Yiziphi izinhlobo zezithombe zomphakathi nezengqondo ezinganeni ezivela emindenini ehluphekile? Okokuqala, kungaba kuhle ukucabangela ukuthi imiphi imindeni ibhekwa njengengalungile. Isibonelo sabantu abaningi ukuthi uma sizwa inkulumo ethi "umndeni ongafanelanga", into yokuqala efika engqondweni yethu ukungabi nemali, konke okunye esikubonayo kunzima kakhulu. Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo. Ezingqondweni, imindeni ehluphekile nayo ibizwa ngokuthi i-disharmonious, lapho imiqondo yimizalwane, lapho ubudlelwane obuvumelana phakathi kwabazali nezingane kuphulwa. Ngamanye amazwi - imfundo engenangqondo, ukuntuleka kokwaneliseka kwezidingo eziyisisekelo ezingokwengqondo nokuziphatha kwengane, isimo sengqondo esingalungile nokukhuliswa. Konke lokhu akupheli futhi kungathinteki ingane ngendlela engafanele. Kanjani ncamashi, kuxhomeke kuhlobo lobuhlobo obunama-disharmonious, esilubheke manje ngokuningiliziwe.
Imfundo ejwayelekile kakhulu ye-disharmonious ishiywa phansi. Kulokhu, akukho ukunakekelwa nokukhathalela, ngaleyo ndlela, ingane ayinakekelwa futhi ayinasithakazelo empilweni yakhe, ukuthi uthini ngothando olujulile nothando, ukunakwa. Ngokuvamile laba bangabantwana abavela emindenini engenamvuzo ophansi abazulazula futhi bazizinakekele. Ngokuvamile abajwayele kahle, abangenalo ukudla, abanakho izidingo ezingokwengqondo eziphakeme kuphela, ezifana nothando nothando, kodwa futhi baneliseke ngokwaneliseka, njengokudla, ukulala, ukuphepha, ukuhlanzeka, njll.
Ngakho ukusho, ukuziphatha okuphambene nalokho okudlule kuyoba ukungaqondisi kahle, lokho kunakekelwa ngokweqile. Abazali baqaphele zonke izinyathelo zomntwana, babeke imibono yabo, izinto eziza kuqala kanye nemibono yabo, basungula ukuvinjelwa okungunaphakade, ngoba ukuphulwa kuthathwa ngokuthi ingane inomuzwa wecala. Kulesi simo, ukwaneliseka okuphelele kwezidingo eziyisisekelo, kodwa ukwakheka kwamakheli okungalungile kanye nenani elikhulu lezinkinga zengqondo. Ukubhekwa kwemizwa, ukungena ngaphakathi kwesikhala somuntu siqu, ukugxilisa imicabango nemigomo yomuntu kuholela ekufundeni ingane ukuthi ucabangele ngokuzimela, izenzo zakhe zibonakala zingumphumela wezenzo zabazali bakhe. Kukhona ukucasuka kule ndaba, intukuthelo eyenezelekile, isidingo sokuhlukanisa nabazali, ukuthola isikhala somuntu siqu. Ukuvinjelwa okuqhubekayo kuholela ekufutheni, imicabango enjengokuthi "kungani wonke umuntu angakwazi, kodwa angikwenzi." Ngokufanayo, abantwana balolu hlobo bahleka futhi bahlekwa usulu abanye, lapho ingane ingadlulisela khona icala kubo bonke abazali futhi ibazonde ngenxa yokunakekela okunjalo ngokweqile. Ingane ikhula ingacasulwa futhi ingenakufinyeleleka.
Enye yezinhlobo zokungavumeli ukuphikisana nokunciphisa ukukhubazeka kwezenzo zezingane ezingaphansi kwabazali, kodwa ngaphansi kohlobo oluthile lwephethini yabo ekahle noma yokuphila. Kulezi zinsuku, ihlale ixhomeka isikweletu sokuthi sihle futhi sijabulise umama nobaba, nakuba ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka emindenini engabodwa, uma omunye wabazali abasele eshintsha ingane yakhe yonke, embeka phakathi komndeni futhi emnakekele ngokweqile.
Uhlobo lobudlelwane obudambisayo emndenini luvame ukulahlwa ngokomzwelo. Akunakutsho ukuthi ingane enjalo ayinakekelwa nhlobo, njengokwesimo sokuqala se-hypoopeak, esicatshangelwe ngathi. Lapha, abazali banganikeza ingane konke okudingekayo, bamnike izipho futhi bamnakekele. Kodwa, ukuze uqondile, ukwenza sengathi. Phela, esimweni sokulahlwa ngokomzwelo, ingane izwa ukuthi ayifuni, ingabi nemizwa ekuqondiseni kwayo, ngakho kuyadingeka ukuba ihlakulele. Abazali bangamnika ingane ukudla, amathoyizi, izingubo, konke okudingekayo kuye ngokwezezimali, kodwa hhayi ukumbonisa uthando nokuthandana, ikakhulukazi kulokhu ingane iwumthwalo, umthwalo kubazali bayo. Ukulahlwa ngokomzwelo kufihliwe, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nabazali bayakufanelekela ngaphambi kwabo. Ubuhlobo obunjalo be-disharmonious buvame ukutholakala ezimweni zokukhulelwa okungathandeki.
Okubi kakhulu, mhlawumbe, uhlobo olunzima kunazo zonke lwengxabano kubudlova emndenini. Uma abazali bebonisa ingane enobudlova ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, akungabazeki ukuthi ingane enjalo iyoba nezinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo, ubunzima, kodwa kwezinye izimo - ukwehluka kwengqondo. Izingane zingazitholela ukuziphatha kwabazali ngale ndlela, noma zishaye ingane ngenxa yokufutheka ngenxa yokuhluleka kwabo. Udlame oluqhubekayo olwenziwe ngamacala amancane lufakazela ukulahlwa kwengqondo komzali, kanye nodlame olunengqondo kwengqondo.
Kungenjalo, ukunganaki nokuhlukumezeka kungenzeka kube khona emndenini. Ingane kuleli cala ikhula yodwa, ihlukaniswe nomunye umhlaba, emndenini onjalo konke "akukhathaleli" izidingo zomunye nomunye.
Ngingayichaza kanjani isimo sengqondo sezenhlalakahle nezengqondo zezingane ezivela emindenini ehluphekile? Siyabona ukuthi akukho lutho kulokhu, futhi njengoba sibheke izimo ezivame ukwedlula ubudlelwane be-disharmonious emndenini, siyalahla abazali abanjalo. Ingane ngumthwalo omkhulu kanye nomsebenzi, kuyadingeka ukuba uyinakekele ngokugcwele, umnike uthando nokuthandana, noma uzokhula ngokwengqondo engaphansi. Ungaphindi amaphutha abanye, hlaziya amacala anjalo futhi unakekele izingane zakho ngendlela engcono kakhulu kubo.
Ungathonywa utshwala futhi usize abanye abaseduze nawe. Mhlawumbe esikhathini esizayo, ngomzamo ohlangene, sizokwazi ukunqoba le nkinga.