Futhi uma usevele engaphezu kuka-40? Owesifazane ovuthiwe ngeke asabheke ngeso lengqondo ngomhlobiso omshado omhlophe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umbala umbala wokuhlanzeka, kufaneleka kakhulu kubantu abasha. Kulolu cala, kufanele ukhethe ezinye imibala ngokusekelwe kunani labo. Isibonelo, obomvu umbala wokuzethemba, nakuba kubonakala kuyinselele kwabaningi. Ungakhetha igrey - umbala wokungaboni, isifiso sokufihla okuthile. Ukubaluleka komshado wesifazane ovuthiwe kulahlekelwa ukubaluleka kwengqondo yexabiso langempela leholidi.
Kungenzeka ukuthi kuyoba umkhosi ovaliwe nezihlobo ezintathu. Futhi uma lokhu akuyona umshado wokuqala? Lapha okushiwo, ikakhulukazi kulokho, ukugunyaza ubudlelwane, iholide lapha ngisho noma iphunga. Owesifazane ovuthiwe kufanele akwaneliswe nabancane, ngoba umphakathi awukwazi ukwamukela futhi awuwuqondi. Owesifazane ovuthiwe, okusho ukuthi naye uhlakaniphile, ngoba iminyaka ibeke imiqulu yakhe ekhanda lakhe, angeke aphinde abe mfana, futhi uyaqonda lokhu ngokuphelele. Ngakho ungaxoshe abasha, ungazami ukubukeka njalo njalo. Nakuba ukubaluleka komshado omusha, owesifazane osemusha akafani nokubaluleka komshado wesifazane ovuthiwe.
Kodwa ungaphelelwa ithemba, kunezinhlangano eziningi zomshado ezizokwenza umshado kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Kodwa udinga ukuthatha lokhu ngokungathí sina futhi uqonde ukuthi yini, ufuna umshado. Owesifazane ovuthiwe uyokhetha okungcono kakhulu, okuncane nekhwalithi ephezulu, kunokungabizi futhi okuningi. Owesifazane ovuthiwe uyaziqonda ngokucacile futhi umele lokho akufunayo umshado, lokho afuna ukugqoka futhi uzokwenza konke njengoba ebona kufanelekile, ngokungafani nentombazana, insizwa encane. Okushiwo lomshado namuhla kuye kwalahlekelwa incazelo yayo yangempela, okwakusungulwe ekuqaleni kuleli gama. Ngaphambili umshado wawuhambisana nemikhuba eminingi, imibukiso, ukudansa. Izivumelwano zokhokho zazihlonishwa ngokungcwele, ngoba "zazigqokisa ubusuku bonke, futhi zashada - kuzo zonke izinsizi, kuyo yonke injabulo."
Manje ungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nalokhu, kodwa lokhu sekuvele sekuphele ngekhulu leminyaka elidlule, ukuvala iminyango yensimbi ngemuva kwakhe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, amasiko amasha ayavela. Ngakho, isibonelo, kwakukhona isiko lokudansa umdanso wokuqala wabashadayo. Lo mbhangqwana ukhetha ingoma yokudansa kwabo kokuqala ngokwabo, noma badansa ingoma enikezwa umethuli. Imibhangqwana eminingi ilungiselela ukudansa kusengaphambili. Mhlawumbe yingakho kulula kumfazi ovuthiwe ukuthi ashade nanamuhla, kunokuba sithi eminyakeni engamashumi ayisikhombisa edlule.
Emva kwakho konke, manje awulaleli umshado, futhi uza kuwe. Ingabe ufuna i-gypsy? Sicela, okungenani ibhande lesethusi futhi akekho ozokusho noma yini, vele u-grin. Ungakwazi ukuhlela umshado, kunezibhangqwana eziye zahlala iminyaka eminingi emshadweni wombuso futhi zanquma ukushada. Ikakhulu manje selibuyela emuva emfashini.
Kanjani, ngaphandle kokungena enyangeni? Uyini umehluko ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki? Ungaya ezindaweni ezikude phesheya, noma ungaqasha indlu emadolobheni aphezu komfula. Lokhu kukhethwa yibo bonke abantu. Okufanayo kufanele kucatshangelwe kanye nokuvikeleka kokuqukethwe kwabashadayo. Akuzona zonke izikhwama ezizovumela ukuhamba emhlabeni jikelele. Into eyinhloko kule ndaba yilezo zombili ziyoba kuhle, futhi akunandaba ukuthi iyiphi indlela ezokhethwa.