Indlela yokukhuluma nendoda ngezocansi

Abacansi be-sexologists bayaqiniseka ukuthi isizathu esiyinhloko sokunganeliseki ngokocansi ukungabi nokuzethemba phakathi kozakwethu. Emva kwakho konke, awukwazi konke ukuletha injabulo njengawe bobabili. Kufanele ukhulume nomuntu ngezocansi bese umtshela lokho okuthandayo noma ongakuthandi. Ngemva kokukhuluma, ungakwazi kuphela ukuthuthukisa impilo yakho yesondo, ube nesibindi futhi uhlele wonke amaphuzu.

Ngempela, akukho lutho oluyinkimbinkimbi yakho. Kodwa ngesinye isizathu, abesifazane abaningi bazama ukuthola zonke izimpendulo ezincwadini futhi bavakashela usizo lomngane. Kodwa kuphela ukukhuluma ngocansi nendoda.

Abesifazane abaningi bamane besaba ukutshela ngezifiso zabo. Kodwa uma konke kusemandleni akho, zama ukuxhumana nezifiso zakho kubathandekayo bakho ngaphandle kwamazwi. Vele uthathe futhi umbonise ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani noma uphakamise ukudlala umdlalo ongavamile.

Ungasungula okuningi ukuze uyithakazelise. Futhi ungambhalela incwadi, echaza ukuthi yiliphi iphupho oliphuphayo nayo yonke into echaza ngokucacile ukuthi kwenzekani lapho. Ngakho-ke, ungamtshela, yini oyifunayo kakhulu futhi umemele enze iphupho lakho ligcwaliseke. Futhi qiniseka ukuchaza encwadini yakho ukuthi yini indoda efiselekayo onakho, ukuthi uzizwa kanjani kahle ngaye ngisho nasephusheni. Indoda iyojabula ngokudumisa, futhi uyojabula ngokubona amaphupho akho.

Zama ukuchaza indoda yakho nge-orgasm yakho enhle uma ulala naye. Mtshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaleso sikhathi nokuthi yimiphi imicabango owawunayo ekhanda lakho. Ngikholelwa, indoda yakho izojabula kakhulu ukuzwa konke lokhu nokuthi nguye ongakunikeza injabulo enjalo. Futhi esikhathini esizayo uzozama futhi ukukujabulisa futhi afeze amaphupho akho.

Ungesabi ukukhuluma, uphonsa zonke izilinganiso zakho, uphuphe futhi usungulwe, funda ukujabulela ukukhuluma nendoda yakho.

Kunezikhathi lapho umuntu eqala ukubeka umbono wakhe, kodwa awufuni ukukwenza nhlobo. Kumele uzame ukuqonda kumuntu ukuthi ngeke ujabule kulokhu futhi awukwazi ukukhululeka. Futhi ungikholelwe, uzokuqonda, futhi ungadlulisela izifiso zakho kumuntu othandekayo wakho. Yebo, uma ungumuntu ongeke ufune ukuqonda, thola umuntu ozothola idyll ephelele.

Manje, ngenxa yendaba yethu, uyakwazi ukukhuluma nendoda ngezocansi.