Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi umhlaba ngaphandle kwakho uzowa. Uma kungenjalo konke, imvelo yakho esiseduzane ngeke ikwazi ukukhona, ngoba zonke izihlobo zakho, abangane nabalingani bakho bangaphandle kwakho ngaphandle kwezandla. Umyeni wami udinga ukuhlanza izicathulo zakhe, ubhale umbiko kumntanami, uthathe unina emtholampilo, kanye nozakwethu ukumkhumbuza usuku lokuzalwa lompheki. Awunawo okwesibili wokuthula. Futhi ngokushesha nje lapho ukhulula othile emkhakheni wokubukwa, ngokushesha uqala ukuhlushwa - kanjani ngaphandle kwami? Eqinisweni, bona ngokwabo bangabhekana nokubhekana nakho, futhi uyazi ngakho, akunjalo? Inkinga ayikho kuwo, kodwa kuwe. Okokuqala, ucabanga ukuthi bazokwenza konke "okungalungile." Futhi okwesibili, yilokho uqonda uthando nomthwalo wemfanelo - njengokukhathazeka njalo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Zama "ukudlulisela" okungenani ingxenye encane "yamandla" akho kwabanye. Vumela ukuba benze konke ngendlela yabo futhi bajabulele impumelelo yabo yonke. Ngikholelwa, le mizwa emihle iyamnandi kakhulu kunezinkathazo ezivamile.
Ukukhathazeka akunjalo?
Uhlala nomuzwa wokuthi akukho okuhle okulindelekile ekuphileni. Ngisho noma nanamuhla konke kuhamba kahle, khona-ke isiphi isiqinisekiso sokuthi kusasa ngeke kufike inkathazo? Futhi isiqiniseko esingcono kakhulu salokhu yisiphetho sakho. Umshado wokuqala awuphumelelanga, okwesibili kwakubonakala kungcono, kodwa muva nje umyeni wami waqala ukuqhubeka nokusebenza emsebenzini, nokuthi ungakhathazeki kanjani - kuthiwani uma lokhu kuvela ekubeni umthengisi? Umntwana, njengoba aye e-enkulisa, wayegula ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa kunzima kanjani! Manje useklasini lokuqala - futhi ngokuzumayo futhi? .. Futhi inkinga, basika yonke into, amanani akhula ... Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kweminye yethu, kunethemba elihle, kumuntu - ukukhathazeka. Ngokwemvelo, kunzima ukuphikisa, kodwa okufanayo, sifunde ukuphatha impilo ngokuthe xaxa - emandleni ethu. Musa ukuchitha amandla ezenzakalweni - thola kuzo zonke izinhlelo zokusebenza ezinhle kakhulu. Uma uqala ibhizinisi, cabanga ukuthi izingozi zingase zifihliwe, futhi wenze konke ukuze ungangeni kuwo.
Khumbula: ukuze uphile ngokuqiniseka esikhathini esizayo, umuntu akufanele agxile ekubhekeni kokubi. Futhi cabanga ukwesaba nokukhathazeka nje nje njengezici zendlela yakho yokufunda - nansi, indawo eyingozi! Ngakho kusukela "ezitheni" ezikuvimbela ukuba ungaphila, zizoba yizivumelwano eziyiqiniso.
Kwesinye iphalethi
Noma mhlawumbe impilo yakho yaba yinto evamile kakhulu? Futhi ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo kukusiza ukuba "ugxumeke" futhi ujabule? Kodwa kungani wanquma ukusebenzisa kuphela abamnyama? Engeza ukukhanya, imibala ekhanyayo - vumela imfucuza impilo yansuku zonke idlale nayo yonke imibala! Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ukufeza lokhu, guqula ngesibindi ama-minus kuzinzuzo. Ingabe umyeni usephuzile emsebenzini? Yebo, unesikhathi esithile sokukhululeka ukumhlangabeza uphumule, futhi ngisho nesidlo sakusihlwa esimnandi. Ngikholelwa, uzobonga ukuthi indlu yakhe ilindele futhi ihlangane ngenjabulo yangempela. Futhi esikhathini esilandelayo, mhlawumbe uzobeka eceleni izinto ezithile kusasa, ukuhlala nawe isikhathi eside.
I-Psychotherapists ye-American Feinberg School of Medicine eNyakatho-ntshonalanga Yunivesithi ithola ukuthi abantu abaningi abathwala izidakamizwa abakwazi ukuthuthukisa. Ngokusho kwabacwaningi, lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi imiphumela yalezi zidakamizwa ihloswe ekunciphiseni ama-hormone okucindezeleka nokukhuthaza ukukhiqizwa kwamahomoni ajabulisayo. Ukucindezeleka akuyona i-hormonal, ngakho izidakamizwa azizinamandla ...
Qaphela umthamo!
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uRollo May sathi: "Ukuhlangana nokukhathazeka kungasenza sikhululeke, siphuthukise umbono wethu, kudala ukungezwani lapho ukulondolozwa kobukhona bomuntu kusekelwe khona." Uma kunokukhathazeka, umuntu uyaphila. " Ngakho-ke, emithini encane, izimpikiswano ngeke zilimale: zona, kanye nomhawu, zinikeza ubuhlobo obuningi.