Izazi zengqondo zicabangela umzwelo wokuqala womuntu okwesabayo. Ngemuva kokudlula emgodini wokuzalwa, umntwana ubamba izinhlekelele ezimbi. Izinhloso zezinkathazo zezingane zihluke kakhulu futhi zixhomeke ngokuqondile ngesilinganiso sokuthuthukiswa, ukucabanga, ukuzwela ngokomzwelo, ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, ukungavikeleki kanye nokuphila kwengane.
Izinhloso zobungozi obuneminyaka yobudala obuhlobene nengane
Cishe zonke izingane zincike kokwesaba okuhlobene nobudala. Kakade ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuphila, umntwana uqala ukwesaba imisindo ebukhali, umsindo, abangabazi. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukudala isimo esikhethekile kule nkathi yokuphila. Kulokhu kuncike, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwesaba izinhlanzi kuzokhula esikhathini esizayo, ziphenduke ukhathazeka, zande noma umntwana uzokwazi ukunqoba manje.
Ngengane emva kwezinyanga ezingu-5 into esemqoka yokwesaba ngokuvamile isuke ingabazi. Futhi, izingane zalesikhathi zingase zithole ukwesaba kwesinye isimo esingavamile, lapho sibona izinto ezingajwayelekile. Ezinganeni ezineminyaka engama-2-3, izinto zesaba ngokuvamile ziyizilwane. Futhi emva kweminyaka emithathu abantwana abaningi baqala ukwesaba ubumnyama ngoba ngalesi sikhathi banokuthuthukiswa okusheshayo kwemicabango.
Ngokuvamile izinto zokwesaba kwabantwana ziyizinhlamvu ezinhle. Isibonelo, abathakathi, uKoschey the Immortal, Baba Yaga, njll. Ngakho-ke, akudingeki ukuthi utshele izingane izindaba ezimbi, ukuvumela ama-movie angabheki angafani eminyakeni yobudala, ngisho nangaphezulu-awukwazi ukwesabisa amalume omunye wabantu, izigqila, njll. phakathi nalesi sikhathi sokuba nomntwana ngokwengeziwe. Ngokuvamile ukhumbuze futhi ubonise ingane ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani futhi ukwenze kucace ukuthi noma yini eyenzekayo, uzohlale umvikela.
Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba kwengane kubonakala eminyakeni engu-3-6. Kodwa-ke, ukwesaba kakhulu kwengane kungaba i-alamu efihliwe. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukuqedwa kwezinto ezesabayo akuqedi imbangela ye-alamu.
Eminyakeni yobudala yasenkulisa, ukucabanga okungabonakali kuqala ukukhula ngendlela enamandla ezinganeni, umuzwa wokuhlolisana, ekhaya, "izindinganiso zokuphila" zakhiwa, ngakho-ke inani lezinkathazo zezingane liba likhulu nakakhulu kakhulu. Ingane ingase ibe nokwesaba impilo yabathandekayo babo, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yibo. Emndenini, ukwesaba kwabantu abadala kudluliselwa kwengane. Lapho kukhona ukwesaba kwabazali, kunethuba eliphakeme lokuvela kwezinto ezintsha zokwesaba ezinganeni. Ngakho-ke, zama ukulondoloza ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo okujulile nengane yakho.
Into eyesabayo enganeni ingaba ingxabano phakathi kwabazali. Futhi omdala ingane, ukukhathazeka kakhudlwana ngokomzwelo kwanda. Zama ungalokothi uxabane futhi ungafungi phambi kwengane. Kuleyo mindeni lapho ingane iba yinkinga yokukhathazeka kwabazali nokukhathazeka, ukwesaba ingane kungase kungahambisani nezidingo zabazali.
Lapho kuqala ukufika esikoleni, izingane zinomthwalo wemfanelo, umsebenzi, umsebenzi, owenza izici zokuziphatha zomuntu. "Ukwesaba umphakathi" kungaba izinto zokwesaba. Ingane ingesaba ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlwa noma ukujeziswa, hhayi labo ababazisa, abahlonishwayo futhi baqondwa. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ingane iyaziqaphela njalo, isuke ingezwani ngokomzwelo. Into yokwesaba ezinganeni ingaba nezimpawu ezimbi esikoleni, ukwesaba ukujeziswa ekhaya. Zama ukungamangazi ingane, kodwa ukumsiza ukuba anqobe ukwesaba. Ukusekela ukuzethemba kwengane, ukwandise ukuzethemba.
Izinhlekelele ezehlukene zemvelo (izikhukhula, umlilo, izivunguvungu, ukuzamazama komhlaba, njll) zingaba izinto zezinkathazo zezingane. Zama ukubuyisela ukuthula kwengqondo yengane, ukuthula, ukuhlenga umoya wokuphepha.
Ingane ngayinye ingaba neyakhe, into ehlukile yokwesaba kwengane, ngakho-ke hlolisisa ingane yakho, gwema izimo zokungqubuzana.