Akumangalisi, kodwa ekukhetheni igama lesithandwa kumuntu othandekayo kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi angamcasuli, ungabangeli ukuthi ngenxa yamagama ufuna ukufezekisa okuthile kuye ngendlela enhle. Ngakho-ke, ngisho nokuthi "uyithandeka kanjani kimi" noma enye into enjalo, udinga ukubeka imizwa ephezulu futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ubeke "wonke umphefumulo wakho" kula mazwi. Ngakho, ukusho amazwi othandekayo kuyiqiniso ngempela.
Kungani kunzima kakhulu abesifazane abaningi ukuthi bahlale bethi amazwi abathanda amadoda ?
Ukuzisola nokudumala kwamadoda ngokwabo, akubona bonke abesifazane abanganikeza ngamazwi anjalo. Abanye banesiqiniseko sokuthi lokhu kungumthetho wesilisa kuphela, abesifazane abathile bamane bemangalisa ngamazwi anjalo. Abanye bazizwa benamahloni ngemizwelo yabo noma nje abafuni ukubukeka beyiziphukuphuku phambi komuntu othandekayo, kodwa kukhona abesifazane abathintekayo ngokuziqhenya kwabo baphinde bakusho okuthile okuthandekayo kumthande wabo. Kodwa, futhi uma ungazi ukuthi ungasho kanjani amazwi anothando nokuncoma, kodwa zama ukukwenza, isoka lakho lingase lingaboni nje enkulumweni yakho eboshwe futhi enokuzwelana okubhekiswe kuye. Ngandlela-thile, akusikho embuzweni ukuthi enye yemizamo engaphumeleli yokuvuma kumuntu othandekayo ukuthi kuyabiza kangakanani ukuthi ungamqeda ngokuphelele owesifazane ukuba angafuni ukukhuluma into enjalo ngokuzwakalayo.
Yiqiniso, amazwi abathandekayo, imisho kanye nokuncoma kuhlale kusabeka ukusho okokuqala noma okokuqala. Phela, ngesikhathi esifanayo awukwazi ukuthi lothandekayo uphendukela kanjani kulokhu futhi kuyoba yini ukusabela okulandelayo kwalowo muntu nesimo sakhe sengqondo ngawe. Kwenzeka nabesifazane abaningi, kodwa akufanele neze wesabe iziphukuphuku nokuhlekisa ukubuka phambi kwabantu abathandekayo enhliziyweni. Khumbula ukuthi ngaphandle kokusho ukuthi ufuna ukuthini manje - mhlawumbe sekuphuzile kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, uma le ndoda ingakaqali ukukukhuluma ngamazwi ahlabayo, qalisa ukwenza lokho ngokwakho. Njengoba bethi: umzamo awuhlukumezi. Ungafaki ukubaluleka okubalulekile kulawa magama, futhi uwasebenzise, ​​njengokujwayelekile evamile futhi nsuku zonke.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kule nkinga engavamile ungakwazi ukuqeqesha kalula othandekayo bakho, ngokuqinisekile ngeke kube nzima ngawe ukuba usho ngokuqondile ngemizwa yakho nemizwelo ngendlela enothando.
Amazwi amathenda kunazo zonke othandekayo .
Uma utshela indoda yakho ukuthi uyamthanda kangakanani, ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi ungayisho kanjani nokuthi yikuphi okuzokwenza uzothola kuye ngokukwenza. Lezi zimpawu kufanele zifinyelele futhi zivela enhliziyweni. Yiqiniso, kusadingeka ugxile kulokho okushoyo. Into eyinhloko ukulahla ukwesaba nokwehliswa kwemizwa emikhulu kuleli gama elivamile, njengokuthi, "othandekayo ...".
Akufanele neze uhlazeke yimicabango yakho kanye nesimo sakho sengqondo ngomuntu, ngoba kuhlazeka, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, okwenza ubugebengu, akukho lutho lapha. Vele ukhulume ngokusuka enhliziyweni ngalokho ozizwayo futhi uhlangabezane nomthandekayo wakho. Khona-ke konke okushoyo ngeke kuzwakale njengengeniso yokukhohlisa ekuthembeni. Ngakho ungesabi ukumenza lo mnandi futhi uphinde umkhumbuze ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani. Ukusho amagama anjalo, umane ubonise lo muntu ukuthi uyithande kangakanani kuwe, nokuthi uyamthanda kanjani.
Sisebenza emaphutha .
Ngokuvamile ngangokunokwenzeka, yenza kanjalo ukukhuluma amazwi abathandekayo ukuze umsindo wabo uhlale ungokwemvelo futhi uqede amahemuhemu omphikisi. Imishwana nemishwana enjalo ingacatshangelwa kusengaphambili futhi yabatshela unina, ubaba, umfowenu, udadewabo, abangani, bese kuthi kumuntu othandekayo. Into eyinhloko yisho incazelo yabo engenabugovu. Konke lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba uhloniphe kahle lobu buci bese ufakazela okhethiweyo wakho ukuthi ufanelwe ukuba naye kanye.
Ungalokothi udideke lawa mazwi ngokuthobeka. Yazi ukuthi lezi zimbono ezimbili ezihluke ngokuphelele. I-flattery ihlale ikwazi ukuhlukanisa noma yimuphi umuntu.
Khuluma amazwi aqotho kuphela, ngoba iqiniso kulula kakhulu ukuhlukanisa iqiniso.
Khumbula, ukufushanisa imishwana yakho yethenda neyothando, ngcono umbono wabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungamane udideke emagameni akho okunciphisa nokunciphisa futhi ubangele ukuhleka hhayi kuphela kumthandi wakho, kodwa kusuka kuwe. Okunye okumele kuqaphele ukuthi ukuthanda amagama akusiyo njalo i-ode noma inkondlo, ngezinye izikhathi kunezimbalwa eziningana zamagama amakhulu okuveza ukujula kwemizwa yabo. Iqiniso litsheliwe kubantu ukuthi ukuphuza kungudade wethalenta. Futhi le nkulumo iyasebenza kuzo zonke izimo zokuphila.
Amazwi amnene ahlale ehle, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula umthetho owodwa wegolide, othi akukaze kudingekile ukukhipha imali. Njalo ihora ukukhuluma nendoda ngokuthi uyamthanda kanjani, futhi umbiza ngokuthi "zaei" noma "amakati" njalo ngomzuzu, kungamkhathaza lo muntu futhi umkhiphe.
Ukuqhubekela phambili kuzo zonke izinto ezingenhla, ngifuna ukusho futhi, ukusho amazwi amnene nokuthandeka yikhono okumele wonke owesifazane onothando athole kahle. Khumbula ukuthi indoda yakho ethandekayo idinga ukufudumala, ukunakekelwa nokuthanda. Futhi uma "ungamgezi" ngamazwi othando, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ukuphela.
Yazi ukuthi akuyona yonke into engabonakala ngezenzo futhi uma kukhona okungafakazwa ngamagama, qiniseka ukuthi uyayenza. Ngempela, igama lingakhuthaza futhi liphakamise "amaphiko" othando, hhayi kuphela ubulili obuthakathaka, kodwa futhi amadoda ethu abathandayo.
Yisho amazwi anomusa komunye nomunye futhi ungalokothi uhlezi phezu kwabo! Inhlanhla kuwe!