ngoFebhuwari-Mashi, izinkulungwane zamaKhanada, amaMelika nabaseNtshonalanga zivula isikhathi esishisayo eziqhingini zaseCaribbean zaseJamica naseBarbados. Eminye imizila yezintandokazi zobulili yi-Europe Yurophu (ngokuyinhloko iGrisi, Italy, amazwe aseYugoslavia, eTurkey naseSpain) futhi kancane kancane eThailand nase-Afrika naseKenya naseGambia.
Ngokwezibalo zomcwaningi waseMelika uJeanette Bellevo, owashicilela ngo-2006 incwadi mayelana nokuvakasha kobulili besifazane "Uthando ekhaya", eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-25 edlule, abesifazane abangaba ngu-600 000 basuka emazweni athuthukile babhekana nalolu hlobo lokuphumula.
Abangamashumi amathathu-, abaneminyaka engamashumi amane namashumi amahlanu ubudala, abazimele ngokwezezimali, baveza amanoveli abancane nabakhangayo abadlali, abadansi, abadayisi abakhumbuza, "abafana basogwini" abangasebenzi. Zichitha isikhathi ndawonye embhedeni, ogwini nasezinkundleni zamaholide, futhi emva kwamaholide akhokhela izipho ezibizayo (izambatho ezinamabala, amawashi, njll) achitha ndawonye, futhi - njalo - ngemali. E-Yurophu YaseYurophu, abathandi bokugibela ngokuvamile abadingi isinxephezelo seholide yama-romantic ehlangene.
Ngokungafani nokuvakasha kwabantu besilisa ngokobulili kuhlotshaniswa kakhulu nobufebe. E-Thailand, ngenxa yokuzijabulisa ngokobulili, cishe isigamu sezigidi zabantu abavela kwamanye amazwe bashiya unyaka ngamunye, iningi lawo lingamadoda aneminyaka engama-35-55, ephakathi. Bayazi isiRashiya hhayi ngamazwi ngamazwe akude. Ngokusho kukaRosstat, ngaphezu kwezinyanga ezingu-9 zokuqala zonyaka odlule, iThailand yavakashelwa ngabaseRussia abangaphezu kuka-84 000. Lesi sibalo siphindwe izikhathi ezingu-2.5 ngaphezu kwesikhathi esifanayo ngo-2005. Ngokusho kochwepheshe bezinkampani zokuvakasha, iningi liyahamba ngokuzijabulisa ngokuzijabulisa ngokocansi.
"Lolu hlobo lwezokuvakasha luthandwa kakhulu phakathi kwamaklayenti abesilisa abasha kusukela eminyakeni engu-25 kuya kwengu-38 ubudala," kusho uNatalia Kovaleva, umphathi we-ejensi yokuhamba yaseMoscow uLaurel, phakathi kwabanye abahlinzeka ngezivakashi zobulili eThailand. - Bahamba bodwa, nabangani noma ngisho nemibhangqwana, enentombazane. Empeleni, ukuvakasha kobulili kungabi ngemali, noma uhlelo oluvela evamile alufani. Kalula, umhlahlandlela wethu wendawo usiza ukuqondisa, unikeza izincomo embuzweni othi "Uzophi?" Kumakheli ezindawo zokuzijabulisa zendawo. Kodwa, kufanele kuqashelwe, izivakashi zethu "zithuthukile" ngalokhu, zona ngokwazo ziyazi konke. Bakhetha iPataya, ezinye iziqhingi eThailand, ngemva kwakho konke, ukuze uthole iholidi eliphumula kakhulu. "
Ukubonwa okwakutholiwe abavakashi bethu ngokubuyisa bayashintshaniswa ezinkundleni eziningi zokuvakasha. Isizathu esiyinhloko salokho kuhamba ngethuba lokuhlanganisa nezinsizakalo ezisheshayo nezokuziphatha ngezocansi ngenqubo yezivakashi ezithakazelisayo.
"Kungani" ngilenga "nge-taek ne-asian ngokujwayelekile? - esinye sezivakashi ezithangamini ze-intanethi zibuza, " Umsebenzi wangithola. Kusukela ocansini nabalingani bakho abatholi ukwaneliseka okunjalo. Aa hhayi ngempela mina nginguBrad Pitt. Ukuphila komndeni? Njengoba umngane wami esho, "iminyaka eyishumi sinezinto zombili eziba ngamagama afanele omlobi uVictoria Tokareva," izihlalo. " I-"stool" eyodwa iletha imali, nje kuphela ukwazi ukuthi uma ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, uzobona isitsha se-borsch nesigcawu sesibili "sigqoko" esembatho egqoke noma ihembe eliboshiwe ... Ngemva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu ukudlala ngothando kuyabangela ukukhathazeka. Flirt-izimbali-izipho-zokudlela-izinombolo ... Akukho lutho kulokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubudlelwane obungokomzwelo bunomkhuba wokuthunjwa nokulimala ngesikhathi sokuphuka. Ukukhethwa okulula kakhulu futhi okuphumelelayo kuwukuthi "Ngizokunika imali, udinga mina - izihlalo," ngoba ekugcineni lo muntu uyadingeka ... Futhi uma kunethuba lokuthola okufanayo, yebo, nokunye okuningi ngesamba esifanayo, kanye nokuhamba, bheka ukuthula, ke "kungani ukhokhela ngaphezulu?"
Ukulala ngaphandle kwezibopho
Izakhamuzi zaseRussia eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule zajoyina ukugeleza okujwayelekile kwezivakashi zobulili, ngesikhathi esifanayo nokwandisa indawo yayo. Basebenziseka kakhulu ngokuqondene nokuthi bayaphi - ukuvakasha kobulili kunendawo yonke indawo. Ezihambi zobulili ezifuywayo, isidingo sithandwa ngokuyinhloko iTurkey, iGibhithe kanye nogwini lwaseCrimea. Okulandelayo ohlwini kukhona iSpain, Greece, Croatia, isiqhingi saseNdiya saseGoa nasePhuketland yaseThailand.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngokungafani nezivakashi zaseNtshonalanga, amaholide othandana avame ukubiza amaRussia mahhala. Ezimweni eziningi, udala i-classic spa romance. Ukuxhumana okufushane kwabantu abadala ababili ngesikhathi sokuphumula. Ngaphandle kwanoma yiziphi izibopho zombili futhi "ngesizathu samahhala." Kodwa izisusa ziyafana, isizungu-jikelele, isidingo sokunakwa nokusondelana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyisimangaliso.
"Umyeni wami uneminyaka engamashumi ayishumi kunami, ubudlelwane obuseduze nathi buyanciphisa ize, " kusho u-Irina, 39. - Ekhaya isikhathi sonke ngizizwa "ngaphansi kwengcindezi": Angiziphathe ngale ndlela, ngibheka okubi njalo njalo. Kanye ngonyaka, ngoSeptemba, ngiphonsa konke ngihambe nomngani wami eSharm El Sheikh. Siphila ehotela lezinkanyezi ezine, phakathi nosuku esiwashona ngalo ilanga futhi siwabhukuda, ebusuku siyazitholela. Laba abaseGibhithe abasebasha bavele baphahlamezekile, bahlonipha, baxwayise zonke izifiso zabo. Ngesikhathi sokuphumula, nginelisekile ngokuphelele ngobuhlobo obunjalo futhi ngiphinde ngiphinde ngiphinde ngivuselele - ngizizwa nginjengebuhle nenkosikazi. Mayelana nanoma iziphi izipho noma inkulumo yemali ayikho. Into enzima kunazo zonke ukubuyela ekhaya: amaviki ambalwa okuqala ukucindezeleka kuhamba. "
Esinye isisusa sokuvakasha kobulili besifazane yinkinga yokukhulula ngokocansi. Ngaphandle kwekhaya, ungakwazi ukukhohlwa okwesikhashana mayelana "nemigomo yokuziphatha" nezinkimbinkimbi ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuthi uzobhekwa njengomuntu othukile futhi olahlwe.
U-Olesya, uMuscovite oneminyaka engamashumi amabili nane ubudala, owavakashela i-Ibiza ehlobo eledlule, uthi umkhathi wesimo esiqhingini ukhululekile kakhulu ukukhululeka uthando: "I-Ibiza iyisiqhingi esingunaphakade esiyingozi lapho kungekho muntu ocabanga ngezinkinga. Sonke sasijabulela umculo, ulwandle nomunye nomunye. Abaningi abavakashi, empeleni, abantu abasha - baseMelika, abase-Australia, abaseYurophu (kaningi iPoles namaBulgaria). Abantu abaningi abacebile. Ulasha lwabafana "abahlaza okwesibhakabhaka". Okukhangayo okuyinhloko kuyi-discos namaqembu. Njengamabhishi, izidakamizwa zinikwe eduze kokungena kwamakilabhu - kukhona njalo i-pandemonium. Kulula kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ikhanda lakho - iholide eqhubekayo nothando. "
Ngendlela "yokudla okusheshayo"
Yini ezoguqula uthando lwamaholide empilweni yakho, incike kuwe kuphela, izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile. Mhlawumbe, ubudlelwane obukhanyako nesikhathi esifushane kuzokusiza ukukhukhuma futhi bakholwe ekukhangeni kwabo nesifiso, baphulukiswe ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo okubangelwa uthando esikhathini esidlule, futhi banike amandla amandla okuqhubeka. Mhlawumbe, bayonandisa uthando lwakho futhi bayokukhulula ezinkimbinkimbi, kuzosiza ekutholeni okungenani ezinye izicabangela zocansi eziyimfihlo kakhulu. Into eyinhloko ukugcina umqondo weqiniso futhi hhayi "ukuhlala phansi" emidlalweni yamaholide, njengenhlobo yokuhlukumezeka. Uma kungenjalo, usengozini yokuba ocansini obungenangqondo nojulile.
"Ubulili kubantu abanjalo akuyona ukuphefumula kokuthandana nobudlelwane, kodwa imizuzu enhle (ukufanisa okufanayo)," ixwayisa u-Yevhen Kulgavchuk, isazi sezocansi esisebenzayo, isazi sengqondo, i-vice-president we-Russian Association of Sexologists. - Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuqala kocansi okuqondile kuyakha. Ngempela uthola lokhu, ebuhlotsheni obuhlala njalo, ubulili buba mnandi. Abantu abajwayele ukuthanda. Ewusizo noma, ngokuphambene, le "ezokuvakasha" limaza impilo yezocansi, akunakwenzeka ukusho ngokungaqondile. Izifo ezithathelwana ngokobulili (ikhondomu ayinikezi isiqinisekiso esiphezulu se-100%). Izinzuzo - indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzethemba ngokobulili, ukuthola ukuvezwa kwemizwelo, uzizwe amandla wezocansi. "
Ekugcineni, yini okufanele uyibuke ekugcineni komhlaba - engalindelekile, kodwa uthando lwangempela noma ucansi ngesakhiwo "sokudla okusheshayo", wonke umuntu uyazikhethela.
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Ukuthandwa kwezokuvakasha kwezocansi kugqugquzelwa yizincwadi namafilimu kule ndaba.
✓ Incwadi yakhe ethengisa kakhulu "Indlela uStella aqala ngayo ukumomotheka futhi" ngo-1998, uTerry McMillan utshele indaba yokuphila kwakhe: owesifazane oyedwa onomabhizinisi uhamba waya eJamaica futhi uthola injabulo yowesifazane ezandleni zomfana osemusha. Empilweni yangempela, uMacmillan wathatha isifanekiso seqhawe lakhe. Bahlukanisa lapho umyeni evuma ukuthi uyingqingili.
✓ Ukudlala komNgisi uWillie Russell "Sithandwa Shirley" mayelana nokuzijabulisa kobuhlobo eGrithani lowesifazane owayesekhulile uShirley wajabulela impumelelo kangangokuthi isiteketiso sikaShirley valentine sasilungiselelwe izivakashi zobulili eGrithani.
✓ Umsebenzi odabukisayo kakhulu mayelana nokuvakasha kobulili yiyona "Platform" yomlobi ongumFulentshi uMichel Huelbek. Kukhona konke: amazwe asekude, olwandle oluhlaza okwesibhakabhakeni, amehlo amahle ... Kusemthethweni ophakathi nendawo ejwayelekile, ukuvakasha kobulili kuba umqondo wokulungisa: uphupha ukujabula ngosizo lwakhe bonke abantu.
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ebuhlotsheni obufudumele, obethembayo. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuntuleka okukhulu kokukhulumisana, kufaka phakathi ezingeni lomzimba. Phela, ubudlelwane bomzimba - ukucindezela, ukuthintana - ngoba umuntu kusukela ebuntwaneni kubaluleke kakhulu. Uma kungekho, lokhu kuyabuhlungu. Futhi ukuvakasha kobulili kuleli cala kungenye yezindlela ezilula zokufaka endaweni.
Uma ubuhlobo buhambisana nokuphenduka noma akekho okwamanje, ukuthanda iholide kungaba yindlela eyodwa yokuthola ukuqashelwa kobulili obuhlukile, ukucwilisa esimweni sothando, ukuvuselela imizwa yakho. Ubuhlobo obunjalo abukhombisi izibopho, njengomndeni. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kusiza ukuzizwa kudingekile, ukukhangisa, ukugwinya umlingani, okungenakho ekuphileni kwansuku zonke.