Uphawu luyinto edingekayo. Ukuze bahlolisise abafundi, kuyindlela yokuzihlola yokuzihlola nokuphendula nguthisha. Othisha - ikhono lokuhlela umqondo womfundi ngamunye, ukuqapha izintuthuko zokuthuthukiswa nokufunda. Lokho akufanelekile ekulinganisweni kokuhlola ukuthola ukuthi ngubani oyisiphukuphuku, ngubani ohlakaniphile, omuhle, nokuthi ngubani omubi, ukuthwala impilo nokulinganisa ubudlelwane bomuntu.
Ungasabela kanjani kumamaki?
Zama kusukela ekuqaleni ukungafihli ukuhlolwa komfundi wakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngisho noma amaphuzu ashiya okufisa kakhulu, ungadlisi isimo: "Lokhu kungukuhlola kokuqala, ukuthi udangele kangakanani nathi." Futhi sifuna ukukumangaza ... Yini ezokwenzeka ngokulandelayo? " Ngemva kokuphendula okunjalo, ingane ayifuni neze ukwenza noma yini, ngisho namabanga, ngisho ngaphandle kwabo. Thatha ngokwakho bese usho okuthile ukuhlehlisa nokukhuthaza. Imithetho yokuzivocavoca, ingqondo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwenani elikhulu labantu likholisa: akukho ukuxhumana phakathi kwamamaki okuqala (futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlolwa ngokujwayelekile) kanye nemfundo elandelayo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuphumelela kwempilo yomuntu. Kodwa ubuhlobo phakathi kokuziphatha kwabazali, ubuhlobo babo nezikolo ezihlolwe noma ngandlela-thile ngenye indlela impumelelo yengane ibonakala. Kuncike ekutheni ingane izobona kanjani konke okukwenzeka kuqala esikoleni (kufaka phakathi ukuhlolwa) nokuthi kuyobe kuthinta kanjani impilo yakhe yakudala. Kunoma yikuphi, ingane esemdala, ukulawula okuncane okudingayo. Isiqalo - uthando lokuqala noma ukubukeka kwesimo sokuzilibazisa osemusha, osesimweni somdlandla angashiya kalula izifundo zakhe. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuhlola ukuhlolwa ngezikhathi ezithile kunokuba usole ingane yakho ukuthi ingenacala. Kodwa imfundo eyunivesithi - isikhathi lapho ukulawula kwakho kanye nesithakazelo ekulinganisweni kufanele kuncishiswe. Abantu abadala bathatha ukuzimela kukho konke. Isibonelo, ukwenza amaphutha bese uzilungisa.
Kithi, bazali, phawula isignali yengane futhi uqondise isenzo. Yiyiphi? Kuxhomeke ekuhloleni.
Uma ingane iletha amamaki amabi
Siyahlaziya
Ukuhlola kuyinto engokomzwelo. Kodwa konke okufanayo, fundisa ingane kakade esikoleni esincane ukuba imphathe nje njengendlela yokukhomba futhi iqhube ukuhlaziywa:
- Kungani kuhlolwa okunjalo?
- Iyini iphutha lakho? Ingabe ingozi noma kukhona igebe kolwazi?
- Ungakwazi yini ukulungisa uphawu? Yini okudingeka uyenze lokhu?
Nikeza isibonelo sakho
Tshela ingane ukuthi wena, njengomfundi, ukhohliwe kanjani ukuba nedayari ekhaya (kuhle, kwaba!) Noma ukuthi isabelo sasihlanganiswe kanjani nenjabulo. Kungenzeka ukushilo njengesibonelo sabantu abadumile ababevame ukuba nakho konke phakathi nezifundo zabo. Ukwaziswa okunjalo ukuvimbela ngokomzimba ukuvimbela ngokomzwelo. Inika ithemba futhi ivuselela ithemba: bonke abantu bangaba namaphutha - akusizi ukwesaba, bangalungiswa.
Kuhle
Kuthiwani uma amaphuzu amabi engafanele? Kunezimo lapho icala ludinga incazelo ngothisha. Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, kufanele nje wamukele lokhu njengokweqiniso, ukuhlolwa. "Yebo, kwenzeka, akudingeki ukukhathazeke ngokuthi," - yilokho okuzosho khona. Ingane inesikhathi eside sokutadisha, bese isebenza emaqenjini ahlukahlukene. Amathuba ukuthi uzohlale ebona ubulungisa kuphela. Kungani kuphazamisa izinzwa zomzimba wonke?
Ungagxili ekuphumeleleni kwezemfundo
Kufanele ukhulume nengane mayelana nesikole. Kodwa hhayi kuphela ngokuhlolwa. "Uphendule kanjani isifundo? Ingabe unqume konke ngokulungile?" - imibuzo enjalo kufanele ibe okungenani okungaphezu kwalokho, ngokwesibonelo, mayelana nobuhlobo nabalingani bokufunda nabo, imidlalo yokuguqula kanye nezinkinobho ku-buffet. Khona-ke ingane izokwenza isimo sengqondo esihle ngokuphathelene nesikole. Futhi ukuhlolwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kuzoba ngcono.
Uma ingane ingumfundi omuhle
Ungalokothi uqaphele izilinganiso
Baya esikoleni ngolwazi lwabo. Izilinganiso, nakuba zibukeka, azikwazi ukubaluleka ngokwabo. Letha lo mlayezo wengane. Uma kungenjalo, angase ahlakulele i-neurosis yokuhlola - uma kungeyona nje imizwelo, kodwa futhi inhlalakahle yomfundi ohloniphekile ichithelwa yizinto ezingahleliwe: ingane iqala ukucela izikole eziphakeme futhi iziphatha ngendlela engafanele (ukukhala, ukugijima, ukuvala) uma ihlaselwa. Ngokwezinga elikhulu, amantombazane athambekele kulokhu kuphazamiseka, kodwa eziningi zokuphelela ngokomzwelo zitholakala kubafana.
Thola, kungani usho
Ukudumisa njalo njalo kuphelelwa yisikhathi kube yisikhuthazo sokukhula. Isazi sezokwelapha esaziwa kakhulu u-Alfred Adler sabiza ukuthi ukuqala kwesifiso sokufunda ukuba yi-inferiority, kodwa ngokuqinisekile akuyona ngokweqile. Ukulungisa amazwi kuphela kuphela okuvunyelwe ("Awubhali phansi ngokucophelela, uzama ukuzama, uzokuthola!") Noma ukufaniswa okungalungile nezinye izingane ("Misha unetalente lokufunda izinkondlo, mhlawumbe uyakuthanda ukufunda okuningi"). Into eyinhloko akufanele ihambe ngokweqile lapho ixoxa nezingane ngokusebenza kwabo kwezemfundo.