Indlela yokukhulisa indoda yangempela

Yiqiniso, zonke amaphupho amantombazane amhlangana naye "indoda yangempela". Yiqiniso, yilowo nalowo ubeka okuthile ngamagama ayo, ngoba ngamunye wethu unomqondo wakhe "wesikhathi samanje." Kodwa lamadoda afanelekayo awawa awe esibhakabhakeni, azenziwe ngumuntu onjalo. Futhi lo yibazali bakhe. Ngakho ungavusa kanjani "indoda yangempela" kusuka kumfana? Ake siyiqonde. Uma uqala ukuthatha imvuthu yakho encane, isifiso sakho sokuqala ukuyivikela, ukuyivikela ezinkingeni nezinkinga, ungavumeli ukuhamba kwakho okwesibili. Phela, izwe elizungezile likhulu kakhulu futhi liyingozi, futhi ingane yakho incane kakhulu, ingacabangi futhi ayivikeleki. Ngempela, ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwengane, ikakhulukazi ezinyangeni zokuqala, ingane yakho incike ngokuphelele kuwe, akakwazi ukwenza lutho ngedwa. Kodwa isikhathi siyaqhubeka, futhi naye kukhona izinguquko nengane yakho: ikhula, ithola amakhono amasha namakhono. Usuvele ufunde ukuthi ungagcina kanjani ikhanda ngokwayo, kodwa okokuqala uhlezi phansi futhi aqhube, izinyo lokuqala livele selivele, umntwana uthatha isinyathelo sakhe sokuqala futhi uqonde ukuthi ingane yakho ayizimele njengeminyaka embalwa edlule. Uqala ukubonakalisa uhlamvu lwakhe, unemiqondo yakhe kanye nezifiso zakhe, ezingahle zihluke ezakho.

Akukho ukulawula okuphelele
Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi "amadodana ka-mama" avela kulabo bafana abathandwa kakhulu ebuntwaneni. Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Uthando alukwazi ukuchithwa ngumuntu, kuphela ngokuphambene. Kodwa nokho akudingekile ukuzungeza ingane nge-hyperopeak bese uyibeke phezu kwayo njengenkukhu ezinkukhu, ulawula isinyathelo ngasinye. Ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukushiya ingane isikhathi esithile yedwa, ngoba ngisho le kid idinga isikhala sakhe kanye nesikhathi sokufunda okuzimele nolwazi lwezwe elizungezile.

Baba nendodana
Izazi zengqondo zenze ucwaningo ezinkulisa zaseRussia futhi zathola ukuthi umbuzo onzima kakhulu futhi ongajabulisi izingane zasenkulisa yilezi: "Uyakuthanda kakhulu umama noma ubaba wakho?" Owesifazane uvame ukujwayela ukuthi indodana yakhe encane ihlale nayo, ngoba uhlala yedwa nomntwana amahora angama-23 angaphezu kuka-24 kungenzeka. Futhi uPata udlala indima yesibili futhi kunjengokungathi ku-pick-up: ukudlala nomntwana ngenkathi umatasa ukupheka, ukuguqula i-diaper yakhe, hamba ukuhamba nomgibeli, ngakho ungasindisa isikhathi sakho esincane. Futhi akumangalisi ukuthi lapho ingane ikhula kancane, uqala ukuzizwa unomqondo ongazwakalayo womhawu ngendodana kayise, lapho umntwana eqala ukudlala nobaba noma lapho ekhohlisa futhi edlala "shchekokalka" futhi ingane ihamba ngokuzidela ihleka futhi ibambe uyise. Uma ufuna indodana ukuba ingabi "indodana yendodana", kodwa yakhula ibe yindoda yangempela, khona-ke akufanele uphazamise nabo. Kumele babe nesikhathi lapho bengaba yodwa ndawonye, ​​ngaphandle kwakho: hamba kwenye indawo ukuhamba, ukuya emfuleni noma ukudoba, uye ehlathini ngamakhowe noma epaki ukondla amadada, uhlanganyele kwezinye izindaba eziphathelene namadoda. Ukuze indodana ikwazi ukuhlanganyela ngokuphepha noyise ezinye zezimfihlo zakhe ezincane, hhayi ukuzinikela kuwe. Ukuze ubaba akwazi ukutshela izindaba ezinganeni ezicatshangelwayo ekuphileni kwakhe, lapho indodana ingafunda khona futhi iqonde ukuthi yini okuhle nokubi. Ngitshele ukuthi yiziphi izimo ezifanele ukulwa, futhi lapho udinga ukuthula futhi udlule noma indlela yokwenza intombazane yakho oyintandokazi ifune ukuba umngane naye, ubaba kufanele akhulume kahle. Ngakho-ke, ubuhlobo bokuthembela bubekwa phakathi kukababa nendodana.

Ubuhlobo emndenini
Izingane ezincane zithatha yonke imininingwane njengeponji. Abakaze babumbe isimo sabo sengqondo ezweni elibazungezile ngakho-ke balingisa ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala, ikakhulukazi abazali babo. Akudingekile ukuphinde uhlele nomfazi wesigcawu bese uthola ubuhlobo - empeleni ingane ibona yonke into, futhi ukubonakala okunjalo okungalungile kuthinta kakhulu isimo sakhe nesimo sakhe sengqondo. Uma ingane ibona ukuthi abazali bayakhathalelana kanjani, baphathwa ngokuqonda nangothando, khona-ke lokhu kuyindlela yokuziphatha ingane ezoqhubeka nokuyithatha.

Amadoda ayalili
Bakhala, nokho, ikakhulukazi uma kungumfana omncane. Kuyindlela nje yokuveza isimo sakho nemizwelo. Futhi uma kusukela ebuntwaneni ukushayela ekhanda kuya encekwini, ukuthi amantombazane kuphela angakhalela, abeka nzima futhi adelele izinyembezi emlingeni wendoda yesikhathi esizayo. Futhi-ke thina besifazane, thina futhi sizibuza ukuthi kungani le nsizwa yethu iwela emkhunjini noma embi kakhulu, iqala ukuthukuthela nokucasuka lapho sikhala. Konke kuvela ebuntwaneni nasezindingeni ezingalungile.

Dumisani ingane
Ngeshwa, sinesinye isifanekiso - ukuthi umfana udinga ukufundiswa empeleni ngobudlova, futhi kancane kancane udunyiswa futhi udangele, ngcono. Bese sikhala ukuthi amadoda ethu aphethwe ngokomzwelo. Ungesabi ukukhuthaza ingane ngezenzo ezihlukahlukene. Futhi uma uphule ngephutha ingane - ishaye noma imemeza, ngoba konke kwenzeka - khona-ke kufanele ubuze ingane ukuba ithethelele futhi imchazele ukuthi kungani uziphatha ngendlela efanayo (ukhathele, ungacabangi). Phela, ikhono lokuzisola nokuzwelana ngeke lenze umfana wakho abe nesibindi, kodwa uzosizuzisa kuphela.

Isigqoko - hhayi njalo indlela ephumelelayo
Abasekeli nabaphikisi bokuthi "banike ibhande" kumfana okhulayo, kubonakala sengathi ngeke bathole ulimi olufanayo. Noma kunjalo, ungagijimi ekwicala lokuqala ugaxe ingane. Uma umfana eqala ukuziphatha kabi, zama ukucacisa imingcele ecacile yalokho okuvunyelwe, emva kokudlulisela okungaphezu kwalokho, izinyathelo zokujezisa zingasetshenziswa. Kodwa konke lokhu kudinga ukuchazwa kumntwana, ukuthi uma enza okufanayo futhi esikhathini esizayo, uzojeziswa. Ingane kumele ilandiswe, kungani ijeziswa futhi kungani. Kodwa kungcono ukuzama ukwenza ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amandla angokwenyama. Phela, ukuhlukumeza kungabangela ukuhlukumeza kuphela. Futhi yile ndlela, ngokuyiningi, abahlukumezi bazalwa.

Uma ukhulisa indodana, ube nethuba eliyingqayizivele - ukunikeza umhlaba umuntu ofanelekayo. Ngolunye usuku intombazana ithi kuwe: "Ngiyabonga, indodana yakho yindoda yangempela!".