Ake sibheke ngokucophelela: zikhona yini izinzuzo emfundweni enzima yabantwana abanalo ibhande, noma ngabe yinto engafanele kuphela ukuthi abazali akufanele bafinyelele kulokho, noma basebenzise ngokungavamile kakhulu.
Abazali, okokuqala, udinga ukukhumbula into eyodwa: ibhande ngeke ulibulale iqiniso embhedeni wengane yakho. Uvele umqinisekise ukuthi kuleli zwe kuphela amandla angokomzimba abeka imithetho.
Ngokuyinhloko, uma sicabanga ngemfundo ephakeme njengethimba elihle lokuziphatha nezenzo zabazali - ke lokhu kuyinto evamile. Yingakho ikhuliswa ukuqondisa nokunye ukuhola, ukuphoqa izingane zabo okuthile okulungile, okudingekayo.
Noma, uma ucabanga ngakho, sonke, bazali, sifuna ukukhulisa izingane zabo ukuze zifana nathi. Lesi sifiso cishe singazi lutho, sibeke endaweni ethile kwi-subcortex futhi kuyasitshela indlela yokukhulisa ingane.
Yonke imicabango yethu nokuziphatha kwethu belokhu bevela ebuntwaneni. Omunye - kusuka kubazali, kwabanye - kusuka kubazali nomkhulu, kanti abanye banamathele izinhlamvu nemigqa yokuziphatha kwamanye amaqhawe, mhlawumbe ngisho nezinganekwane. Ukukhethwa kwezingane mayelana nalabo abafuna ukulidla, abafuna ukukulingisa, kuxhomeke ngokuphelele kwizinga legunya lalo noma lo muntu. Futhi uma umzali okwamanje ekhubeke kakhulu ebuntwaneni bakhe obuncane, wamcindezela futhi wajezisa ngokweqile, khona-ke uzobe engathwala ingqondo engacabangi ukuthi umqondo wokuthi ukukhuliswa okunjalo kuyinto efanele, ngisho noma kunzima futhi kungenangqondo.
Izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuthi lapho izingane zisondelene kakhulu futhi zijwayele kakhulu ukubopha, lokhu kuthinta kakhulu isimo sabo sengqondo futhi kuqhubekisela phambili isimo sabo sengqondo ngokuhlukunyezwa nobudlova. Futhi uma bebona ukuthi lesi sihluku sivela kubazali, abantu abasondelene nabathandekayo, kulula kakhulu ukuba aphethe naye. Ukuhlukumeza kuba yingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwabo, baphatha imbewu yabo ibe ngabantu abadala, futhi kusukela kulokhu abanye abantu bahlupheka kamuva.
Ngakho-ke, ake sichaze ukuthi ukukhuliswa okunzima nokuqinile kungathinta kanjani isimo somntwana wakho.
Option eyodwa, enobudlova
Izingane zihlukile. Ezinye zazo zidiliza zonke izikhalazo kanye nezijeziso, zime ekhoneni, ngaphandle kokugqugquzela, futhi zibukeka njengezinyembezi uma zibetha ngebhande. Futhi abanye banesibindi esikhulu futhi banomusa, abavumelani nezijeziso, bayabhikisha futhi bazame, njengokungathi, ukuphindiselela kubazali ababajezisa. Isibonelo, vele uphinde ushaye ukuthi kukhona umchamo. Njengoba ubona, kakade ebuntwaneni babonisa ukuhlukumezeka - futhi lo mkhuba uzokhula ngokushesha eminyakeni edlule uma uqhubeka nenkolo yakho yodlova olwenziwe njalo.
Ngokuvamile, ukuhlukumeza kwalaba bantwana kudluliselwa kwezinye izingane. Kunzima kakhulu enkulisa nasesikolweni, basabela ngokuqinile kulezo zimo uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, njengoba nabo ngokwabo befisa. Izakhi zofuzo zomzali zivuswa lapha. Uma ingane ingavunyelwe ukuthinta isethi yamathuluzi kababa, ngaphandle kokunikeza isizathu sokuvimbela lokhu, kodwa imjezisa kakhulu ngebhande ngokuphulwa kwayo, khona-ke ingane izodlulisela lokhu kuziphatha empilweni yakhe. Futhi uma ingane izama ukuthatha kuye ithoyizi, uzokwenza ukukhanya ngokushesha futhi cishe, izoshaya noma iphoqe ingane.
Ngakho-ke, uma ungumsekeli wemfundo enzima, ngaphambi kokubamba ibhande kuzo zonke izimo, bheka kuqala ingane - mhlawumbe wayesekhombisa izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa kusukela ekuzalweni? Uma kunjalo - ungaqhubeki, ungagcini lesi sici somlingiswa, ngoba sizovimbela ingane yakho ukuba ingalandele impilo.
Option ezimbili, ukuphindiselela
Lokhu, mhlawumbe, yinkinga enzima kunazo zonke yethonya lezijeziso eziningi zezingane zisencane. Uma ingane ihluke ngokuyinhloko ukuziphatha kobudlova kwabazali bayo ukuba buthakathaka noma okungenani balingana naye - okungukuthi, ontanga yakhe, ngakho-ke konke lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi nakakhulu.
Kubi kakhulu futhi kuyingozi uma intukuthelo yengane ihlala njalo futhi, ngokubona kwakhe, izijeziso ezingenasisekelo, idluliselwa kubahlukumezi, okungukuthi, ngqo kubazali ngokwabo. Lokhu kungabangela ukuqhuma okungalawulwa kokuthukuthela okuqondiswe kubaba noma kumama, noma kokubili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Konke ngoba kusukela ebuntwaneni umbono womntwana usungulwa ukuthi umndeni wakhe yizitha ezizama ukulimaza njalo nokuyihlazisa (futhi lezi zizwa zibuhlungu ikakhulukazi ezinganeni).
Ngolunye usuku, ngelinye ilanga, kuyofika isikhathi lapho ingane izophakamisa isandla sayo kulabo abamvusa kakhulu. Uphakamisa ukuphindiselela zonke izinyathelo ukuthi, njengoba ecabanga konke ukuphila kwakhe, abazali bakhe bambangela. Angabuyisela ngokudabukisayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuvelele kangakanani. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi izihlobo zakhe zamkhuphula esimweni sokuzibamba njalo nokujeziswa kwanoma yikuphi, ngisho necala elihle kakhulu nelincane.
Option ezintathu, ukuqonda
Kodwa nokho phakathi kwezingane kukhona nalabo, naphezu kokuhlukunyezwa kwabazali babo, namanje bakwazi ukubhekana nengane ebunzima ukucabanga ukuthi yonke ubudlova bubi. Futhi baqinisa kulo mcabango ngenxa yobuhlungu obungenasici babazali ababengazi indlela yesanqante nesanqante futhi bakhuphulela amabhande kuphela, abacindezela ngokukhululekile kunoma iyiphi i-prank yengane. Izingane ziyaqaphela kamuva ukuthi uMama nobaba babengafuni ukulimaza, ukuthi bezama ukuzithumela iqiniso, ngisho nangendlela enonya kangaka.
Bazohlaziya izenzo zabantu abadala bese befika esiphethweni sokuthi ngeke neze bavumele amaphutha anjalo. Futhi ubudlelwane nabazali asebekhulile bayobe bebushelelezi futhi befudumele, ngoba ngeke babambelele kubo okubi, bese bezama ukuthola isizathu kubo futhi bazibonakalise ukuthi yiyo imfundo eqinile eyenza abantu abanjalo abaqinile.
Yiqiniso, lezi ziyizinketho eziyinhloko zalokho okungenziwa nabantwana abanamabhande, kanti okwesithathu kubo kungavamile kakhulu. Kuye kwafakazelwa ukuthi izingane ezikhuliswe ngodlame oluqhubekayo, zihlakulela futhi zenze lobudlova buqhubeke nokuphila, ziqondise kuzo zonke izigaba zomsebenzi wabo wokuphila. Abazali kuphela abangalokothi bacabange ngekusasa lezingane zabo, ngokushintshanisa kwabo emphakathini, bangalisebenzisa kabi leli bhande njengesijeziso futhi balisebenzise kanye nezinye izindlela zokusebenzisa amandla lapho ingane iphula uhlobo oluthile lomthetho olwenziwe abazali, omunye umthetho.
Khumbula, kuphela kithi kuncike ukuthi ngubani ozobe eseseduze nezingane zethu, kholwa mina, ikusasa. Ingabe bayoba usizo, abafuna ukusiza umakhelwane wabo, noma bazobheka umhlaba ngobubi, amehlo abalimele futhi abhekwe njenge-asocial and misanthrope? Ufuna ikusasa luni kumntanakho?
Cha, akukwazi ukusho ukuthi ibhande lihlala libi njalo, ngokulinganisa amancane kanye namacala abaluleke kakhulu, ungazibamba uma usuvele uzame zonke izindlela zokuthula kanye nezindlela zokujezisa ingane. Kodwa kukho konke okudingayo ukwazi isilinganiso, wazi ukuthi ungamangaleli kanjani lapho umntwana ekhubeka khona, kodwa futhi kusukela emphefumulweni ukumdumisa lapho evelele khona. Ukulingana okunjalo nokuhlukumezeka kuzoqinisekisa ukuthi imfundo ehle kakhulu, futhi ngeke ilukhuni ingane.