Ugijima uhhafu wosuku nge-rag, ujika, uphenduka, kodwa akaphenduli futhi uyaqhubeka nokufunda elinye iphephandaba, futhi uma ebukela i-TV, uyakhala futhi, ukuze i-TV ingavali. Lokhu kulandelwa ukucasuka, izinyembezi neziphetho ezimbi kakhulu ... Futhi yini umlingo okumtshela ukuba okungenani azenze ukuthi ufuna, kodwa-ke, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, izizathu ezibaluleke kakhulu azikwazi. Ukuphoqelela - kusho ukukwenza ukuze umuntu enze okuthile.
Ngokuvamile, amadoda ahlukile futhi abe nezindlela ezahlukene zokusebenza azungeze indlu. Ngakho-ke, ukunquma umbuzo wokuthi ungamphoqa kanjani umuntu ukuba enze imisebenzi yasendlini kumele kube ngumuntu ngamunye. Kukhona amadoda okwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya avamile futhi "ahambe ngokuzingela". Ngokujwayelekile laba bangamadoda okwesikhatsi eside abesimweni se "bachelors" (ngesimiso: "uma kungenjalo mina, ngubani?"). Abaningi bamadoda bayavuma ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini, uma bebuza ngokuqinile, noma benza okuthile okuhle noma okumnandi. Amanye amadoda avele akhohlwe imisebenzi yawo futhi ahlale "kwasekuseni" abathandekayo bawo. Yebo, wonke amanye amadoda akwenzi nje ngokusemthethweni ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini, noma acabange ukuthi ungumthwalo wemfanelo kuphela wesifazane. Kukhona labo abangenawo isikhathi sokwenza imisebenzi yasendlini, ungabasoli ngalokhu, ngoba lo muntu wayeyena owawunikeza ukudla futhi kufanele awubonise usuku nosuku.
Kunezinto eziningana abantu abazenzayo. Omunye walawa uninazala nakho konke okuxhunywe nakho. Amadoda, mhlawumbe, ezwa umncintiswano ebusweni bomamazala, alungele ukwenza noma yini, hhayi nje ukulahla kanye nokugwema izingxoxo ezingathandeki ekhishini. Yiqiniso, isicelo sokwenza okuthile mayelana nendlu, ukuphela "ngomama ozayo" noma into enjalo, lo muntu uzokwenza ngokushesha, futhi, ngeke akwazi ukwenza umsebenzi angasoze akwenza.
Enye igama, lapho konke kusebenze khona kumuntu ubulili. Abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi uma ufaka izimo ukuthi, uma ungazifezi, ulahle indoda yocansi, bese egijima ngokushesha ukwenza imisebenzi ehlukahlukene. Yebo, kukhona amadoda anjalo, kodwa, khumbulani, abesifazane, ukuthi akubona bonke abanjalo. Ukusebenzisa le ndlela, ungakwazi ukuqondisa umuntu endleleni engafanele, okungukuthi indlela yokukhaphela, okucacile engcono kunokwenza imisebenzi yasendlini wena. Futhi nokho esikhathini sethu lokhu kuyindlela ephumelela kakhulu futhi ethandwa kakhulu yamantombazane, ngakho-ke kuphumelela!
Inkulumo eyaziwayo "indlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu ilele esiswini" iyasebenza kulezi zimo. Njengoba usondle ngokufanele "into", uma uyifinyelela ngezinye izidlo zokudla, ungathembela ngokugcwele ngomusa nokukhuthaza komuntu ogcwele futhi owanelisayo. Esikhathini esilandelayo, ngisho nokunikezwa kokuncintisana kungase kulandele, njengokuthi: "Ukudumisa, ngamapayipi akho amnandi ngilungele ukugeza izitsha ngisho nokukhipha udoti!".
Enye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu ukuzijabulisa. Kungaba lula ukuthi indoda ithwale ingane kunengane. Uma uthenga insimbi yesimanje ngemisebenzi eminingi nezinto ezehlukene, qiniseka ukuthi le ndoda izokubuza ngokungazelelwe imibuzo: "Yini okufanele ngiyiphathe, yithandekayo?". Ungathola izinto ezihluke kakhulu, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukumtshela ukuthi lokhu kuyathakazelisa, ngoba, ngokuvamile, imisebenzi yasekhaya ayiyona into ethakazelisayo kunazo zonke, futhi ingaba mnandi kakhulu, udinga nje ukuyiveza ekukhanyeni okuhle kakhulu. Amadoda adlwengulwe futhi uma othile enza okuthile. Kumele nje uqale ukwenza izinto ngokwakho, kuyilapho ungamnaki umuntu kancane, futhi insizwa yendoda ngeke imshiye engenandaba, futhi qiniseka ukuthi uyadlula yonke into eyimvimbele futhi izokusiza, kepha kancane kancane uqala ukwenza umsebenzi ohlukile.
Indlela eqondile kunazo zonke isekelwe ngekhanda elijwayelekile lekhanda. Uma sonke isikhathi ukuphoqa indoda ukuba yenze imisebenzi yasendlini, emva kwesikhashana uzobe, ngisho noma eqala ukukhathala, kodwa akhumbule ezingeni eliphansi, futhi ngaphandle komkhuba umuntu uzokwenza umsebenzi othile.
Indoda, nakuba "insimbi", kodwa namanje, ayigodli izinyembezi zale ntombazane. Lokhu kuzomthatha ngokumangalisa, futhi uzolalela. Ukuguqula umphefumulo wakhe, uzokuqonda, mhlawumbe okwesikhashana, kepha uzobe eqonda, ukuze angakusizi izinyembezi, kumele enze izinto ezithile.
Amadoda, njengabesifazane, njengoba asho, akusibo ubuvila. Qinisekisa ukuthi le ndoda ilele embhedeni embhedeni, bese imcela ukuba ahambe endaweni ethile, isibonelo, esitolo, emva kwalokho, lo muntu uzokubuza: "Mhlawumbe kungcono ukwenza okuthile ekhaya?" Yebo, uma umdlali wakho okhethiwe futhi esheshayo aphunyuke esitolo, yena, njengoba umthetho, esebenza futhi ekhaya.
Yiqiniso, kukhona "ama-cadres" angenathemba, okungahle akwazi ukwenza lutho. Kodwa, njengoba bethi, "uma behlupheka isikhathi eside - kukhona okuzovela." Yebo, ukubekezela kuwe nokuhlakanipha. Futhi khumbula: uthathwe futhi lowo muntu uyothathwa!
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ube nakho konke okuhle nendoda yakho akudingeki ube ngumama wakhe wesibili. Nakuba amadoda akhetha umlingani ngokufaniswa komama wabo, kodwa abadingi umama wesibili. Amadoda ayithandi uma eyalwe futhi aphikisayo ngezeluleko ezahlukene kanye nokuhlambalaza. Indoda kumele izwe ekhaya futhi ekhaya njengomholi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza lowo muntu ukuthi impumelelo yempumelelo yonke kufanele isebenze futhi isize "abaphathi". Phela, wonke umuntu ufuna ukuba nakho konke okumangalisayo emndenini wakhe, kodwa wonke umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi ngalokhu, wonke umuntu kufanele anikele konke okuhle futhi akufanele kube namalungelo emndenini. Futhi, ukwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo kungasiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezinjalo. Ake sithi, uma une "yokuhlanza" egumbini lokuphumula, kufanele kube nguwe, hhayi omunye umuntu okudinga kakhulu.
Bonke abantu baqonda kangcono uma incazelo ichazwe kwimodi ezolile, ngakho-ke ungabi nomoya emndenini, ngoba usekelwe ekuqondeni kokubili. Zama futhi ube nesineke, futhi ngokuqinisekile uyokwazi ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga emndenini nasekuphileni, kuhlanganise nale.