Izingane zinikezwa enkulisa, ingane iya esikoleni, le nsizwa ingena eyunivesithi, umuntu uqala ukusebenza, futhi emva kweminyaka uyaphuma. Uthuthela kwelinye idolobha, noma emva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye, umyeni wakho ukushiya ... Zonke lezi "zinguquko" noma izinkinga zidinga umuntu ukuba enze izinqumo, athuthukise izinhlobo ezintsha zokuziphatha. Kufanele sishintshe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyayithanda noma cha.
Ingabe kufanele ujwayele izimo ezintsha zokuphila? Ngakho, lokhu kuyinkinga yokuzivumelanisa nezimo. Ukuze ulinqobe ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukuthi ungasheshi, ukuqoqa "ulwazi oluningi lokucatshangelwa." Kungcono ukusekela umzimba wakho ngamavithamini, amahora engeziwe okulala, ukudla okuthandayo. Uzobona: kancane kancane inkinga izophela ngokwayo. Lokhu kusebenza ngokufanayo kumntwana omncane owaqala ukuya enkulisa, nakumsebenzi oqale wathatha isihlalo sikhulu. Bangasiza futhi basekele izihlobo zabo uma belalela ngokucophelela nangomusa kumuntu ofunda isikhala esisha sokuphila.
Imindeni eminingi ihamba nge-okuthiwa "isikhathi sesidleke esilahlekile". Izingane zakhula futhi zahamba ekhaya. Abazali abajwayele izinkinga eziphilayo zezingane, ngokuzumayo bathola isikhathi esiningi samahhala. Kudingeka bathole incazelo entsha yokuphila namaphoyinti amasha wokuxhumana nomunye nomunye. Ngezinye izikhathi ubunzima bezinkathi ezinjalo kungabangela ukuhlukaniswa kwabashadile, ababenezinkathazo kuphela izingane.
Izinkinga ezinjengoba "inkathi yesikhukhula esinqatshiwe" nazo zibizwa ngokuthi ikhona existential noma izinkinga eziyinkinga. Ngenxa yezimo, umuntu ulahlekelwa yilokho okwakuyisisekelo sokuphila kwakhe. Kungaba ukubhujiswa kobudlelwane obudlule, ukuhlukaniswa noma ukufa komuntu othandekayo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi. Ungaphila kanjani? Thola incazelo entsha. Uma umuntu engakwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga, uzothola umuzwa wokuphumula okhona, ukungena ngaphakathi. Ukuphazanyiswa okuqhubekayo kule nkinga kuyaphazamisa ukuzivikela, kuqala ukushushisa lesi sifo - odokotela bababiza ngokuthi i-psychosomatic, okungukuthi, kubangelwa izimbangela zengqondo, futhi banikeze umqondo wokuthula kumguli.
Abantu abaningi abahlala emhlalaphansi, ikakhulukazi uma bewuthanda umsebenzi wabo. Ngokwezibalo, abantu abangaba ngu-70% abadala ngendlela eyodwa noma enye bahlushwa ukucindezeleka. Ukuphuma ekuhluphekeni okukhona kuzosiza othintana nabantu kanye nokuphila okusebenzayo. Ungavumeli ukuhamba ngezandla zakho! Kufanele uzizame emisebenzini emisha. Ukuhamba, ukuhlangana nabalingani nabo ekilasini nabalingani nabo, vakashela izihlobo ezihlala kwamanye amadolobha nakwamanye amazwe. Ungashintsha lo msebenzi, ubuyela esikoleni, ufunde ukuzilibazisa okusha. Ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane othile osekhulile wasiza indodakazi yakhe ukuba ikhulise indodakazi yakhe. Intombazane yakhula. Ngesinye isikhathi lo wesifazane wayenomuzwa wokuthi umndeni wakhe awudingi usizo, ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakhe kwamcasula indodakazi yakhe nomzukulu wakhe. Wabe esewuthola umsebenzi njengomfana futhi waqala ukufundisa intombazane eneminyaka engu-5 ubudala. UNanny waba nobungane kakhulu nesigceme sakhe esincane kangangokuthi manje akwazi ukuhlukaniswa. Ukuphila kunencazelo entsha!
Ingabe omunye wabathandekayo bakho unenkinga yokucindezeleka? Yazi, manje lo muntu uhlangabezana nenkinga ebalulekile, ikakhulukazi edinga ukunakekelwa kwabathandekayo. Ungamshiyi wedwa ngemicabango enzima! Unganqikazi ukumkhathaza ngokuvakashelwa kwakho, cela usizo, ngisho noma ungayidingi ngokukhethekile. Uzwa ukuthi udinga othile, unikeza amandla.
... Futhi ngaphakathi
Manje, izinkinga ezibangelwa izimbangela zangaphakathi ziyizinkinga ezihlobene nobudala. Wonke umuntu uyazi izimpawu zenkinga yeminyaka engama-3: ukungabi nandaba, ukuzinkani, ubunzima. Ingane iyaqaphela ukuthi "I" yakhe, izama ukuzimela, ephikisana nendlela endala yokuphila, lapho zonke izinqumo zenziwa ngabantu abadala. Inkinga esilandelayo yeminyaka engu-7 ibangelwa ukuthi ingane igxilile nomndeni wayo, ufuna umphakathi - egcekeni, esikoleni, esigabeni sezemidlalo. Inkinga yobusha izinikele ezincwadini eziningi zengqondo, kodwa nokho izincomo ezinhle kakhulu zithi: "Yiba nesineke, akusiyo kuze kube phakade."
Uma izinkinga zezingane zikhona, njengomthetho, kunalokho zibophezele ngokuqinile eminyakeni ethile, ngakho-ke kubantu abadala imingcele yobudala bezinkathazo zizimisele.
Isibonelo, ufunde ngokucophelela enyuvesi, bese uqhubeka nemfundo esikoleni esiphakeme, ushadile, wabelane ngesikhathi sakho phakathi komndeni nomsebenzi, wenza umsebenzi ophumelelayo futhi wazama ukuba ngumgcini wendawo. Yebo, uthuthuka njengengcweti, kodwa kodwa hhayi yonke imigomo echazwe ebusheni bakho ifinyelelwa nguwe, futhi iningi lezinto zokuphila selidlulile kakade. Kufika inkinga - ukubuyekezwa kwesimo sengqondo esidala, imigomo, imigomo.
Esinye isibonelo: owesifazane uphendukela kwesazi sengqondo futhi izinyembezi zithi umyeni wakhe akaqapheli - ngokuzumayo washintsha ngokuphelele. Akalokothi akhulume naye. Uphikisana nabangane abadala, uphikisana emsebenzini. Ufika ekhaya uyabuhlungu, uvala ekamelweni lakhe. Ukuya endlini yezindela zaseBuddhist. "Awazi lutho ngeBuddha!" - abafazi umkakhe. "Ayikho, ngizoyihlunga," umyeni wakhe ubhikisha.
Yini ongeluleka lona wesifazane? Ngokufana nabazali bomntwana ovukelayo, - yiba nesineke. Inkinga yinto yesikhashana. Ungaphikisani nomyeni wakhe, khathazeke ngaye. Sonke emva kwethu singacasuli isiguli ngokushisa futhi asimthandi ukuba aphume embhedeni! umsebenzi osondelene nalesi sikhathi kufanele ube eduze "nogulayo", uxoxe naye ngalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, ugcine ezenzweni zokukhwabanisa futhi okwamanje: uzilungiselele ukuthi umuntu ozohlala naye uzoba kwenye into.
Njengesibungu, iphendule i-butterfly, igxuma, ifihla ku-chrysalis, ngakho-ke umuntu udinga ukuphuma ngesikhathi sokuhlupheka ukuze aziqonde yena, ukubona izinguquko zomhlaba ezenzeke emphefumulweni wakhe.
Indlela yokusinda kule nkinga?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi inkinga iyadingeka, kodwa hhayi isimo esibuhlungu. Kumele ngivume ukuthi yisikhathi sokushintsha nokushintsha okuthile empilweni yami. Lesi yisikhathi sokusebenza kanzima komphefumulo, ngakho-ke yakha indawo efanelekayo! Thatha isibonelo kubazalwane bethu abancane: lapho ulungiselela ukuhamba, imbumbulu ifihla endaweni eyimfihlo, inyoka eguqula isikhumba, iqhubekela emathangeni. Ungalisebenzisi kabi izidakamizwa, hamba wedwa emvelweni. "Ukuqonda yizingane zokuthula," kusho uJevtushenko. Ukuthula kwangaphakathi okuzokusiza ukuba uhambise esimeni esisha. Isu lokuziphatha kuleli cala lihlukile kulokho okumele kukhethwe kulesi simo esibucayi. Nciphisa umthwalo womsebenzi okungenani, akeke balahlekelwe yimali, kodwa bathole ukuthula kwengqondo. Chaza emndenini wakho ukuthi manje udinga ukuthula nokuhlala wedwa kunanini ngaphambili.
Esimweni esinzima, umuntu uye wanda ukungqubuzana: zama ukungatholi ubudlelwane. Qhubeka ugxeka ngamazwi nezenzo zakho, unakekele osebenza nabo kanye nenhlonipho.
Iphutha eliyinhloko labantu ababhekana nenkinga yobudala ngumzamo wokusola abanye ngenxa yokunganaki kwabo kwangaphakathi. Kodwa ukusola abanye ngezinkinga zabo kuyisibonakaliso sokungalingani kwengqondo kanye ne-infantilism. Ungadangali! Zibuze: "Le nkinga ingangifaka kanjani?" Kulimaza ukuhlukana nesikhumba esidala. Kodwa kuyadingeka, ngoba kuthinte ukukhula.