Mhlawumbe ukuphila komkhaya wakho ekuqaleni kwakukuthandana, noma kunjalo, imizwa iyaziwa ukuthi ayizinzile. Futhi umzuzwana ufika lapho uqala ukuzibuza imibuzo, kungani konke kwenzeka. Futhi awuzange yini uzinikeze isizathu sokunciphisa isithakazelo somuntu kuwe? Omunye umlobi wezithombe zeFrance nefilosofi uPierre Boast uthe " abesifazane abaqine njengalapho behlomile amandla abo."
Ubuciko bokuthakazelisa
Ungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nabesifazane abaningi abanobuciko babo obuhle nobuhle abangeke babizwe futhi izibalo zabo zivamile, noma kunjalo ... Ubufazi babo buzenza zibe zifiseleka futhi zikhangele emehlweni abo. Ezinsukwini zethu, ubufazi besimangaliso. Owesifazane wesimanje uthatha isikhundla esiphezulu sokuphila futhi unenkani ekufezeni imigomo yakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ku-gym noma ukuthuthuka emkhakheni wezemisebenzi. Lokhu, akuyona into embi, kodwa, ubonile yini ukuthi imikhuba yakho, i-gait, futhi ibukeka ishintshile? Ake sibheke kulabo abanozithombe zabo kuze kube namuhla bavuselela abaningi ukuba balingise.
Khumbula indlovukazi waseGibhithe, uCleopatra. Unina wezingane ezine kanye nombusi wombuso wonke - ingabe uyisibonelo sokulingisa owesifazane wanamuhla? Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uyaziwa nangokuthi uyinqobe enkulu yezinhliziyo zabantu, futhi ubuciko bakhe bokulondoloza ubuhle bakhe buye kwasinda kuze kube yilolu suku, khumbula okungenani izikhonkwane zaseCleopatra kanye nokugeza kweCleopatra. Kodwa ingabe wayemhle? Kule akhawunti, kunemibono ehlukene. Abanye bafaka ukubonakala kwakhe ngekhala elide ne-chin-strong wishing. Imithombo eminingi eyehlele kithi kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo ithi indlovukazi yayinezingqondo ezibukhali, ezivusa amadlingozi, yayingumdiplomate omkhulu, futhi izwi eliphansi lokuthakazelisa lingenza noma ubani. Iminyaka eyizinkulungwane ezimbili igama lakhe alikayeki ukuphazanyisa izingqondo zabaculi abavela ezinhlobonhlobo ezahlukene, njengoShakespeare, uPushkin, uBernard Shaw nabanye abaningi. Izithombe zendlovukazi, ezigcinwe ezithombeni nasezinhlamvu zemali - zihlukile futhi zinganiki umqondo owodwa wedatha yangaphandle. Ukuba yindinganiso yobuntombi. I-Cleopatra isalokhu iyimfihlakalo, ifihla kithi ukuthi ingubani ngempela ngaphansi kwesihenqo seminyaka eminyaka.
Futhi mangaki amanga ngeNdlovukazi yaseSheba? Enye yezincwadi zikaTalmud, i-Midrash, ingqondo yakhe nobuhle bakhe badunyiswa. Bamnqoba ngisho neNkosi uSolomoni. Wathandwa kakhulu yinkosikazi yaseSheba ukuthi wayecabanga ukuthi uDeveli ngokwakhe uqobo lwakhe. Ngakho-ke, weza ngobuqili bokuhlola ukuqagela kwakhe, ecabanga ukuthi esikhundleni sezinyawo zendlovukazi ngaphansi kwesigqoko kufanele kube yizinhlanzi zembuzi. Ngesikhathi sokufika kwe-tsarina, uSolomoni wayakhe isakhiwo esingaphansi komhlaba lapho inhlanzi yaqhuma khona futhi yacela ubuhle ukuba idlule ehholo. Wamangala lapho indlovukazi iphakamisa izingubo zayo phezu kwamanzi, njenganoma yimuphi omunye owesifazane owayengayenza, futhi ngaphansi kwayo kwakuyizinyawo zomzimba ezincane ngempela, kodwa i-curve neboya, hhayi neze ekhangayo. Ucabanga ukuthi emva kwalokhu uSolomoni walahlekelwa isithakazelo kuye? Ukubonakala kwendlovukazi, ehambisana ne-retinue enkulu, ama-panthers amabili nama-divs amahle ahamba ngezinyawo, yamshaya lapho. Yebo, ukuze izithelo zothando lwabo zibe yindodana yabo.
Kuyini ubufazi?
Ubuntfu buyingxenye yokubonga, ukulungiswa kanye nama-plastiki. Ubuntombi buyabonakala masinyane, kubonisa umehluko emkhakheni wezimpi ezinamandla womuntu. Ngenxa yowesifazane omnene nowesithambile, indoda yasezintabeni isilungele ukuphenduka, iqiniseke ngobuqhawe bayo nobukhulu bayo. Ngempela, into esemqoka kumuntu ukuwuqaphela amandla akhe. UCharles Baudelaire uphinde wathi "owesifazane uyisimemo sokujabula."
Ungabheka kanjani owesifazane?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukugcizelela umehluko phakathi kwakho nomuntu. Nika izindwangu zamadoda nemibala emnyama, kanye nakho konke okwenza isitayela sakho-umuntu, kufaka phakathi izibopho, izitsha zokugqoka kanye nezinye izinto ezembatho zendoda. Kuhle ukuzama uma wazi ukuthi ungayenza kanjani, kodwa kungcono ukusebenzisa izinsikazi eziyaziwayo - ama-blouses, izigqoko, ama-berets, izithungo ezigelezayo.
Awuyi gesticulate kakhulu? Uhleka kanjani? Ingabe usebenzisa izimonyo ngokulinganisela nangomsebenzi? Uvame kangakanani ukuncoma? Ingabe bayakujabulela umusa wakho nemikhuba yakho? Uma kungenjalo, kubalulekile ukuzibuka wena ngaphandle nokucabanga. Abesifazane abanobuhle nabanobuhle abasoze bodwa. Ngempela, okokuqala, amadoda ayakwazisa kubangane besifazane.