Uke waphawula ukuthi kunabesifazane abaneminyaka yabo abangakwazi ukuzimisela shazi? Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi yikuphi okuyiqiniso: uphawu emapasipoti, isimo sezempilo noma isimo sengqondo? Iyini ikhalenda kanye neminyaka yobudala bomuntu? Futhi ungasindisa kanjani amandla angama-20, 30, 40?
Uneminyaka emingaki: amashumi amabili, amashumi amathathu namashumi ayisithupha? Akunandaba. Zonke lezi zibalo zijwayelekile, zikhombisa ukuthi uzibone kangaki ukuthi intwasahlobo iphumelela kanjani ebusika. Iminyaka yekhalenda ayibalulekile kakhulu kumuntu njengombuso nomzimba.
Fihla noma cha?
Abesifazane abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukubuza imibuzo mayelana neminyaka yabo kuyinto engcolile, futhi bahlale behleka usulu noma bathule ngesibalo esithile. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi iphuzu lonke likhona ekungalingeni kwebhanti yobudala bethu bezingqondo kanye nezinombolo kule pasipoti. Noma kunjalo, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela iminyaka yakho bese uyayamukela. Ukuphila kwethu kuyincwadi enhle enezithombe zombala. Njalo ngonyaka, inyanga, isonto, ngisho nosuku luyikhasi elisha. Funda ukuvuka ekuseni, zama ubudala bakho, njengengubo entsha: "Awu, namuhla ngingaphansi kweminyaka eyikhulu ubudala - ngizolala embhedeni ngaphambi kokudla", "Futhi manje amandla amshaya, angikwazi ukuhlala ngisathulile," "Ngakho-ke Ngakho-ke, namhlanje ngineminyaka engu-30, ngimnandi, futhi ngombono wami oyinkimbinkimbi iphrojekthi ehlakaniphile, wonke umuntu ungena. "
Ungabheka kanjani osemncane?
Ekuboneni kokuqala kungaba nzima ukuthola ukuthi uneminyaka engakanani owesifazane. Ubusuku obungenalutho noma ukusikeka okungenakuphumelela, izingubo ezingenasici noma ukudla okungalungile "kungakhulisa" iminyaka yakhe ... Ngeshwa, iresiphi yobusha obungapheli nobuhle kutholakala kuphela ezindabeni zezinganekwane, kodwa kunezimiso eziningana ezidingekayo ezenza kube kuhle kunanoma yisiphi isikhathi.
• Zizinakekele. Hlola njalo isikhwama sakho sezimonyo, shintsha ama-creams ngokusho kobudala kanye nohlobo lwesikhumba.
• Thola ukulala ngokwanele. Ukuze silondoloze impilo nobuhle, umzimba wethu udinga okungenani ukulala kwehora lesikhombisa. Ukungabi nalutho okungapheli kokulala kunomthelela omubi ekukhiqizeni umzimba nokukhiqizwa kwe-hormone.
• Qaphela isithombe. Khetha izingubo ngokuhambisana nemikhuba yamanje, izici zesibalo kanye nenambitheka yakho. Amantombazane amaningi asekudala aqhubeka nokunamathela enkambeni yobusha bawo. Futhi lokhu akulungile: kokubili ukuphila nemfashini akumi.
• Ukusebenzisa kahle izimonyo. Ngonyaka ngamunye, siyaqaphela imisebenzi esibhekene nayo. Udinga ukuzwa ukuvumelana nesikhathi sakho, unikeze ukuveza izinto ezibonakalayo ebusweni, ukufihla imibimbi eye yabonakala.
• Yamukele ngokwakho. Sebenzisa isibuko ukuze ungaboni ukwehluleka, kodwa ukuze uqonde ukuthi ubukeka kanjani. Zibuke ngokweqile, kodwa hhayi ngokugxeka. Ngisho yedwa nawe, thola ngokwengeziwe isithunzi sakho, hhayi amaphutha akho. Futhi uyeke ukulahlekelwa isisindo: sebenzisa umzimba futhi ubuke isisindo sakho. Abesifazane abathandekayo babheka kakhulu kuneminyaka yobudala!
• Dumisa. Njalo uqaphele impumelelo yakho! Shaya ikhanda lakho bese usitshela - namuhla! - mayelana nempumelelo yabo okungenani umuntu oyedwa.
• Qaphela amaphupho. Sihlale sihlehlisa izifiso zethu kamuva: akukho mali, akukho isikhathi,
akukho ukusekelwa. Zizwa ukuthi unesikhathi, amandla kanye nezinsiza zokufunda noma ukuhamba.
"Ubudala" izinkinga nemibuzo.
Izitha eziyinhloko zobusha nobuhle zingukucindezeleka nokuhlangenwe nakho okukhulu. Ikhalenda kanye neminyaka yobudala bomuntu abesongela ngokulinganayo. Kulaba besifazane, izinkinga zeminyaka ziboshwe kunokuba zingaboshelwa izinsuku ezithile zokuzalwa, kodwa ekuhambeni kwemijikelezo ethile yokuphila komndeni: umshado, ukuzalwa kwengane, ukuhlukaniswa, ukunakekelwa kwezingane kusuka ekhaya ...
Ngifuna ukukhula! Lesi sifiso sivame ukuvakashela amantombazane amancane asebenza eqenjini elithi "abadala" noma ngaphansi kokunakekelwa okuqinile kwabazali babo. Omunye uzama ukufanisa ozakwabo, abe namahloni okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo okuncane, futhi omunye uzama ukumelana nokucindezelwa koomama nobaba abathandayo ngokweqile ... Ngandlela-thile, amantombazane asebekhulile azincisha izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu - ubusha. Ngeke kube khona ithuba lesibili. Kulo nyaka, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukubona ukuthi wonke umuntu usemusha futhi engenalwazi (ngisho nomphathi wakho oqinile), ngakho-ke unelungelo lokwenza iphutha. Abazali bakhombisa ukuthi usukhulile kakade, akudingeki ukwenze kanye nezingubo, kodwa izenzo ezindala! Ingabe kukhona ubulili emshadweni? Sekuvele unyaka wokuqala wokuphila komshado, i-honeymoon ingahamba kahle ngokuphila okumnandi kwansuku zonke. Futhi konke okusesandleni sakho kuphela. Isikhathi esilandelayo esinzima ukukhulelwa kanye nomnyaka wokuqala emva kokuzalwa kwengane. Futhi wena nomyeni wakho ngalesi sikhathi cishe ngeke nibe ocansini. Nokho, lokhu akusona isizathu sokuhlukana komunye nomunye. Zama ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga zakho ndawonye futhi ungakhohlwa mayelana ne-caresses. Lapho uneminyaka engama-30, ukukhangwa okunamandla kocansi kungavusa abesifazane. Futhi uma oshade naye ngalesi sikhathi ematasa ngebhizinisi noma ekwakheni umsebenzi, ngeke abe kuwe. Noma kunjalo, ungabuki ngokushesha umthandi. Umsebenzi wakho ukumthakazelisa. Ekugcineni, ukuphumula ngokocansi kuzosiza kuphela ezindabeni zomsebenzi. "Ukuvukela kwamadoda aneminyaka engamashumi amane" kubonakala ngentshisekelo enkulu emantombazaneni amancane. Abayeni bethu baqaphela ngokungazelelwe ukuthi impilo idlulile, akukho lutho olusha nolwejwayelekile oluzokwenzeka, nokuguga kusengaphambili. Thola amandla nesifiso sokuphinda uthandane kabusha kuwe, futhi uzokwenza ngokuhlonipha ukubhekana nalokhu kuhlolwa. Kodwa lokhu kungenzeka kuphela ngokuthanda kanye nokuzihlanganisa. Lapho usukhulile, uma ucansi olulodwa lomlingani lungadlali indima ekhethekile, kanti elinye lisefomu elihle lezocansi, uthando olujulile, ama-caresses obuseduze nokuqonda okuphelele kuzosiza ekugwemeni inkinga enkulu.
Ukuba noma ukungabi khona? Nganoma yisiphi isikhathi singacabanga ngencazelo yokuphila. Ngesinye isikhathi uyazibuza: "Ngingubani? Ngenzani? Ngiphila nobani? "Futhi uma yonke imibuzo ofuna ukuyiphendula" abazi ", inkinga yakho eneminyaka ephakathi nendawo iyabonakala. Yebo, usemngceleni wempumelelo enkulu. Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi, uma ulinganisile futhi uyakwazisa zonke izinzuzo nezingozi, uthatha isinqumo sokuthi akukho lutho oludinga ukuguqulwa futhi akudingekile, ukhetho lochwepheshe lwenziwa kahle futhi luhambisana nomuntu othandekayo kakhulu emhlabeni, kodwa ngenxa yokuzizwa injabulo ngokuphelele ulahlekile kuphela .... ucezu ushokoledi.
Ingabe isehlukaniso ngaso sonke isikhathi siyinhlekelele? Ucwaningo lwabahlali bezenhlalakahle lubonise ukuthi abesifazane abathathu abahlukanisile abafuni ukushada futhi - baqala ukubaluleka kakhulu inkululeko entsha nokuzimela, ukuba baphinde bazinikele ngenxa yabantu! Abesifazane abane kwabangu-5 banomuzwa wokuthi ukuzethemba kwabo kuye kwaba ngcono; ababili kwabathathu - leyo nhlukaniso yabasiza ukuba bakwazi ukulawula impilo yabo okokuqala. Wonke owesifazane ohlukanisile wesine ukholelwa ukuthi impilo yakhe yobulili iye yaphuthuka kuphela. Yebo, izibalo zikhuluma ngokwayo! Yebo, ungalimala, ubuhlungu futhi ungajabulisi, kodwa ukuphila kwakho akupheli lapho!
Angidingi muntu! Imicabango enjalo, njengomthetho, ivakashelwe abesifazane abavele baqaphela iminyaka yabo. Ubuso nomzimba ziye zashintsha kancane, izingane zikhule, futhi emsebenzini, naphezu kolwazi nolwazi, wawungasebenzi. Yebo, lokhu sekuphela kwesigaba sokuphila esithile, kodwa emva kokunye okulandelayo kuzolandela! Uyothola ukujwayela imibimbi futhi ufunde ukubhekana nabo, izingane ziyoba nemindeni, futhi wena (ugogo) uzoba usizo kakhulu kubo, futhi esikhundleni somsebenzi uyoba nemisebenzi eminingi emisha neyithakazelisayo nezinto ezithandwayo ... Ngokuvamile, noma yini eyenzekayo, ukuphila iyaqhubeka, futhi konke okwenzekayo - kube ngcono!