Inqubo yokuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kwengane ayiveli ngendlela efanayo, kodwa njengokungathi i-jerks iphinde iqhume. Yizikhathi, lapho ingane idlula esigabeni esilandelayo sokukhula, futhi kuthiwa yizinkinga zeminyaka. Lezi zinkinga zinezinhlangothi ezinhle nezimbi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingane ikhula ngokwengeziwe, amakhono amasha, amakhono namakhono akhiwa. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, phakathi nezinkathi zenkinga ehlobene nobudala, ukuziphatha kwengane kungaba, ukubeka kahle, okungenakulinganiswa: unezici ezintsha, zangaphambili ezingenakuqhathaniswa zomlingiswa nokuziphatha, okuvame ukuphazamisa abazali bakhe futhi kudala ubunzima ekukhulumisaneni.
Inkinga yeminyaka eyisikhombisa yinkinga ehlobene nokuzalwa komphakathi "I" ingane, ngokuqala kokuqwashisa ngaye, njengokuba ngumphakathi, ehlala emphakathini, ngokubambisana. Okokuqala kuhlangene nokuqala kokuphila kwesikole. Ingane, ukuze akwazi ukuzivumelanisa nomphakathi wesikole, kufanele athole isikhundla esisha somphakathi - isikhundla somfundi. Futhi lokhu kudinga ukuthi ingane ikwazi ukulinganisela amanani: okwakubalulekile ngaphambili, iqala ukubonwa njengesibili, futhi ngokufanayo. Uma izinga lokuvuthwa kwengqondo kwengane kuya eminyakeni eyisithupha noma eyisikhombisa liphakeme ngokwanele, khona-ke inkinga yeminyaka eyisikhombisa ingadlulela cishe ngaphandle kwezinkinga, ngokushesha futhi ngokushelela. Nokho, uma ingane ingakabi esikoleni kuze kube sesikoleni, inkinga ingaba nobudlova kakhulu, ihambisane nokunciphisa okuhlukahlukene.
Uma ingane ihamba ngezinkinga zeminyaka eyisikhombisa nge-creaking, ingaba nomphumela omubi kunayo yonke esikhathini esizayo, isibonelo, iholela ekungcolweni komphakathi - ukungakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nomphakathi, ukuthola indawo yakhe eqenjini. Ngakho-ke, ukusiza ingane enjalo kufanele ukuba bafike abazali nabafundisi. Ikakhulukazi kakhulu kuxhomeke kubazali. Kodwa ukuze usindise ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, udinga ukwazi ukuthi lolu sizo luyadingeka ngempela.
Izimpawu, lapho zingagwetshwa khona ukuthi ingane inezinkinga zengqondo futhi idinga usizo, zilandelayo:
- Umntanami uzama ngazo zonke izindlela zokuziqhenya yena ngokwakhe, ngokukhetha lokhu ngezinye izikhathi akuzona izindlela ezingcono kakhulu: unengqondo, u-hooligan, uhlela abahlaziyi, abalaleli.
- Ekuziphatheni kwengane, ukuguquka kwemizwelo nokuziphatha kuyabonakala kakhulu: ingane iziphatha kabi, khona-ke iba namahloni futhi iyamahloni, ngakho-ke ngaphandle kokuhleka iqala ukukhala.
- Imikhuba yendabuko yansuku zonke (ukuxubha amazinyo, ukuhlanza umbhede, ukugeza izitsha naye) ngokuzumayo uqala ukunganaki ingane, ngisho nezikhumbuzo ezingapheliyo azizisi okuningi.
- Ingane ingabonakali, inomsindo, ibuhlungu, inenkani, iyimfihlo, igxilile, ivalwe kuye.
- Ukusebenza esikoleni kwengane kushiya okuningi okudingekayo.
- Ingane ikhula kancane, iguqa, isheshe ikhathele, ilele, ingabi nhlobo.
Ziyini izizathu zokushintsha okunjalo okungalungile ekuziphatheni kwengane? Yini engabangela izinkinga nokuthi yini abazali abangayenza ezimweni ezinjalo? Izizathu zingaba eziningana:
- Izinkinga ekusebenzelaneni nabalingani esikoleni. Kulokhu, abazali, isazi sezengqondo esikoleni kanye nothisha weklasi kufanele bathathe zonke izinyathelo zokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bomntwana neqembu.
- Ukuhluleka kwengane ukubhekana nesimiso sesikole. Ukulungisa le nkinga, abazali kufanele basize ingane ukuba yenze umsebenzi wesikole ngokuchaza izinto zesikole, noma ukuqasha umfundisi. Uma lokhu kungakusizi, kungcono ukukhipha ingane esikoleni, ucindezele ukuqala kokuphila esikoleni unyaka, lapho umntwana ekulungele ukufunda.
- Ukunciphisa umzimba ngokomzimba kwengane, okuholela ekukhatheni okwenyuka nokulimala kokusebenza kwesikole. Lokhu kungakusizwa umbuso oqinile wosuku, ukuphumula okufanele (ingane kufanele ihambe njalo ngaphandle, ithole ukulala ngokwanele), futhi unciphise umthwalo kwengane (vakashela isigaba sezemidlalo noma isikole somculo kufanele sihlehliswe kuze kube izikhathi ezingcono).
Ngokwezibalo, inkinga yeminyaka eyisikhombisa ilula futhi ngaphandle kwezinkinga ezidlula kuphela kuma-25% wezingane. Zonke ezinye izingane zinezinkinga ezingaxazululwa uma abazali beziphatha ngendlela efanele, ungethuki, futhi uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba inqobe noma yikuphi ubunzima obuvela, kungaba ukusebenza kahle esikoleni noma ukuphikisana nabalingani nabo ekilasini. Kumele siqonde: zonke izinkinga zingezesikhashana, futhi ukuzinqoba ingane idinga kakhulu kakhulu - ukuqonda komzali nothando lwabazali.