Kuyini ukunganakwa nokuthi ungaphuma kanjani kulombuso?

Uma uphonsela ingoma ethi "akukho-che-ho-ho, angifuni" amanothi okungazi kahle, ngakho-ke ngeke sibe nenkosikazi, kodwa isibonelo esibonakalayo sentombazane esesimweni sokunganaki. Thina, besifazane bekhulu lama-21, sikhalaza ngalesi simo cishe njalo lapho sisigijimela ngamazwi: "Ngicindezelekile!" Kodwa ingabe siyazi ukuthi yini ngemuva kwalokhu? Kungani ngokuzumayo, kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, kusukela manje, ngezinye izikhathi nje endaweni ephansi, isifiso sokujabulela ukuphila siyanyamalala futhi lo mzwa ubuya kanjani? Ukusuka ngaphandle kuyacasula. Uhlala engumfana - enempilo, ekhangayo, enamandla, eya emsebenzini futhi ehambela isoka lakhe, ekhuluma nabangani, angakwazi ukukhokhela noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuzijabulisa, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uthi: "Angifuni lutho." Akafuni ukudla ushokoledi wakhe owathandayo, akafuni ukuya enkampanini epholile futhi abuyele eParis ukuya enqwabeni - naye. Futhi lokhu akusiyo into. Noma, uthi, ubukele njengomngane, njalo ngokukhathazeka okukhethekile ukubuka ukubukeka kwakhe, ngokuzumayo waqala ukugqoka ukuthi i-first falls out of the closet, ukhohliwe ngezithende futhi ugeza ikhanda lakhe ngezikhathi. Futhi aziphatheli ngenxa yomzabalazo wokulingana kobulili. Ngendlela, awuzange kwenzeke ngale ndlela?

Ube ngaphandle kwemizwa
Igama eliyisihluthulelo ekuchazeni ukunganaki "ukunganaki". Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuqala yimibuzo ethi "Angikhathaleli" futhi nomuzwa wokuthi awunandaba neze. Futhi endaweni lapho ukuphila ngokwayo kusetshenziselwa ukubilisa. Ngabe umbuzo othi: "Uzoba yini, i-steak noma i-eclair ejabulisayo?" wena uthi, "Nginike insiza." Kodwa hhayi ngenxa yokuthi uyasifisa inyama noma awukwazi ukubekezelela ubumnandi, kodwa ngoba nje kufanele ukhethe okuthile, kanye nokukhumbula kwakho - ukulondoloza impilo kuyadingeka ukudla. Ekhuluma ngemicabango yengqondo, umuntu ongenandaba naye ubhekisela kulokho okwenzeka kuye: ngoba akekho umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwezenzakalo ezenza injabulo nokwaneliseka, nalabo abangela ukuhlupheka nobuhlungu. Ukunganakwa kungabikho kwemizwa. Akufanele kudidaniswe no-abulia-ukwephulwa kwendawo efunayo, lapho umuntu engafuni ukwenza noma yini. Kusukela ukunganakwa kokungasebenzi kungathatha isikhathi. Umuntu ongenandaba naye uyaqhubeka ukusebenza, ukuya endaweni ethile nabangani, ukuhola impilo yakhe evamile - nge-inertia, ngaphandle kokuzwa ukunambitheka kwakhe. Yini eya enkampanini, ukuthi uzohlala ekhaya, ukuthi intando, ukuthi uyithunjwa ...

Ukuxilongwa "kokunganaki" ngokwakho akukhona. Ngomqondo womtholampilo - cishe ukunganakwa okuphelele, uma kungenayo ingxenye yepilo esikhathini esithile, kodwa konke (impilo) ngokuphelele. Kodwa ngenxa yalokhu udinga izidingo ezibalulekile (izifo): ukucindezeleka, i-schizophrenia, ukulimala komqondo kobuchopho - esithombeni esinjalo, ukungabi nomuzwa okuphelele kungenye yezimpawu. Khona-ke isiguli sigxila enkingeni nodokotela oya kuyo. Sifuna ukukhuluma ngenye into. Ukunganakwa kungazibonakalisa njengento "yendawo" empilweni yomuntu, indlela ehlanganisiwe ezimweni ezithile ezifanayo. Isibonelo, okulandelayo.

Ukudlula imizwa
Ukuzizwa nje njengokudla okunamandla njengokukwenza okuthile. Futhi okuhlangenwe nakho (akubalulekile, kunzima, kuxhumene nokulahlekelwa noma usizi noma kumnandi futhi ujabule) ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka okuningi kakhulu. Khona-ke isilwane esihlakaniphile sithatha isinqumo: "Konke, bushe!" Futhi njengekhompyutheni, ingena kwimodi yokulondoloza amandla - ivele iguqulwe. Futhi kulokhu akukho lutho olwesabekayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, unethuba lokuphumula kancane. Yebo, ngezinye izikhathi imizwa ingadinga ukuphumula.

Ukwedlula umsebenzi
Uma ungumlutha wemvelo, zama ukufeza umgomo kuzo zonke izithiyo kanye namameva - kuyisiqalekiso sakho. Noma nenye enye uhlobo - enesibopho futhi enesithakazelo, osebenza ngokungakhathali futhi ngeke aphumule aze abuyele konke futhi kancane kancane ngenhla. Kuzo zombili lezi zimo, i-heroine ilindele ukukhathala - kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ukukhathala. Futhi-ke uphoqeleka ukuba alale phansi eseceleni, ungenzi lutho futhi ungacabangi, ngoba amandla asenaso lutho, ashiye ukufeza, afinyelele futhi anqobe. Umzimba uphinde ubeke isimiso esimweni esiphuthumayo ukuze uthole amandla okuqala kabusha.

Umsebenzi wokuvikela
Ake sithathe isibonelo. Uhambisane nosuku oluthandayo ngempela. Kodwa-ke ngitshela abangane bami ukuthi awunandaba uma ebiza noma cha. Futhi into emangalisa kakhulu ukuthi awukhohlisi. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngale ndlela ungasabeleli ngokoqobo, kodwa ekuboneni okuhlangenwe nakho okubi okudlule. Uma ixhunywe neqiniso lokuthi lizwa libuhlungu, liyingozi, liyesabeka, khona-ke kukhona isilingo sokunganaki, ukuze uzivikele ekuhlukunyezweni okusobala. Indlela, uvumelane, ungakhethi, futhi uzondle ukuba usebenzise kuso ngezinye izikhathi uma usebenza nesazi sengqondo.

Imiphumela yokucindezeleka okukhulu / ukuhlukunyezwa / isimo esibucayi
Kungenakwenzeka neze ukuyizwa, kuyoba yingozi ngenxa yobuningi noma izinga lomzwelo. Ukuwavala, ungawumisa uphinde uhambe nawo. Khona-ke isimo saphela, kodwa imizwa yavalwa. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuqala kancane kancane ukuvuselela. Nokho, lokhu kuvame ukuthuthukiswa kwezenzakalo. Ukwethuka kwakunamandla kangangokuthi kwakungeke kwenzeke ukuqala ukuzwa futhi - kwakungesabekayo ukuhlangabezana nalokho owazihlukanisa nakho okungenakuxolisa. Futhi i-psyche ivikelwe ukunganaki. Uma ukucindezeleka kuthinta indawo encane yokuphila, ubona ukubonakaliswa kokunganakwa. Uma kuziwa esimweni esibuhlungu somthelela womhlaba wonke, ukunganakwa okuphelele kungenzeka. Lesi samuva, ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba sesishilo kakade, siphakathi kwezinkinga zokudabuka kokucindezeleka ngemuva kokudabuka. Futhi lapha ungadinga usizo lochwepheshe kanye nomsebenzi othize wengqondo ohlose ukuphinde uphinde ukwazi ukuzwa.

Isifo seSomatic
Ukusebenza okunciphile komzimba wonke kuthinta inselelo yechungechunge neyomzwelo ikakhulukazi - futhi umsebenzi wayo, i-alas, ibuthakathaka. Futhi lapha, futhi, kukhona ukunganaki.

Uma kudingekile ukuba ukhale insimbi ukuze angabibizi emva kwakho, umbuzo uhlukile. Kodwa omunye kufanele ahlale eqaphile njengoba izinyathelo zokuphila zanda, lapho ukunganakwa kubonakala khona. Lapha, ngokwesibonelo, kusibonelo somuntu omuhle okufanele abize. Uma ukunganaki kungenza umsebenzi ovikelayo kuphela, uqhubeka uhamba kanzima empilweni, kuphela ukuvala imizwa eyodwa, ngokuqondene nesimo esithile - "Angikhathaleli uma kukhona okunye okuqhubekayo nalo." Kodwa uma ngemuva kosuku olusha ungafuni ukwenza lutho - kuhlanganise nokukwenza, futhi awukwazi ukukholelwa kunoma yini enhle, kufana nombuso ocindezelayo, akukhona nje kuphela futhi awukwenzi ngokunganakwa.

Indlela yokuphuma ekunganakwa
Ngakho, uzibheka ohlangothini futhi uthole izibonakaliso zokunganakwa. Manje umsebenzi wakho ukuthola umongo owenzile futhi, nakanjani, ukuwuguqula. Yithi, icala ngokusebenza ngokweqile - kuyadingeka ukuba "uphumule" ukuphumula. Uyabona ukuthi izimo eziphindaphindiwe ziholela ekunganakwa, uzizwa "ukusikisela" ohlelweni lokusebenza - mhlawumbe udinga ukuphendukela kwesazi sengqondo uphinde ubhekane nalezi zikhathi ezijwayelekile. Noma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukubhekana nawe, uqaphele ukuthi kungani udinga lokhu ukunganaki. Ukwenza lokhu, zama ukudlulisa ukuhlolwa okuncane. Uma noma yiliphi lala mazwi lingase libizwe ngezwi lakho langaphakathi, funda ngokuqhubekayo - akunjalo yini lokhu?

"Ngiyaphila, ngigcwele impilo, kufaka phakathi imizwelo. Ngiyajabula, ngikhathazekile, ngilindele, nginenkathazo, ngiyadabuka." Kodwa kwenzeka, njengokungathi nginokuqonda, futhi kubonakala sengathi isimo sibalulekile kimi, futhi anginandaba nokuthi kuzophela yini. "

Cishe, okwenzeka kuwe okwamanje kuhlotshaniswa nokuhlangenwe nakho okubi esikhathini esedlule, lapho ubuzwe bakho bungakulimaza futhi uwuvala. Udinga ukuqeda ukubonakala kwakhe okwamanje, ukuze ukwazi ukuphila ngokugcwele impilo yakho nayo yonke imizwelo yesikhonzi.

"Anginayo imizwa - futhi angikwenzi.
Ngaphandle kwabo, ukuphila kulula futhi kuthula. Ukulala okuhle, ukudla okunempilo, ukusebenza ngokomzimba nokungabulawa emsebenzini - yilokho engikudingayo. Inhloko ecacile kanye nohlelo olucacile lwesenzo. "

Uhlelo olukhulu! Kufanele ngempela uphumule. Ukusuka ekuzweleni ngokweqile ngokunembile, futhi mhlawumbe, kusukela emsebenzini oqhubekayo. Ngakho alulame ngempumelelo. Futhi emva kwalo, buyela ezweni lomzwelo - livuselelwe futhi lilungele ukulibona kuyo yonke imibala.

"Angikwazi ukususa umuzwa wokuthi ngiphila ku-autopilot." Yebo, ngisasebenza, ngiphumelele, nginezinhlobonhlobo zabathintana nabo, kodwa angitholi injabulo, nakuba ngingasho ukuthi ngizizwa kabi.

Qaphela futhi unake isimo sakho somzwelo. Ukungabikho kwesimo sengqondo esiqondayo kulokho okwenzekayo kuyisignali esabekayo, kungaba yinto yokucindezeleka. Mhlawumbe, kufanelekile ukuphendukela kuchwepheshe ukuze ubuyisele impilo yakho futhi uyizwe njengayo yonke.