Ukuziphatha okuhle kwengane kuthokozisa njalo abazali. Silwela ukufeza lokhu ngezindlela eziningi: ukukholisa, izijeziso, isikhuthazo. Enye indlela ukugqugquzela ukuziphatha okulungile ngosizo lwemali noma okulinganayo (amaphoyinti, amamitha, izitika). Indlela yokusebenzisa le ndlela ngendlela efanele?
Inkinga ephikisanayo
Izinkinga zokukhuthaza izingane, ikakhulukazi ezinganeni zasenkulisa, kubangele ukuphikisana kokubili phakathi kochwepheshe kanye nabazali. Abanye bathi ingane kufanele ilalele abazali kanye nosizo nxazonke endlini engathandeki, abanye - ukuthi ngosizo lwe-system-reward reward system yomntwana ngamamaki amahle noma okulinganayo, umntwana ushintshashintsha ukuze abe umuntu omdala ngesikhathi. Zonke izinhlelo zesikhuthazo somntwana zixhunyanisiwe, okokuqala, ngokuhlakulela ukuziphatha okufunayo, futhi kakade endaweni yesibili - ngezigwegwe ezingathandeki. Lona iphuzu labo eliqinile. Uhlangothi olubuthakathaka ukuthi ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwabo kungathuthukisa isimo somntwana "hhayi isinyathelo ngaphandle kwesikhuthazo." Kodwa emva kokuphela kombuzo wokusetshenziswa ngokweqile, futhi ngaphakathi kwemingcele efanelekile lezi zindlela zisebenza kahle futhi zivumela ukunikeza ngokufanele imigomo yokuziphatha yabantwana basenkulisa.
Amabhontshisi wekhofi
U-Nikita, indodana eneminyaka engu-6 ubudala kaSvetlana, ungumntwana ozifunayo, onzima ukuphoqelela ukuba alandele imithetho eyamukelekile. Eqaphela ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo, uSvetlana wakhuphuka ngesisindo sekhofi futhi, kanye nendodana yakhe, wakha uhlu oluthi: "Ngidle konke ukudla kwasekuseni (kwasemini, isidlo sakusihlwa) - okusanhlamvu oku-1"; "wenza umsebenzi kahle - izinhlamvu ezintathu"; "Ngangihlanza igumbi - amahlamvu amabili", njll. Uhlu lwathunyelwa endaweni ebonakalayo, kanti uNicita wayenabhange lokugcina okusanhlamvu, futhi uhlu lwamalungelo lwafakwa lapho okusanhlamvu okungatshintshaniswa khona: "ukunyuka esikhungweni sokuzijabulisa kwezingane - izinhlamvu ezingu-70 "," Iminye imizuzu engama-20 yemidlalo yekhompyutha - okusanhlamvu okungama-20, "njll. Kwakukhona nesimiso sokujeziswa:" ukuhlukumezeka kumuntu omdala - unike izitshalo eziyi-15 "," ngamanga. "Ngokushesha uSvetlana wabona imiphumela: UNikita waqala ukulandela imithetho. Umama ukhathazekile ngokuthi lokhu kungenza yini indodana ingalawuleki lapho kungekho khona ukukhuthaza? Uma kuziwa uhlelo lokukhuthaza, ngakho-ke, njengendlela yokubusa, uhlelo olusetshenziswayo, okuyinto abantu abadala abavumelana ngayo nengane.Le nqubo inconywa ukuba isetshenziswe lapho ingane ineminyaka engu-5 ubudala, ngoba ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi uhlelo luyoba nzima kakhulu ukuba ingane iqonde.Noma isiphi isenzo esisithandayo, inani elithile liyabelwe amaphuzu, kanye nezikolo zokuziphatha ezimbi ziyasuswa. Amaphuzu athile angatshantshaniswa ngamalungelo asetshenziswe ngaphambilini.
Yini okufanele ngiyikhuthaze?
Ingane ngayinye inezinkinga zayo siqu ekuziphatheni kwayo. Ngenye, lokhu kuhambisana nombuso, omunye - ukugcina umyalelo ekamelweni, njll. Uhlu lokuziphatha okukhuthazayo kufanele lubhalwe (uma ingane ingakwazi ukufunda) noma izikhundla zakhe kufanele zithathwe (izithombe ezibonisa ukuziphatha okufunayo), futhi kufanele kube nezinto ezimbalwa - okungenani ezinhlanu. Ungenza izikhundla ezihambisana nombuso (ngesikhathi nangaphandle kwezingcingo, walala, wavuka ekuseni futhi wagqoke), kanye nemisebenzi yasendlini (wafaka kahle izingubo zakhe, wahlanza amathoyizi akhe ngaphambi kokulala, njll). Ngesikhathi esithile, ungakhetha ukuvuselela imisebenzi engu-2-3. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ingane izokhishwa kwezinye izinto. Ukuze ukhuthaze amanye amacala, sebenzisa udumo (kokubili okuyimfihlo kanye nomphakathi, okukhulunywe kwabanye abantu), nezinye izikhuthazo ("uzongisiza, bese sizohamba ukudlala.") Lokhu kuyadingeka ukugwema ukwakheka kwengane "akukho isinyathelo ngaphandle kwamaphoyinti" .
Ukuqokwa ngokucophelela komsebenzi (isibonelo, ukulungiselela isikole) kungakhuthazwa, kodwa ngokucophelela, ukuze isikhundla singagcini, "Ngenza izifundo kuphela ngesikhuthazo." Ngakho-ke, khuthaza isenzo esisodwa kuphela, esibaluleke kakhulu okwamanje, futhi ukushintsha ngezikhathi ezithile lezi zenzo. ukhohlwe ngokudumisa amazwi, kubaluleke kakhulu kwengane kunezibalo!
Yisiphi isisusa sokugqugquzela futhi yiziphi izici?
Ungakhetha noma yiziphi izinto ezingabonisa amaphuzu:
- ikhofi noma ezinye izitshalo ezinkulu;
- ubuhlalu bomuko wesigcawu, okunconywa ukuba uchungechunge emgqeni;
- amamitha esiqandisini.
Ukubonakala okubalulekile nokutholakala kokulungiswa kabusha. Qinisekisa ukuthi amaphuzu athole ingane angasetshenziswa ngendlela efanele. Kubalulekile ukuthi ngezinsuku ezingu-7-10 umntwana abe nethuba lokushintshanisa amaphuzu elinye lamalungelo amakhulu futhi uzoba namaphuzu ama-2-3 amancane. Kulesi simo, uhlelo luzosebenza kahle. Iphutha ibhonasi eningi kakhulu lapho ingane inethuba lokuthola amaphuzu wephromoshini enkulu ezinsukwini ezingu-2-3. Futhi, ibhonasi enganele ngokwanele kungenzeka kube iphutha, lapho amaphuzu athola kancane kancane, futhi izinyane lilahlekelwa inzalo.
Yini ongayikhetha njengesiphakamiso?
Ukuvakasha kanye nezindawo ezithakazelisayo zabantu abadala: ama-cinema, amapaki okuzijabulisa, amathiyetha kanye namamyuziyamu; ukuthenga ithoyizi elinde isikhathi eside, njll. Kunconywa ukuba ufake "Ukumangalisa!" Isikhundla, umuntu omdala ucabanga ngokuzijabulisa okuthile, kodwa akatshele ingane ngaphambi kokuba afinyelele endaweni. Akufanele isetshenziswe njengesiphakamiso se-chocolate nemidlalo yekhompiyutha.Ukusetshenziswa kwamaswidi kufanele kukhawulelwe ngezinye izindlela, kanye nekhompyutha, kusuka ekuhlakanipheni okujwayelekile kanye nezincomo zikadokotela. Qinisekisa ukuthi usungula futhi uhlele izinkathazo, okuyinto ingane "engayitholi". Kodwa kulokhu kungcono ukungamniki, khona-ke ukuzijabulisa, okwamanje uqoqa amaphuzu (abazali ngokuvamile bayazi ngalokhu). Kubalulekile ukulondoloza isisusa somntwana.
Ingabe sidinga izinyathelo zokujeziswa?
Kungcono kuwe ukuthi uthathe isinqumo esimweni ngasinye ngokwakho - uhlobo luni lwesigwebo esifanele ukuziphatha kabi. Ngokuvamile izijeziso zidingeka kuphela ekuqaleni, bese ingane ijwayele ukuhlonipha lokho "ayithole." Kuhle kuphela ezintweni eziluhlu lwakho, ngaphandle kokungaziphathi kahle kakhulu: amanga noma ukuziphatha okungahloniphi ngamabomu.