Abomama nabazali abaningi, bebona ingane enokuthula, behlanganyela ngentshiseko ebhizinisini labo, bebubula ngomona: "Kodwa mina angikwazi ukuhlala ngithule ngomzuzu! .." Futhi kaningi abasoli ukuthi umsebenzi owedlulele awuyona umlingiswa, kodwa ukuxilongwa. Yini ehluke kakhulu kwenye enye ingane engasebenzi kahle? Futhi kanjani ukuziphatha naye kithi - abazali? ..
YINI IZINDABA EZIKHULULELA?
Ngokungaqondile, ukuhamba okuhle kuyisici cishe cishe zonke izingane zezingane zasenkulisa. Kodwa uma ukungahlali kwengane njalo kuwela yonke imingcele futhi kudala izinkinga ekukhulumeni nabangane, abazali nabafundisi (othisha) kuyisignali ukuthi kubalulekile ukubonisana nochwepheshe.
Ngokuvamile, ezinye "ukuziphatha" zengeziwe ku "sila esembeni". Okokuqala, ukungakwazi ukugxila, ukuhlanganyela ebhizinisini elifanayo isikhathi eside, ukungabi nenhloso. Le nkinga ibizwa ngokuthi i-ADHD syndrome ye-hyperactivity disorder.
Kungani izingane zihlakulela lokhu kuziphatha? Odokotela bathi izizathu eziningana: lokhu kuyindlala, nezifo ezithathelwanayo kusukela ebuntwaneni, futhi ngisho - ngokungavamile - ukungezwani kokudla okubangelwa izithasiselo zokufakelwa. Kodwa, ngokusho kwezibalo, kaningi (ngamaphesenti angu-85 amacala)
I-Peractivity iholela ezinkingeni ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kanye (noma) nokubeletha. Isibonelo, uma umama ehlushwa i-toxicosis ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngenxa yokuthi isimo sakhe sempilo esimpofu, ingane ayinaso isikhathi sokuthi "ivuthiwe" ezinye zezindlela zobuchopho. Endabeni yokubeletha okubuhlungu, uhlelo luhlukile. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngesikhathi sokuhamba kwengane ngokusebenzisa umsele wokuzalwa womama, ukuxhumana okuthile kusekwe phakathi kwezikhungo zobuchopho bakhe. Uma "i-oda" lokuzalwa liphazanyiswa (kuthi, uma kwenzeka kusigaba saseKesariya), lezi zixhumanisi zingase zingasungulwa ngokufana nalokho okuhlosiwe.
I-PORTRAIT NGOKUPHAKATHI
Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi odokotela bahluke emibono yabo ngokungabi nakhubazeka, i-portrait eseduze kwengqondo encane yengane enenkinga enjalo ikhona. Nazi izici zayo eziyinhloko:
♦ Ingane engasebenzi kahle ayikwazi ukuyigcina isikhathi eside;
♦ Kunzima kuye ukulalela umxhumanisi kuze kube sekupheleni, ukuphazamisa abanye ngaphandle kokuphela;
♦ ngokuvamile "akazwa" lapho abantu bekhuluma naye;
♦ angeke ahlale phansi, ama-fidgets esihlalweni, ajika, ahla;
♦ ngenjabulo ithatha ibhizinisi elisha, kodwa cishe aliqedi ukuqala;
♦ Ngesikhathi esivumelanayo sinokulahlekelwa izinto zakhe;
♦ Ngisho esikoleni esikoleni, akakwazi ukulandela isimiso sosuku ngalunye ngokwakhe (udinga "umqhubi wenduku");
♦ kalula ukhohlwe konke okungamthandi;
♦ izandla zingenasiphelo, ingane iphikisana njalo into, iqoqo futhi idonsa ngeminwe yakhe;
Ulala kancane;
♦ uthi okuningi;
♦ kaningi ngaphansi kokuthonya kwemizwelo eyenza izenzo zomsindo;
♦ ayithandi futhi akakwazi ukulinda ithuba lakhe;
♦ I-Movement ibukhali, engalindelekile, ngenxa yezinto ezizungezile ngezindiza ezindizayo.
Uma lezi zimpawu zijwayele ukujwayele, ungasheshi ukuthatha ikhanda lakho. Udokotela kuphela ongakwazi ukuxilonga, futhi ngisho nalapho engekho emhlanganweni wokuqala. Ochwepheshe abafanelekile bayigcina ingane izinyanga ezimbalwa, beqoka izifundo ezengeziwe uma kunesidingo. Phela, cishe zonke izimpawu ezingenhla zingaboniswa nje ukuphathwa kabi kwengane encane, kodwa futhi nangokwesinye isici sokuthuthukisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane ibonakala isikhathi esingakanani ngale ndlela, mhlawumbe cishe isigaba esilandelayo sokukhula "nemiphumela emibi," kunokuthola ukuxilongwa ngegazi.
AMACEBISO ABAZALI
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi ekukhulumisaneni nengane engasebenzi kahle, ngisho nabazali abanesineke kanye nabafundisi abanolwazi oluningi kakhulu ngezinye izikhathi balahlekelwa ukubekezela futhi baqale "ukugijima phezu kwelayili": Angikwazi ukubhekana nale "perpetuum mobile"! Nazi amathiphu ambalwa azosiza ukujwayelekile ubuhlobo futhi afinyelele kumntanakho ukuziphatha okufisayo.
♦ Kuvame ukukhuthaza ingane yakho - lezi zingane zidinga isidingo sokudumisa kanye nokukhuthaza izinto (amaswidi, amathoyizi, njll). Zama ukulalela lezo zimpumelelo zengane, ezazinikezwa nobunzima obukhethekile - ukukhuthazela, ukunemba, ukuvumelana, ukugcina isikhathi, njll.
♦ Hlela imisebenzi yokufundisa nokuthuthukiswa ekuseni, imiphumela iyoba ngaphezulu.
♦ Qala izicelo zakho kumncinyane womntwana - ngeziphakamiso ezingu-1-2, ukuze mhlawumbe alalele ekupheleni.
♦ Izingane ezingasebenzi zikhandla kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile uthatha amaphuzu emakilasini (kunoma yikuphi, ngisho nokuthakazelisa ingane).
♦ Khumbula: lapho ingane yakho endaweni yomphakathi iqala ukuziphatha ngendlela engalungile ngokwemigomo ejwayelekile evunyelwe (ukukhuluma okukhulu, ukumemeza, ukuchofoza), ukuyikhipha akusizi ngalutho. Zama ukuphazamisa ukunaka kwakhe ngengxoxo ethakazelisayo, ngokushaya kancane ukushaya izibambo, izihlathi. Izinzwa ezithandekayo zisiza ukukhulula ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Futhi ukuze ungabi namahloni ngabanye, zama ukuzitshela ukuthi ingane ayikusola ukuthi uzalwa ngaleyo ndlela, yena ngokwakhe uhlupheka ngenxa yokungazitholi.
♦ Uma usebenza nengane engasebenzi kahle, ungamdingi ukuba afeze izimo eziningana ngasikhathi sinye: hlala, ubhale (uthathe, udwebe, njll) ngokucophelela, ulalele ngokucophelela, njll. Khetha into eyodwa ebaluleke kakhulu okwamanje, isibonelo, bhala ngokucophelela, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ingane iqhuma njalo, igubha isibambo, manje isiphazamisa, zama ukungamangazi. Uma ingane igcwalisa lesi simo - qiniseka ukuthi udumisa. Isikhathi esilandelayo ukhethe esinye isimo - hlala uhlale.
♦ Uma ufuna ingane yakho ukuba ilandele isimiso sosuku ngalunye ngokunembile, ngaphambi kokuphela kwebhizinisi elilodwa futhi ekushintsheni "entweni elandelayo yohlelo", qiniseka ukumkhumbuza (okungcono hhayi eyodwa, kodwa izikhathi ezimbili kuya kwezingu-3): "Dlala amaminithi angu-10, bese kusemini ! "Izingane ezindala, ezingakwazi ukunquma isikhathi ngehora, zingalungiselela ushintsho lomsebenzi ngosizo lwewashi le-alamu.
♦ Yenza okufanayo ngosuku ukuze ingane ingabi nendluzane futhi imizuzu engu-10. Ingane enjalo idinga ukuhlala ihlala into ethile, ngakho-ke ayikho into ephakeme.
♦ Kuwusizo kakhulu ukurekhoda ingane engasebenzi kahle kusukela esencane emkhakheni wezemidlalo futhi (noma) njalo ukudlala nayo emidlalweni yezemidlalo.
♦ Indlela engcono kakhulu uma abazali nabafundisi (othisha) behlanganisa imizamo yabo ekufundiseni ingane enzima kangaka futhi bazokwenza ndawonye. Izidingo ezingavamile enkulisa (esikoleni) nasekhaya zizosiza lo muntu omncane ngokushesha ukuba athole umyalelo.
QAPHELA: THOLA!
Kukhona amacala amaningi lapho abazali bezingane ezingenasifo esinezinkinga, "bethenga" emakhono abo aphezulu okuqonda, banikeze ingane yabo esikoleni kancane kancane kunalokho okudingekayo. Futhi kungani? Ngemuva kwalokho, uma ingane, efunde ukufunda eminyakeni engama-4 ubudala, ingeza engaphezu kwemihlanu engqondweni yakhe noma ibala ukuba ikhulume ngamazwi amancane ngesiNgisi, kufanele yenzeni enkulisa?
Kodwa akuyona into elula kakhulu. Esinye sezici zezingane ezinjalo yi-asynchrony yentuthuko. Ingane impela ingaphambi kweontanga yakhe kwezinye izilinganiso, kodwa ngezinye izindlela, alas, lags ngemuva kwabo. (Ngokuvamile ukuhola kuya ngokuya ngokuhambisana nokuthuthukiswa kobuhlakani, futhi i-lag iyindaba ezindabeni zomphakathi.) Ngomntwana onjalo, isifundo esingapheli imizuzu engu-30 sifana nokuhlushwa. Uzophendulela futhi aphazamise, aphule amazwi omfundisi ngendlebe, futhi azi ukuthi angxazulula kanjani umsebenzi onzima, uzocabangela imizuzu engu-20 ngesibonelo sokuqala. Futhi izincwadi zayo maduzane zifana nezinambuzane ezidumile. Uvele "engavuthi" esikoleni ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo!
Yingakho ngaphambi kokunikeza ingane engasebenzi ngokungaqapheli esikoleni, kuyadingeka ngempela ukuyibonisa ochwepheshe, okungenani okumbalwa, isibonelo: isazi sezinzwa, isazi sezengqondo, i-defectologist. Bese-landela izincomo ezitholiwe, kufihla izifiso zabo zababelethi kuze kube izikhathi ezingcono.
Uma uqonda ukuthi "ujabule" nesikole kakade lapho ingane yakho iya ekilasini lokuqala, akuphuzi kakhulu ukuyibuyisela ensimini, "ngokudlala" ingxenye eyodwa yobuntwana. Okuhlangenwe nakho kubonisa ukuthi iqiniso lokushintsha kusuka enkulisa ukuya esikoleni ngokuvamile kubaluleke kakhulu kobaba nomama kunabantwana abancane esikoleni ngokwabo.
Ngisho nemisebenzi eyinkimbinkimbi kukhona njalo isisombululo. Futhi uma kuziwa ekwenzeni ukuphila kube lula ngokwakho kuphela, kodwa futhi kumuntu omncane, okwamanje engakwazi ukuzivikela ngaphambi kwalokhu kuphila, kukhona amandla, kukhona ochwepheshe nolwazi oludingekile. Futhi ukuvumela ukubekezela ngezinye izikhathi kuholele, into eyinhloko ukuthi uyamthanda ingane yakho, futhi ikuthanda, ngakho-ke, ngokushesha uzobe ubhekene nazo zonke izinkinga ngokushesha noma kamuva.