Kucatshangwa ukuthi ukulingiswa kwe-orgasm "ukugxila" ikakhulukazi besifazane, nokho, njengoba kunjalo, amadoda kule ndaba ayengaphansi kakhulu kubo. Konke lokhu akusilo insolo, kunezibalo ezisekelwe ocwaningweni lwesayensi, ngakho-ke uthi futhi 40, uma kungenjalo ngamadoda angu-50%, njalo balingisa i-orgasm. Kuphakama imibuzo eningi, njengokuthi, "Kungani kudingwa?", "Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi ngabe wenza i-orgasm noma cha?", "Futhi kuthiwani uma elandelwa?"
Kodwa kunesimo sokulingisa i-orgasm kwabesifazane inzuzo ethile, kulula ukuchitha umlingani wabo, kodwa indoda inzima kakhulu. Phela, ubufakazi obuningi besilisa noma i-orgasm yi-sperm. Izinto zokuzikhethela kufanele ziphume ngandlela-thile, zichaza noma zifihle ukungabi khona kwayo.
Nakuba, ngekhono elithile lomuntu, lokhu ngeke kube yinkinga, ngoba ikhondomu esetshenzisiwe ingafakwa ngokushesha e-napkin, noma iphonswe endleleni yokugeza noma indlu yangasese. Yonke enye indaba yezobuchwepheshe, ukwazi ukuthi kufanele ususe kanjani "ubufakazi" obuyinhloko, ukukhiqiza ukuthukuthela okuthukuthele nezinye izibonakaliso ze-orgasm akulona nzima kakhulu.
Iningi labesifazane lichaza ukuthi bayathanda ukulingisa iqiniso lokuthi bafuna ukusekela umlingani wabo ngale ndlela, bafuna ukumenza azizwe engakwazi ukumnika injabulo, noma ezama ukufihla izinkinga eziningi ngokwabo. Okumangalisa ukuthi, kodwa amadoda, echaza izizathu zezinye izikhathi ezilingisa i-orgasm, anika izimpendulo ezifanayo. Futhi uma evikela umlingani wakhe emicabangweni engathandeki, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi indoda iyindoda enhle, futhi uma ifihla ukuzethemba, ikhuluma ngokuthobeka kwayo, mhlawumbe ukunganaki.
Yisiphi isizathu?
Kunezimo lapho ukulungiswa kuvele khona kumuntu, ngenxa yendaba yokuthandana, kodwa akazange abone i-orgasm. Kungani?
Isizathu esivame kakhulu salesi simo siwukucindezeleka. Futhi asisho leso sigaba sokucindezeleka, lapho izinzwa zisezinkingeni ezinjalo, ukuthi ngenxa yalokho ukungabi namandla kuza, ngenxa yezizathu zengqondo. Lena inkinga yomhlaba wonke. Kodwa kukhona "isikhathi esisodwa" esiphuthelwa embhedeni, angakwazi ukuhambisana nezinkinga emsebenzini, nemizwa mayelana nokuphikisana nomngane oseduze, njll.
Esimweni esinjalo, le ndoda isesimweni esinjalo kangangokuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kudlula konke ukuzwa. Yingakho umzimba uphendulela ocansini ngendlela yokwakhiwa, kodwa ukuqonda ngokomzwelo kukhishwe ngenxa yokucasuka kwezinto zangaphandle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izimo ezicindezelayo ngale ndlela zithinta umzimba, ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuthanda uthando, inani elanele lokugcoba linikezwe, lapho inqubo yokungena kanye nezinto ezilandela i-imine ziletha ukuzwa okujabulisayo. Le mpendulo ekucindezelekeni ihlukile kumzimba wesilisa nowesifazane.
Esinye isizathu esingaba ngenxa yokuntuleka kwengxenye yomzwelo ye-orgasm kumuntu yisikhathi esincane se-foreplay. Amadoda amaningi emva kweminyaka engama-30, kuthatha isikhathi esiningi ukufinyelela ezingeni elifunayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda afana nokuzivuselela ngesikhathi sokucabanga okuhlukile kobulili, futhi akusikho ukuthi akayithandi umlingani noma akayithandi isikhundla lapho manje efuna ukuya ocansini.
Amazwi omama ngesikhathi sokulala ngokocansi inqubo engcono kakhulu, ivumela indoda ukuba ivumelane nesigqila somlingani wakhe. Phela, abanye besifazane bajabule masinyane futhi balungele ukufinyelela ukuphakama kwenjabulo ngesikhathi esifanayo njengoSpartner, kanti abanye badinga isikhathi esengeziwe salokhu kunomlingani wakhe. I-Ittut yokusiza indoda ifika iphutha layo, elivame ukwandisa inqubo yakhe yenjabulo, noma ngokufanayo imvumela ukuba aphuze. Ngakho-ke, lapha esimweni esicindezelayo, indoda ayihlale ikwazi ukubiza usizo lomcabango wakhe, futhi lokhu kuyisizathu sokulahlekelwa okuthile.
Ungaba kanjani?
Ungalondolozi isikhathi se-prelude, i-laskipolozhitelno yangaphambili ende yathinta kokubili abalingani. Awudingi ukulala ocansini uma uhlaselwa ngokomzimba nangokomzimba kulabo abakuzungezile nezimo kulo lonke lamuhla.
Akudingekile ukufana. Uma wena nomlingani wakho nilungisile i-orgasmodic fold, bese-ke okwesibili njalo njalo, lokhu sekuvele kuyinkinga, okungaxazululwa kuphela ngokuxoxa ngayo. Mhlawumbe konke kuyoba lula kunokuba kubonakale, isibonelo, kuyokwanela ukushintsha ifomu.
Ungadlala ngokuthula ngesikhathi socansi, uma ufuna ukuzama into entsha, vele uzwise isifiso sakho.