Ukudlala umphakathi.
Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi lokho akukwenzeki ekuphileni noma othandweni. Abanye bavumelanisa kalula ngaleli qiniso futhi abafuni ukuhambisana nemibono yabanye abantu mayelana nokuthi ubuhlobo obungenakulinganiswa buyini. Abanye bakhuphuka esikhumbeni, kuphela ukudala ukubonakala kwebheyili ekahle. Ngamunye wethu uhlangane nabantu abanjalo kaningi. Bakhuluma ngobuhlobo babo kanye nalezi zindaba azifani ne-pink and sweet candy candy, kusukela kumafilimu angenalwazi nakakhulu. Abanayo izikhathi zokuxabana nomhawu, ubulili babo buhlale beziqhumane, abazipholi, bahlale beqaphele, ukuphila kwabo kwansuku zonke kufana namaholide amahle kakhulu abantu abavamile. Akumangazi ukuthi i-idyll enjalo iphakamisa umona. Kodwa kwenzekani lokhu?
Yiqiniso, ukubonisa izinkinga zabo kuyizwi elibi. Zonke izingxabano nokuxabana kungcono kakhulu ekhaya. Kodwa, uma nje uzenza sengathi konke kuhle kuwe, khona-ke iqiniso lizobonakala kuwo wonke umuntu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ubusiso bokubonisana, ukuhlangana, izindaba ezikhukhumezayo ngenjabulo eqinisweni kungaba nje isibuko esifihle ukunganaki, izimangalo ezithandanayo, ukungavumelani nempilo yabo.
Ungadli amanzi.
Kukhona imibhangqwana, lapho ihlangane kanye, ayihlanganyeli ngokushesha. Abathandi abanjalo baphila, basebenze futhi baphumule ndawonye. Ngeke bacabange uhambo oluya eholidini ngokwehlukana, uhambo olujwayelekile esitolo ngaphandle komunye nomunye kungaba yingozi enkulu kubo. Kuyinto ejabulisayo ukubukela ubudlelwane babo - abavuthiwe, nakuba bechitha usuku lonke ndawonye. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ubuze othandekayo wakho ukuthi angashiyi okwesikhashana, cabanga ukuthi wenza iphutha.
Eqinisweni, imibhangqwana enjalo kaningi ayishiyi komunye nomunye hhayi othandweni olukhulu futhi hhayi nje ngesifiso sokucabangela othandekayo. Ebuhlotsheni obunjalo, kukhona umholi ocacile njalo odlala indima yesibili. Kukhona umhawu ovame ukuqina, okuba yisizathu sokuthi abathandi abahlanganyeli. Ngendlela, empeleni, lokhu kulawulwa ngokuphelele akuthandwa yiwo wonke umuntu.
Ichibi elithuthukile.
Kunamabhangqwana abo ubuhlobo babo nempilo yabo ayishintshi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Akhe aphikisana, ungabilisi ngesikhwele nangesithakazelo, ebuhlotsheni babo konke kuhle kanye nokubikezela. Bazama ukuxazulula izinkinga ezibucayi ngokuthula, bakhetha isazi sengqondo somndeni sokushaya izitsha, bahlale behlelwa kahle futhi bangalokothi bavumele ngokweqile.
Ingabe lokhu akuyona imodeli yobuhlobo obuhle? Eqinisweni, ubuhlobo obuhle nobumnene buhle, kodwa sonke siphumelele imizwa ngokushesha. Singacasuka noma sithukuthele, sithokoze noma sihlupheke. Uma le mizwelo icindezelwa noma ifihliwe ngokucophelela, ukukhishwa okudingekayo kuzokwenzeka. Kuphela kuleli cala, isiphepho singase sibe namandla kakhulu futhi imiphumela iyingozi kakhulu.
Egameni lothando.
Ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukugcina indlela abanye abashadikazi abenza ngayo izinto zangempela egameni lomunye nomunye. Lezi zipho ezibizayo, izingoma ngaphansi kwefasitela, ukuthethelelwa kokuziphatha okubi kakhulu. Yilaba bantu abaqaqa nge-parachute, bhala izingoma futhi bavula izinkanyezi ezintsha ngenxa yabathandekayo babo. Ngeke ukwazi ukuwahawukela.
Kodwa bambalwa abantu abaqaphela ukuthi izipho zokunethezeka zizenzo ezinhle, njengokungathi zidalwe abaqondisi abahamba phambili be-melodramas, lokhu kungumvuzo wesibambiso, ukunganakwa, ukufutheka. Imoto emisha yentombazane yakho ingumzamo wokumbamba kanjani, ngemuva kokuba othandekayo engabuye ekhaya ukuba ahlale khona ebusuku. Ingabe zonke lezi zinto ezinhle namazwi aphezulu alawo mazwa ukuthi abathandi abangathandeki kufanele bahlangane?
Sonke senza amaphutha. Sinekhwele, sithukuthele, sithukuthele, siphikisiwe, sikhohlisiwe, siphikisana. Ngezinye izikhathi sikulungele ukuphumula, futhi ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komunye nomunye. Konke lokhu kuvamile. Kubalulekile ukwethembeka nathi. Abanye bangase bangaqapheli ukuthi yini ngempela elandela ukuvuma kwakho okunamandla, kodwa kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi lobu buhlobo buyakujabulisa.