Ngakho-ke umehluko oneminyaka yobudala phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kuyinto evamile? Lo mbuzo unesithakazelo sabangqondo bezokwelapha kanye nodokotela emazweni ahlukene. Ngokwesibonelo, emindenini yaseFinland kukholelwa ukuthi ekuzalweni kwenzalo enempilo umehluko eminyakeni phakathi kwabashadile kumele kube okungenani iminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu.
Nokho, empeleni, konke kubukeka okuhlukile. Ayikho imindeni eminingi "efanele" eFinland. Ngokwesilinganiso, umyeni waseFinland usekhulile kunomkakhe iminyaka emithathu kuphela. Ososayensi baseFinland bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kungenye yezizathu zokuthi kungani kungabalwa abantwana abanempilo kangaka.
E-Sweden, izitatimende ze-Finns azithembeki. Ingabe indoda enomuntu omdala ocansini idinga ukulinda enye iminyaka engu-15, lapho intombazane yakhe encane ivuthwa? Abantu baseSweden, ngemva kokutadisha inani elikhulu lemibhangqwana eshadile, banquma ukuthi umehluko eminyakeni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kufanele kube kancane Iminyaka engu-6 . Futhi, okumangalisa ukuthi, umgomo oyinhloko ekukhetheni umlingani wokuphila wawungewona uthando, kodwa inhlalakahle yempahla yabashadile. Okusho ukuthi, umlingani ofanelekayo womshado ungumuntu onenzuzo enhle, umsebenzi ohlala njalo futhi othakazelisayo. Futhi uthando ... kuyinto yesibili.
Ukubukeka okufanayo kokuhlukana kweminyaka kuyatholakala nase-English. Nokho, babe nesithakazelo komunye umbuzo. Ingabe izinga lamadoda engqondo lithinta impilo yezingane zabo?
Lezi zifundo zaholela ososayensi baseNgilandi emphumela othakazelisayo - ohlakaniphile lo muntu, amathuba okuba izingane zakhe zizalwe enempilo. Bachaza lokhu ngokuthi amadoda ahlakaniphile kakhulu aphumelele, abe nomsebenzi omuhle, futhi ngaleyo ndlela abangela isithakazelo esikhulu kubesifazane bobulili obuhlukile. Eqinisweni, eNgilandi, cishe engxenyeni yemindeni, umyeni akayena omdala kunomkakhe iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-5, ingxenye engezansi yemindeni ihlukaniswe ngokulinganayo nalawo oshade naye omncane kunomkakhe, nalabo lapho owesifazane engaphansi komyeni wakhe iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-6.
Njengoba njalo, abaseMelika bazihlukanisa. Banquma ukuthi umehluko weminyaka phakathi komuntu nowesifazane cishe ayithinti impilo yezingane zabo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu yilona iminyaka lapho owesifazane elahlekelwa khona ubuntombi bakhe. Izinsana ezinempilo kunazo zonke zazalwa ngalabo abalahlekelwa ubuntombi babo eneminyaka eyi-17 kuya kweyishumi nesishiyagalolunye. Futhi futhi banamathuba okwandisa ukudala umndeni ogcwele nezingane (kanti baseMelika banemindeni encane nangaphansi njalo ngonyaka). Ezinganeni zabesifazane abaqala ukuphila ngocansi ngaphambili, noma, ngokuphambene, emva kwalesi sikhathi, izifo eziningi zivame kakhulu.
Odokotela baseRussia, ngemva kokulandela iningi lemishado, bathola ukuthi emunye wemishado emithathu, umyeni usekhulile kunomkakhe iminyaka emibili kuya kwemihlanu. Cishe imindeni efanayo lapho umfazi esekhulile iminyaka eminingana futhi lapho umlingani eneminyaka engama-6 kuya kwengu-10 ubudala. Imishado emincane emkhatsini weontanga. Ngokwezibalo, imishado emkhatsini wonyaka oneminyaka engama-7 ubudala ivame ukuphetha esemncane. Futhi kuphela emkhayeni owodwa weminyaka engamashumi amabili umehluko phakathi ubudala phakathi kwabashadile iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-10.
Kukhona elinye iphethini elithakazelisayo. Owesifazane omdala kakhulu kunomyeni wakhe uyamthola ngaphezulu. Ukungalingani kweminyaka emkhatsini womlingani, okungenani amathuba okuba owesifazane athathe umyeni wakhe ngokwemali engenayo.
Kodwa ingabe kufanelekile ukuhlanganisa ukubaluleka okubaluleke kakhulu umahluko phakathi kweminyaka? Ngenhlanhla, sinemishado eminingi yothando kunokuba kube lula. Futhi uma kukhona uthando, khona-ke ubudala abubalulekanga neze. Ngicabanga ukuthi umfazi kufanele abe mdala kunomyeni wakhe. Umndeni onjalo uyoba namandla.