Ukudlala umuntu onjalo kusho ukuzwakalisa ngokuzumayo ngokuphelele. Futhi lokhu kuyabuhlungu kakhulu. Abaningi bethu balahlekelwa inhliziyo enhle futhi behleka lapho bephinde behluleka. Kodwa labo abangakwazi ukulahlekelwa akugcini nje ukucasuka, kodwa futhi musa ukuthethelela ngokwabo ukunqotshwa. Ukunqoba komunye kubangela ukuba abe nesizathu sokuzihlambalaza ngokuhluleka. Futhi uqala ukudlala ukuze aphinde azame ukuzizwa ephakeme. Kubantu abanjalo, impilo iyinto efanayo. Umdlalo uyisimo esikhethekile kuphela. Yiziphi izindlela ezingavumelekile emzabalazweni wobuholi nokuthi zingabalwa kanjani, futhi ziphume emanzini?
Ukwesaba ukuhlolwa okungalungile
Ukunqoba emdlalweni akukwazi kufihlwa. Uhlala efakaza okungenani oyedwa. Kulowo ohluphekayo, ukunqoba kusho ukuthi abanye bazobona ukungena kwakhe. Uyesaba: ngokungazelelwe, ukungapheleli kwakhe kuzokwenza abanye bangakhulumi naye, ukuthi ngeke abafanele ngokwabo.
Isifiso sokuzibiza
Ngaso sonke isikhathi bazizwa labo abazali abasebancane abajeziswa ngenxa yokuhluleka okuncane. Ukuzama ukuhola, nakanjani, manje bazama ukuqaphela isidingo sabo sokuba abahamba phambili, abaphelele, bonke abahlonishwayo. Umdlalo (uma kwenzeka ukunqoba) ubasiza ukuba bazibonele. Impumelelo yangaphandle ifakazela ukubaluleka kwayo, futhi ukulahlekelwa kusho ukuthi ilahlekile futhi. Amadoda asabela lapho ehluleka kakhulu kunabesifazane. Mhlawumbe iqiniso liwukuthi abafana bavame ukukhuliswa ekulandeleni ukunqoba, kanti amantombazane afundiswa ukuba aguquguquke futhi akhiphe.
Umdlalo ubaluleke kakhulu
Umdlalo nje wobuholi? Kulabo abangakwazi ukulahlekelwa, lokhu kuyinto engaphezulu kakhulu. Umdlalo yiyona ephikisanayo neqiniso, isikhala lapho ungakha khona impilo yakho ngokuhlukile. Umdlalo unemithetho ecacile. Ngale ndlela kubangalisa labo abakhathazekile phakathi kwezimpikiswano zokuphila. Kwabaningi bethu, ukudlala kuwumsebenzi ophephile. Ekugcineni, kungashintshwa njalo. Kodwa labo ababhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kwabo, abaqapheli lokhu. Futhi ukwehluleka kwabo kufana nokusongela empilweni yabo. Abazi kahle ukuthi ukulahlekelwa yikubuya kwezingxabano, ingozi. Ukulahlekelwa kuba yinsiza yokugcina futhi kubangele ukusabela ngokweqile ngokomzwelo. Kodwa isizathu salokhu ukuziphatha akuyona umdlalo ngokwawo. Kungokuthi izici eziphawulekayo ekuziphatheni kwethu zibonakala ngokucacile kuyo, ngoba isikhathi nendawo yomdlalo sinqunyelwe.
Kulowo oseduze
Cabanga kusengaphambili ukuthi imiphi imidlalo yokubamba iqhaza ngokugcwele, futhi uma kufanelekile ukuvumelanisa, ukuvumelanisa nendlela yobuholi, ongakwazi ukulahlekelwa. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi lokhu kuphathelene nokuqonda, hhayi ngokuzwakalisa ... Ungatholi uxolo - awusoze wecala ngalokho okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu olahlekile; ungamhlekisi - ngakho-ke usengozini yokucabangela imizwa yakhe. Abazali akufanele bahlale bedlala nezingane zabo ngokuzinikezela. Phela, sidala inkolelo eyingozi kubo ukuthi ukuphila kuzohlale kulalela izifiso zabo. Kubalulekile ukuwachazela ukuthi ukulahlekelwa akuyona into embi kakhulu.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
■ Ukubuyisela injabulo
Dlala imidlalo ehlukile. Thola labo okuthakazelisayo ikakhulukazi kuwe, futhi ube mnene ngokwakho, ake ngidlale ... ngenjabulo. Umsebenzi: ukuzizwa injabulo yenqubo yomdlalo, hhayi emphumela wayo. Khetha abalingani othembekile futhi wazi ukuthi isimo sabo sengqondo asincike ekutheni unqoba noma ulahlekelwe yini.
■ shintsha imithetho
Vumelana nawe ukuthi namuhla uzoshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ekulahlekelweni (uma kwenzeka). Uma uphumelela, nakanjani uzoba umqobi, ngoba, ekugcineni, uye wakwazi ukunqoba wena.
Iba umuntu omdala
Njengoba sakhula, siyazizwa siziqhenya njengabaholi kanye nokushayela kwezimpilo zethu, futhi sithola ukwaneliseka okukhulu kulokhu. Kumuntu osukhulile, umdlalo uyeka ukufana noma impi, futhi iphinda ibe mnandi, ukuzijabulisa ... Uma ungakwazi ukuvumelanisa nokunqotshwa kwakho, futhi uhlupheka ngale ndaba, umdlalo ufihla uhlobo oluthile lokuphikisana impilo yakhe. Kulesi simo, kufanelekile ukuphendukela kwengqondo, ngoba ukuhlupheka akuyona umdlalo.