Ngokwesiko, iminyaka yesikhashana yengane yiminyaka eyi-10 kuya kwengu-14. Ngalesi sikhathi, izici zobunikazi zesibili zithuthuka: izinwele ze-pubic, umjikelezo wokuya esikhathini, izimila ebusweni, isifuba sikhula. Izingane zibuye zishintshe ngaphakathi. Ukuhlukumezeka okungaxhunywanga ngokuphathelene nabanye futhi, ngokuphindaphindiwe, ukuba nabazali bakho kwande kakhulu. Abazali bahlangabezana kanjani nobudala besikhathi somntwana? Ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kungenzeka, emva kokugogokazi ukukhala ngokuthi "esikhathini sethu kwakukuhle", ungavimbela futhi uye empikiswaneni enkulu yezizukulwane. Kodwa kungcono ukuqonda le ntsha, imbuke, ukuphatha ukuzibeka endaweni yakhe, ukuthatha izinkinga zayo ngokungathí sina.
Abazali basinda kanjani isikhathi somntwana wengane?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula okukhethekile kwalesi sikhathi.
- Ingane ishiya ingane, kodwa ayiba ngumuntu omdala. Amakhomoni, imizwelo, imizwa iqhuma. Amathumba okuphila anesihluthulelo, kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izimo ezingenzeka ukuthi uziphathe njengomntwana, kunjani - njengomuntu omdala. Kukhona ukuhlaziywa kwesimo sengqondo esidala nemigomo. Kukhona ukungalingani, izinkathazo, isifiso sokungafani nabanye abantu, kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungaphumi esixukwini sontanga yabo, umbono wabo ubaluleke kakhulu. Yini abazali okufanele bayenze? Vele uqhubeke ukuthanda nokusekela ingane yakho.
- Ukoma ukuzibusa nokuzimela, isifiso sokuqeda ukunakekelwa kwabazali ngokuvamile kuholela ekuqhudelwaneni. Uma umntwana olalele, olalelayo manje evikela umbono wakhe nganoma iyiphi imali. Ungasabela ngokumelene nanoma yisiphi iseluleko esasilandela ngokuphelele. Ukuqonda ingane kuyisinyathelo sokuqala ekuxazululeni le nkinga. Kumele sivume ukuthi ingane ingumuntu onemibono yakhe empilweni, noma ngabe ngabazali abahlukile. Makube nelungelo ezinqumweni nasezenzo zakhe kanye nelungelo lokwenza amaphutha. Ungagcini inkululeko yakhe, cindezela kuye, ubeke ubuningi bezintshisekelo zakhe, ucindezele, isibonelo, esikhundleni sokuxhumana nabangani ukudansa noma ukuhlanganyela emculweni. Kungcono ukuthola lokho akuthandayo. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele sonke sivumele. Emva kwakho konke, ngesikhathi sokukhula, isithelo esivinjelwe sibuye sibe mnandi. Intombazane ingasichitha isikhathi nenkampani engathandabuzeki, ubuyele phakathi kwamabili, ukuphuza ugwayi nokuphuza utshwala, esikhundleni sokufunda emibuthanweni noma izingxenye, ukuthuthukisa amakhono akhe. Yini okufanele ngiyenze kulokhu? Okokuqala, ungamemeza futhi ungenzi ama-scandals. Khuluma naye ngemiphumela engenzeka yezenzo ezinjalo, ngenkathi ungagxili esikhathini esizayo, kodwa okwamanje. Isibonelo, lapho amazinyo okubhema ephuzi futhi iphunga elimnandi emlonyeni livela. Akudingekile ukuba uvumele izinto ezinamahloni nezinto ezimbi, vumela ibanga elithile elibekelwe iminyaka ligcinwe phakathi kwakho.
- Izinkinga eziningi ezisencane ekuboneni kuqala azikhohlisi, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekuhambisaneni kwangaphandle nesimo esihle. Kodwa akulula kakhulu. Eminyakeni eyi-12 kuya kwengu-15 kunesithakazelo esingenalutho kubantu bobulili obuhlukile. Indodana ingakwazi ukuyeka ama-saladi anyanisi ayithandayo iphinde idle kathathu ngosuku, ukuze amantombazane amnake. Indodakazi iba ngumphikisi womama, ekulweni ubaba wakhe efakazela ukuthi ungowesifazane. Kodwa ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa kukhona izinguquko zomzimba, ngenxa yalokho "ingane enhle" iba "idada elibi". Amahlaya mayelana nokubukeka ababuhlungu kakhulu kubo. Ngakho-ke, kufanele sikhulise ukuzethemba komuntu osemusha, okukhomba ukuthi uphumelele.
Uthando, ukuqonda nokubekezela kuphela kuzosiza abazali ukuba banqobe zonke izinkinga zesikhathi esiphezulu sezingane.