Ukuthuthukiswa ngokobulili nokukhuliswa kwengane

Ukuthuthukiswa ngokobulili nokukhuliswa kwengane kuhlanganiswe yonke inqubo yemfundo kuwo wonke umzali onakekelayo! Singacabanga ukuthi uma kuvela kahle ukuba aqonde, ke abazali bayazi okuningi ngokukhulisa futhi kuzokwenyuka ukuba umuntu omangalisayo! Kudingeka ukholelwe Freud ukuthi ukukhangwa ngokocansi kuholele ekuphileni komuntu futhi kuxhomeke ekuthuthukiseni ngokocansi kwengane noma kwentsha, nokuthi ubuntu besikhathi esizayo buzoziphatha kanjani emphakathini.

Uzoqala kuphi?

Ngokushesha kungcono ukulahla iziqu ze-storks, iklabishi nezinye izinkolelo ezifanayo zokhokho bethu. Kufanele sithembeke ukuthi akekho ocabanga manje ngakho. Ungamhlukumezi ingane yakho ngezindaba mayelana nesitolo esikhethekile lapho ungathenga khona izingane - ingane izokucela ukuthi uye lapho kulesi sitolo futhi uthenge umzalwane kuye noma udadewabo.
Ungathandi futhi ukwesaba ohlukile kobulili obuhlukile kuyisibonakaliso sokuqala ukuthi lapho esengumntwana onengane, abazange bakhulume kahle ngalezi zihloko, futhi wayejwayele ukucabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo phakathi kobulili buyinto engavunyelwe, kuhlazisa, ngakho-ke kuphikisana nomuntu. Akudingekile ukuphinda amaphutha kwabazali bethu abasebenziseka kancane ekuthuthukiseni ngokocansi kwengane! Phela, ezinye izinkinga zingathuthuka ngenxa yokungazi abazali ngendlela yokukhuluma nengane yabo.

Imiphumela ye "inganekwane" yabazali

Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi intombazane noma umfana, kusukela ebuntwaneni, ephefumulelwe ukuthi ubulili bubi, bekunqatshelwe ukukhuluma ngakho lapho ekhula, nje ushiya "ngaphandle kwezingqimba" futhi angaba yisampula ngokocansi. Kuyafaneleka ukukholwa ukuthi ukuvimbela amandla akho obulili isikhathi eside kunzima kakhulu kumuntu ongafani nabanye abantu abakhulayo, uzobhekana nezinguquko kumzimba wezobuchwepheshe futhi uzofakaza, isibonelo, ubuhlobo obunjalo bohlobo.
Uma ingane ifunda konke kuphela ezindabeni zontanga, khona-ke naye uyoba nemibono engalungile futhi engalungile mayelana nobulili nobuhlobo bobulili. Izingane zinhle kakhulu futhi zilula. Bavele bakopishe abadala futhi ngezinye izikhathi balala nabo njengendlela yokuthakazelisa. Phela, akekho ofuna ingane ukuba ithathe kuyo inhlamba nokukhathazeka? Ubulili kufanele bubonwe njengengxenye yothando futhi ingane kufanele iyiqonde ngokushesha. Khona-ke uyoba nomqondo ofanele mayelana nobuhlobo phakathi kobulili, esikhathini esizayo uzokwazi ukuhlola umlingani wakhe ngokufanele futhi ngokwanele.

Izenzo

Okokuqala, akufanele ugweme ukukhuluma ngezihloko ezifana nokuthuthukiswa kocansi kwengane. Kumele siqonde ukuthi ingane ayikho umehluko phakathi kwemibuzo mayelana nenyanga, izilwane kanye nobulili! Bafuna ukwazi! Futhi yonke ilukuluku idinga ukuvuzwa! Kukhona ukhetho ukuthi uma uzwa impendulo efanele, ngeke abuze imibuzo ngalesi sihloko noma yini! Uma izingxoxo zigwemeka, intshisekelo yakhe iyobe ishashiswe kuphela.
Ukukhuluma kudingekile KUPHELA ngokuyinhloko namagama atholakalayo kuphela. Musa ukucaphuna izincwadi zokufunda nge-anatomy! Ungavumeli amagama "namanje amancane, akhule - uzoqonda"!
Ungabonisi ukungezwani kwangaphakathi - isimo sengqondo sabazali ezindabeni ezinjalo kufanele sibe bushelelezi nokuzolile. Futhi akudingeki uziqhubekele ekhanda lomqondo wokuthi izingxoxo ezinjalo ziyisono. Ngempela, kuyamangalisa, uma ingane ingakhathazeki ngemibuzo enjalo, ingaba isignali mayelana nokuphulwa ekuthuthukiseni i-psyche.

Ukufingqa

Awudingi ukushintsha izigcawu ezibucayi kuma-movie, ukuchaza ngamazwi "kahle, ukuzitika ngokweqile!" Kungcono nje ukuthi le filimu ibonakale ingathandeki kuwe, uma ungeke ukwazi ukuma. Futhi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma - ngandlela-thile ngokuhlakanipha, kodwa hhayi ngokuhlekisa, uphendule ngesimo, ngokusekelwe esihlokweni sefilimu. Phela, njalo i-TV ngeke iqale ukushintsha futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ingane izobe ibona lezi zigcawu ngokwazo.
Umphumela - uma abazali ngokwabo banezinkimbinkimbi ngokuphathelene nobuhlobo bocansi, akufanele badluliselwe emntwaneni. Konke kuhle ngokulinganisela. Ukuvinjelwa akuzange kube nomuntu omuhle!
Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi uzoqala kanjani ukufundisa ngocansi kwengane futhi nini. Futhi kungenzeka ukuba uqale ukucabanga ngakho ngisho nalapho ingane isanda kulungela ukuzalwa, ngoba lapho uqala ukukhulelwa, kungenzeka ukuthi sephuzile kakhulu.