Ngakho-ke, indoda ifuna ukuthini kumuntu wesifazane, yiziphi amazwi eziyokwenza indlebe yakhe, ijabule futhi ivuselele umuzwa wokubaluleka nokubaluleka? Yini okufanele thina, besifazane, sitshele abafana bethu abathandekayo ukuba babonise ukuthi banakekele, babonise uthando?
Wonke lawa mazwi, okudingeka kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu, ancike kakhulu, kulokho akudingayo ukuze aphile. Kusukela kulowo mzwelo, imigomo, imizwelo kanye nempumelelo, okuyinto ahlaziya futhi ujabulele. Lapha, eqinisweni, yilowo nalowo: kuleso simo ngasinye, indoda ingase ifune ukuzwa into ekhethekile, kodwa futhi kukhona amaphuzu ayisisekelo empilweni yabo, okukuvumela ukuba uthole impendulo ngqo kumbuzo: "Yini indoda efuna kumuntu?".
Mhlawumbe, enye yezinzuzo eziyinhloko zomuntu amandla akhe nokuthembeka. Angikuphikisana - akuwona wonke umuntu onjalo, kepha ngifuna ukukholelwa ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho unalezi zimfanelo ezinhle. Ngakho kungani ungamtsheli ngalokhu? Kungani ungasho ukuthi ungemva kwakhe - njengodonga lwamatshe? Ingabe ukusekela kwakho, ikholelwa yakho esikhathini esizayo esijabulisayo? Ngezinye izikhathi besaba ukusho la mazwi ngokuzwakalayo. Futhi akucaci: kungani? Mhlawumbe omunye wethu ukwesaba "jinxing", futhi omunye ucabanga ukuthi ngamazwi anjalo umfana uzokhululeka futhi ayeke ukwethembeka futhi eqine kangaka? Angazi, angikwazi ukusho. Ngiyazi ngokunemba kuphela into eyodwa: akekho umuntu ongenqabe ukuzwa ukuthi ukhonza njengokwesekwa kwangempela kwesigamu sakhe esithandekayo esithintekayo sesibili. Ngakho-ke masingamthandi kulokhu kujabulisa, ikakhulukazi uma kufanele ngempela isihloko esithi "Umuntu"!
Iyini indoda yonke efuna ukuyizwa intombi yakhe? Yebo, indumiso, ukuhlolwa okuzwakalayo (okudingekayo) kwamakhono namakhono akhe. Awucabangi ukuthi nguyena kuphela odinga ukudunyiswa okufika ngesikhathi, futhi nguyena kuphela okhuthazwayo ukuthuthukisa nokuthuthukisa? Amadoda afana nathi, ikakhulukazi. Kungani bengathandi ukuzwa kuwe: "Wow, Vovochka, ungumuntu onjani omuhle onami! Ngakho masinyane ngilungisa iphampu ekhishini - manje ayiphumeli nhlobo! ", Noma" Yurochka, ungumuntu ongcono kakhulu futhi ohlakaniphile kimi: uhlonishwa ubuholi bakho, futhi konke lokhu akusizi ngalutho, ngihlale ngisazi ukuthi umsebenzi odidayo uzokulinda! " . Izinkulumo ezinjalo ezinhle zingadingeka nokuba zikhishwe ngokulingana okumnandi okuzogcina ekuqinisekiseni indoda yakho ukuthi konke akwenzayo kulungile. Futhi ukuthi uyindoda yangempela owazi ukuthi kufanele akwazi ukukwenza.
Yebo, futhi udumo kufanele, njengoba bekusho, lukhawulelwe. Okungenani nje ngoba ukuziqhenya nenkanyezi ekhanyayo ebunzini "akukakhanselwa okwamanje. Zishesha kakhulu zihlanganisa ezimweni lapho abesifazane bevele bekhohlise amadoda abo ngama-odes ahloniphekile. Futhi okubi kakhulu ukuthi abantu abanjalo "banamathele" baqala ukuzizwa bengakhululekile kakhulu kunoma yikuphi ukugxekwa. Futhi uma, uNkulunkulu engavumeli, ngeke uthanda lokho akwenzayo: qaphela isivunguvungu! Indoda engacaciswanga futhi ehlonishwayo ayinhle kakhulu kunomuntu osesimweni esifanayo.
Ngakho-ke, ake sinqume kanjalo. Lapha wenza into ephelele emhlabeni futhi engalindelekile, kodwa ewusizo kakhulu - yamdumisa, ungafaki amagama amnandi. Lapha wenza umsebenzi okhushukile kakhulu, uthi ubuchopho bangempela, ukuthi uyadutshulwa, kodwa kusencane kakhulu ukuphumula, ngoba sekude kakhulu phezulu kwezinga lomsebenzi (kahle, mhlawumbe akude kakhulu, kodwa indlela, njengoba bekusho, inameva futhi inzima ). Noma lapha ngangihlanza indlu ngokwami, engakaze ngiyiqaphele ngaphambili - ingumuntu omuhle! Kumele uhlale ugxile ekuqapheliseni ukuthi uqaphele lokhu okungafi. Ngakho-ke, ngaphansi komsindo, ungathula ngokuthula, bathi, "Ngingathanda kanjani, othandekayo, ukhathele ngalokhu kuhlanza: kokubili emuva kulimaza, nomlenze ulapha lapha ... futhi ujabule kakhulu!". Nasi ukusikisela: mhlawumbe kuzosuswa kusukela manje kuqhubeke? Futhi nasi esinye isizathu sokudumisa: uvela emsebenzini ukhathele, futhi wena-isidlo sase-chic, ibhodlela lewayini oyithandayo futhi yena, enzima kakhulu futhi enomusa. Uyanikhathaza ngokucophelela, akunike ukudla, ahlaziye kahle, uwabeka ezandleni zakho ekamelweni lokulala, aphindise futhi ukuthi unamandla kangakanani uthando lwakhe, abese egeza izitsha futhi asuse imidwebo yothando. Kwenzeke kwenzeke kaningi - kodwa uma kwenzeka, kungani kungenakuvuka ekuseni ekuseni futhi ungakhonxisi uthando: "Ngiyabonga ngobusuku, uthando lwami, ubuhle!". Ngikholelwa, amazwi anjalo namahlo akho ajabulisayo angcono kakhulu ekuphindeni lo mdlalo we-romantic maduzane! Futhi-ke, kaningi kangakanani abesifazane, ubusuku bonke abanothando olunjalo, bephuzile ngothando, ekuseni futhi baphinde babe i-grouchy encane. Futhi "ukubonakala" kuqala: bathi, newayini yayinomuncu, futhi izitsha zihlanjululwe kabi, futhi embhedeni kwakungekho okuhle kakhulu noma. Futhi-ke siyakhononda: bathi, siphi isithandwa sethu sobabili, kuphi konke okuphelile?
Yebo, okugcina kuhlu lwethu, kodwa, mhlawumbe, okokuqala okubaluleke ukukhuluma ngothando. Yebo, ekuboneni kuqala, i-banal ne-sugary sweet: "Ngiyakuthanda" futhi "ngiyakudinga", futhi, akekho oye wakhansela. Wena ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwala mazwi, uzizwa kanjani? Akumcabangi ukukhanya engqondweni, bathi, uma bengakhulumi, mhlawumbe bahluleka ukuthanda futhi abafuni ukungisazi, besabe nje? Yilokho okufanayo kumadoda: bavumele ukuba benze isitini sombuso bese bethi "bangabantwana bendabuko" akuyona into ethakazelisayo futhi engadingeki, kodwa ejulile emphefumulweni (futhi mhlawumbe hhayi ejulile njengoba befuna ukuyikhombisa) ngakho-ke bafuna ukuzwa kithi ukuthi siyabathanda futhi sibazisa kanjani! Futhi ukuzinikeza lezi zikhathi ngokuphindaphindiwe ngezenzo ezisekelwe ngamazwi amnene kuyisabelo sethu esingcwele (noma kunjalo, nabo banomsebenzi wabo, nakuba bevame ukukhohlwa ngakho).
Owesifazane kumele abe ohlakaniphile futhi onamandla, kufanele akwazi ukuphatha lo muntu ngokungabonakali, amqondise, amqondise ngendlela efanele. Cha, angikhulumi ngokulalela okuyimpumputhe - izigqila azikho manje, kepha ngezinye izikhathi amadoda asekulungele ukwenza izenzo ezinjalo zokuhlambalaza, okudingeka sizenzele zona! Futhi lapha kuzodingeka ukuthi ukwazi ukuthola amagama afanele futhi alungile angamgcini nje kuphela, kodwa futhi wamshukumisela ukuba abonise ukuthi ufuna yini kokubili.
Yingakho udinga ukwazi ukuthi yini umuntu ayifunayo kowesifazane, yiziphi amagama azokwazi ukumkholisa kokuthile, ayeke, aqondise. Futhi ngendlela efanayo indoda yakho iyazi ukuthi ungayithatha kanjani. Futhi akukubi, akusona ukuxhaphaza - kungukuphila okuhlangene, ama-nuances okusiza ukugcina umhlaba kuwo.