Musa "ukuqinisa" i-carapace
Ngezingane konke kucacile: kubo, nanoma yiliphi igama elisha - njengethoyi, elitholakale ngephutha kwi-sandbox. Uzwa inkulumo ephonswe umuntu (enkulisa, esitolo, emgwaqweni), lapha bayithatha. Izingane ezineminyaka emithathu noma emine ngokuvamile aziqondi ngisho nalokho okushiwo labo labo abafunga ngakho ukuthi basebenzise enkulumweni yabo. Bangakwazi ukuphindela kabili engxoxweni into enjengale, bese bekhohlwa ngokuphepha ngakho. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi uma abazali bethukuthele, bekhubekile, bejeziswa noma behleka, ingane esikhathini esizayo ingakwazi ukufungela umama nobaba ngokuqondile, ihlolwe ngamandla. Futhi mhlawumbe ukungenzi ufunge, kodwa igama elibangela ukusabela kubantu abadala, khumbula ngokuqinisekile - izazi ze-psycholog ibiza ngokuthi "i-anchoring", ukulungiswa. Ngakho-ke, kufanele sicindezele ngokucophelela "ingxoxo". Uma ingane iqala ukwehla ungqimba olungcolile, yenza sengathi ayizwanga lutho. Kodwa ngomkhawulo weso lakho, bukela ingane. Uma engumuntu othile ngaleso sikhathi, cishe, ukuqalekisa kungumphumela wezwi elizenzekelayo ozoqedwa ngokwalo. Enye into, uma ingane imbiza ngokuzithandela upapa ngengqondo, futhi umfowabo - shit ("potty" ukuqalekisa ngaleyo minyaka iyathandwa ikakhulukazi) noma sebenzisa inhlamba, ukuqagela ngokucacile ngencazelo yalo. Khuluma ngokuqinile ukuthi emndenini wakho awuvezwanga. Ukujezisa noma ukuhlazeka ingane akufanelekile: usengumuntu omncane kakhulu futhi akaqondi lokho akwenzayo, ngakho umsebenzi wakho ukumfundisa ukwenza okulungile. Impi ephendula ekuhlukumezweni - ngokujwayelekile okubi kakhulu kwalokho ongakucabanga ngakho! Kuvela ukuziphatha okuphindwe kabili: umama nobaba bangafunga, ingane ayikwazi? Uma ingane icela ukuthi ichaze incazelo yegama elibi, yenza lesi simo. Uma kunembile kakhulu, ungayisho, ucele ukuthi ungaboniswa futhi. Uma kungekho amagama okufana, tshela ngokuqinile: "Asazi amagama anjalo emndenini wethu", shintsha ukunakekelwa kwengane emdlalweni othile.
Khuluma nami, Mama
Iminyaka engaba ngu-5 kuya kweyisikhombisa isimo siyashintsha - izinhlanzi ezincane ziqala ukufunga ngokungcolile. Kungani? Ngokuvamile, ngale ndlela, bazama ... ukuheha ukunakwa kwabazali babo! Isibonelo, umama ubelokhu "elenga" amahora amabili efonini, futhi indodana izama ukumkhipha kude nebhubhisi ngaphandle komphumela. Akekho "mama, asidlale" akusebenzi. Kodwa kuyambiza ukuba ahlasele igama elihlambalazayo - i-tube izobe ifakwe ngokushesha. Yiqiniso, umama uzoqala ukukhuluma ngenkulumo ethukuthele, kodwa bese wehlisa futhi ngokuqinisekile udlale naye! Esinye isizathu sokuhlambalaza umzamo wokulingisa umuntu: umzalwane osekhulile, umdwebo we-cartoon noma u-serial (yebo, uma ubheka nabo kanye nomntwana, uyomangala ngokuchichima kwamagama athi "dude", "isikhulu", njll). Esinye isizathu-isifiso sokubheka okugunyazayo futhi "sinamandla" emehlweni ontanga. Indlela yokuqeda ingane ekuhlambulukeni?
■ Zama ukwakha ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo naye manje, uchaze okuhle nokubi. Izazi ze-Psychologists zithi: iminyaka engu-5-7 iyona engcono kakhulu yokuxoxisana okufundisayo, ngoba izingane eziningi zithuthuka ukwesaba ukungahambisani komphakathi - ziyesaba ukuthi zingaphili ngokuvumelana nezilingo zabantu abadala.
■ Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi isizathu nanoma yikuphi ukusabalalisa kokuhlukunyezwa kwengane yakho, hlala uphile. Yisho ngokuqinile: "Angifuni ukuzwa izinkulumo ezinjalo kuwe!" Ungabonisi ukudideka kwakho, uma kungenjalo ingane izokhumbula ukuphendula kwakho futhi kusukela manje ingasebenzisa ukunyundela ukuze isabise abanye.
Fundisa ingane ukuba iveze intukuthelo yakhe ngaphandle kokugxeka. Kungcono ukumvumela athi: "Ungithukuthelele kanjani, Mama!", Kunokuba kube khona ukuhleka usulu ngemuva kwakho.
"Umbhali, Phuza Yadu"
Ngentsha, konke kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Okokuqala, ngokuvamile abakhathaleli ukuthi abazali babo bacabangani ngenkulumo yabo. Okwesibili, ingxoxo yabo igcwele amagama "angajwayelekile". Futhi lokhu akusiyo imlingani (nakuba ibuyele) - ikakhulukazi intsha ("loft" (ubuchopho), "i-tusa" (inkampani), "ama-shoelaces" (abazali) noma ukuhlanekezeka kwamazwi okukhulumisana kusuka ekukhulumisaneni kwe-intanethi (" , "krosavcheg," "preved," "pasitiffgeg," njll.) Nokho, ngokumangalisayo, iningi labangqondo bezengqondo bakholelwa ukuthi intsha enolwazi lwabo kufanele ... yishiye yedwa, ngisho noma ikucasula. izazi, intsha yesikhumba iyinto evamile: ikhona, futhi iyohlala ikhona njengento ebaluleke kakhulu yentando yentsha. intsha, indlela yabo yokukhulumisana iyinkululeko yokukhululeka emhlabeni jikelele wabantu abadala, futhi iyisisekelo samanzi phakathi kwe "yethu" nethi "hhayi yethu." Ochwepheshe bathi i-slang yentsha ivuselelwa njalo njalo eminyakeni emihlanu, okusho ukuthi imishwana eyenza uthuthuke, uzoshabalala njengoba ingane yakho ikhula futhi ekugcineni ishukuthela olimini oluvamile.
Ukuba khona okungenakubekezela
Abantu abadala bavame ukwesaba ukuzondwa kwentsha, okuboniswa ngendlela enonya ukugcina futhi ngendlela efanayo ukukhuluma. Noma kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zikhuthaza abazali ukuba bangabesabi - lokhu kuyisigaba esivamile sokuthuthukiswa. Kubonakala ukuthi kusukela ekubukeni kokuziphendukela kwemvelo esiteji sokuqala umuntu ubona umhlaba njengendawo engafanele futhi uvikela ngokumelene nayo ngangokunokwenzeka, kuhlanganise nokufunga amazwi namafesholo. Futhi kuphela ukuza kwakhe kuza ukuqonda ukuthi izwe elizungezile, ngokujwayelekile, alibi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ukucela ingane ukuba ikhulume ngokuthula - umsebenzi ongacabangi neze futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyingozi kakhulu: uma intombazane ihlale ikhumbule ukuhlukumezeka kwakhe, khona-ke ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe ingabe yinto engcono? Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukubheka iminwe yakho ngendlela indodana izama ngayo "ukunikeza ikhanda" kumuntu wokuqala emgqeni noma ukuthi indodakazi yakhe ihlukumeza kanjani ugogo wakhe. Bazisize "ukukhulula umusi" ngendlela ephucukile. Ibhola, ibhoksi, basketball noma ukudansa kwansuku zonke - noma yikuphi umshini wemoto onamandla okuholela ohlelweni lwesimiso sezinzwa.