Ngiyavuma, lokhu kuyinto engavamile: senza into ethile, futhi izenzo zethu zithembele ekuthuthukiseni, ukuchuma kwansuku zonke kanye nenjabulo yabantu abathandekayo emhlabeni kanye nezinto ezibiza kakhulu - futhi ngesikhathi esisodwa, umqondo walo msebenzi ubi futhi asiqondi ngisho, Kuyini lokhu - imfundo. Ake sizame ukuqonda.
Ngenxa yalokho "amathonya ethu okufundisa" ingane ishintsha. Kunoma yikuphi, kufanele ushintshe. Lokhu kusho ukuthi asinelisekile ngendlela ayenayo manje.
Mhlawumbe, ngisho nangomntwana ngokwakhe - ngesilinganiso sokuqonda kwakhe - akajabuli. Futhi sifuna ukuba ingane iguquke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. "Lokhu, ngombono wami, kuyabonakala. Uma sifuna ukuba izingane zethu zihlale ngendlela efana nazo, khona-ke akukho ukukhuliswa okungeke kudingeke nhlobo. Okokuqala, ake sizame ukuqonda lokho, eqinisweni, akuhambisani nathi ezinganeni. Futhi kusho ukuthini ngempela lapho bethi: "Ingane ngumuntu omncane".
Umlando ongalindelekile
Ake sibuyele ezincwadini. U-Kornei Ivanovich Chukovsky encwadini yakhe edumile "Kusuka kokubili kuya kweyisishiyagalolunye" utshela lesi siqephu: intombazane encane ihlezi etafuleni, phambi kwayo kukhona i-caramel kanye ne-candy eyodwa ye-chocolate .Abantu abadala baseduze, wonke umuntu uphuza itiye. Kuyacaca!) Kusobala: i-candy ye-chocolate iyinandi kakhulu kune-caramels, futhi yiyona yodwa, yakamuva, manje umuntu othile omdala uyodla, futhi ngeke ifike kimi.Kara-ul! Kuyaphuthuma ukwenza okuthile!
Intombazane, ephendukela kumama wayo ithi:
"Mama, uthatha lezi zinhle, futhi ngizothatha lokhu okungcolile," futhi, okwenza i-grimace of disgust, kuthatha candy uswidi.
Bheka, ukunakekelwa okunomthelela kumuntu! Wakhetha i-candy candy hhayi ngenxa yobugovu, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi wayesaba: ngokuzumayo omunye umuntu uyodla, kodwa intombazane ayifumananga - cha! Wayekhathalela umama. Kuvela ukuthi i-candy ye-tshocolate ayiphumeli - ingcolile. I-caramel - enemibalabala, enhle kakhulu - enhle. Futhi manje heroine yethu, ukuzidela, ngokuzondla idla leli candy "ezingcolile", futhi ushiye abanye abadala abadala!
Yikuphi ubuhle! Yeka ukuphana!
Futhi manje ake sinakekele konke ngokujulile. Le ntombazane yazi ukuthi i-candle ye-chocolate i-tastier, i-caramel engcono kakhulu, ngakho iyithatha kahle, futhi umama uyishiya kakhulu. Ngokusobala, isenzo somntwana sishukunyiswa yisifiso sokuzijabulisa komuntu siqu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izithakazelo nezidingo zabanye (nabantu abasondelene): sivame ukubiza lokhu kuziphatha ngobugovu. Kuyaziwa ukuthi i-psyche nokuziphatha kwezilwane kulawulwa yisifiso senjabulo. Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi intombazane evela esibonelweni sikaKornei Ivanovich Chukovsky yinto ephilayo nje? Behaves like isilwane? Ngomqondo othile, yile ndlela. Nokho, ngokungafani nesilwane, ingane, ngendlela ethile, ichaza (iyaqonda) ukuziphatha kwayo, futhi ngokuqondile ngoba iyichaza, iyakwazi ukuziphatha ngale ndlela.
Uma le ntombazane yaqaphela ukuthi izisusa zakhe zimbi, wayengenakukwenza lokho. Kodwa akaqondi lokhu.
Lokho okushiwo intombazanyana impela "i-monologue yangaphakathi." Amazwi akhe, empeleni, awabhekiswanga kwabanye, kodwa yena ngokwakhe. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzobonakala kungajwayelekile kumuntu, kodwa kuvame kwenzeka - ngisho nabantu abadala (okungenani, abantu abakhulile ngokwanele) .Umuntu onento uyakhohlisa.
Yini eyaqinisekisa intombazane ngokwayo? Ukuthi isisusa sakhe - ukuthatha candy candy - kuhle, sihloniphekile. Ekuboneni kokuqala, izimpikiswano zakhe ziyamangalisa: i-candy e-chocolate eningi kakhulu, ebiza kakhulu, iyavela, "iyingcolile." Futhi ama-caramel eshibhile "anhle." Kodwa uma ucabanga kancane, kuyacaca: ubani obukayo - ozokuthola njalo. I-heroine encane idinga ukuthola okuthile ukuthi i-caramels ingaba ngcono kunebhisikidi ye-chocolate-yilokho akutholile. Enye into ukuthi ukubonakala akuseyona into esemqoka emaswidi. Awuhloselwe lokho, ukuzithanda, kodwa namanje - ukuze udle. Kodwa intombazane kwakudingeka idle i candy, futhi iqinisekise ukuthi yenza kahle kakhulu, isidle leli candy. Lokho akwazi ukukwenza. Lo mntwana uyindoda, hhayi isilwane. Lezi zinsuku akudingeki zizikhombise noma yini. Ungacabangi ukuthi izenzo zakho zinhle futhi zihloniphekile. Umuntu - udinga. Lokhu ukukhohlisa kubonisa ukuthi umntwana uyindoda, ufuna ukuzihlonipha yena, ufuna ukuba nguMuntu. Kodwa akasazi okwamanje. AmaShayina asendulo athi: "Konke okukhona ezilwaneni kukhona kumuntu, kodwa akuzona zonke izinto ezisemadodaneni."
Phonsa iphakethe lezinja izingcezu ezimbalwa zenyama. Ngamunye uzama ukubamba okungcono, ngaphezulu. Uzothola onamandla kakhulu, omkhulu kunabo bonke, ababi. Kodwa yonke inja ingathanda ukukhipha ucezu oluhle kakhulu. Ngakho zonke izilwane ziziphatha, ngoba kuyimvelo. Eqinisweni, i-heroine encane e-Chukovsky nayo yaziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa wakwazi ukwenza kanjalo, kusukela ekubonweni komuntu, kabi kakhulu, kuphela ngenxa yokuthi wazikhohlisa. Ngiziqinisekisile ukuthi ukuhaha kwakhe akusikho ukuhaha nhlobo, kodwa kuyisisusa esihle. Ingabe lesi sici kubantwana? Yeka, kuyinto ephawulekayo!
Ingabe ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ingane iziphatha kabi, kodwa ayiqondi ukuthi wenza okuthile okungalungile ngokuzikhohlisa? Yebo, kaningi. Nazi izingane ezimbili ezilwa: zithandana futhi ziboshwe, futhi zikhahlela, izinhlansi eziningi zihamba. Woza. Sihlukanisa. Futhi sizwa ngani? Bobabili bashukukuthele kakhulu - cha, hhayi ngokwabo - ngomunye nomunye. "Futhi nguye owokuqala ukuqala!", "Futhi anginiki imoto!" (Khona-ke ngezinye izikhathi kuvela ukuthi "umgebengu" akazange anikeze umshini wakhe wokubhala: kungani, ngicabanga ukuthi kwakudingeka akhiphe?), "Futhi uzibiza ngokwakhe!". Ngimsulwa futhi ngihle, futhi ukufutheka kwami kulungile, futhi nguye osola konke. Ngicabanga ukuthi ufuna ukuphikisa: yebo cishe cishe wonke umuntu omdala uziphathe! Yebo, ngempela. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusiyo ngokwengqondo nangokomoya - kodwa kukhula kuphela ngokwemvelo. Okusho ukuthi, "bangabantwana abadala", "izingane ezikhulile". Kuningi labo emphakathini wanamuhla. Abantu abadala bangempela abanjalo.
Kuyini okuhle
Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo: ukuhaha, ukufisa injabulo ngenxa yabanye, intukuthelo, impindiselo, umona - ngokuvamile uhola ukuziphatha komuntu omusha. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi udala kangakanani. Futhi indima yomuntu wakhe "Mina" kulokhu kuncishisiwe ukuba ikhohlise: ukuqiniseka ukuthi zonke izenzo zami zihle futhi zihloniphekile.
Lona isimo sokungabonakali komuntu. Ofanayo uKornei Ivanovich Chukovsky utshela ngomfana owayeziqhayisa ngokuthi: "Futhi nginothuli oluningi kuleli zwe!" Enye inyane yayithi: "Futhi ngiye ngilungisa embhedeni wami!"
Kuvela ukuthi ukuziqaphela kwengane kuyisihlobo. Ngokuqondene nabanye abantu, futhi, okokuqala, izingane (ngoba nabantu abadala, izingane aziziqhathanisi ngokwabo, ziqaphela ukuthi azizuzisi kubo: abantu abadala banezinzuzo eziningi). Uma ngingaphezu kwamanye, ngizihlonipha ngokwami. Kuvela, ingane izuze ukuzethemba, ukuhlukumeza abanye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, akadingi izizathu zokuzihlonipha. Okuthile azothola ngokuqinisekile. Isibonelo, unezinambuzane zokulala - kanti enye ayifuni. Aha! Unothuli oluningi ezweni - futhi kancane kunabanye. Aha!
Futhi kungukuzalwa komzimba (njengoba, ngempela, zonke izidingo zethu eziphilayo nezingokomoya, okuthiwa "izidingo zomphakathi" kuphela - isibonelo, isidingo se-Jacuzzi - zitholakala.) Yebo, asinelisekile uma ingane inganelisa impilo yakhe yonke ngokuziqhenya noma ngokuzihlazisa abanye abantu. Futhi lezi ziyizinto zomuntu omusha.Kubalulekile futhi ukuqonda ukuthi "ukuvuthwa" noma "ukungaqali" komuntu kungumqondo wemigomo.Umntwana (noma umuntu omdala osemncane) akakwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela ehlukile, angazi kanjani nokuthi angafundile, n ka akubi lomuntu ovuthiwe kuwo akunanjongo ukudinga lokhu. Ngiyavuma, uma singakhathali ukufundisa ingane ukudlala upiyano, kuyoba ongaziwa ukuthi zifune kusukela ukumhlalisa phansi ngesikhathi upiyano futhi udlale "Appassionata" Beethoven? Ngokufanayo, isimo sinokuziphatha komuntu noma umhlaba wezimzwelo zakhe.
Amazwi ahlukanisayo
Njengoba sithola, into esemqoka kunoma ubani wethu ukuzuza ukuzethemba. Kodwa nansi umbuzo: kanjani umuntu omncane afinyelela ukuzethemba? Impendulo icacile: ngenxa yokuhlazeka kwabanye, ukuziqhenya, ukuzikhohlisa. Futhi umuntu ovuthiwe uzuza kanjani ukuzethemba? Ngenxa yezimpumelelo zangempela (isibonelo, emsebenzini noma emndenini wokuphila), ukugcina ngokuqinile izindinganiso zokuziphatha. Futhi yini ukukhulisa? Kusobala ukuthi ukukhulelwa yilokho, ngenxa yalokho umntwana wethu kancane kancane eba ngumuntu ovuthiwe. Ngokungangabazeki, ukukhuliswa kuyisayensi engathí sina. Kubazali abasanda kuqala ukukuqonda, ngifisa ukufisa ukubekezela ukubekezela nokukhuthazela ekufezeni imigomo emihle. Ukuthola izixazululo ezifanele ngokuvamile kusiza umbono wethu wezwe kanye nothando oluqotho kumntanakho.