Kodwa kukhona esinye isici. Ubuhlobo obuhle nendoda - lezi yizo ezizoholela ekuphileni okujabulisayo othandweni nokuvumelana. Nangu owesifazane futhi ulindele ubunzima obuthile, ngoba indlela yokuziphatha kahle? Yeka ukuthi ungaphutha kanjani, ukhethe umlingani ekuphileni?
Uma owesifazane ebuza imibuzo enjalo, cishe, cishe kakade uye wamlandela hhayi isipiliyoni esiyimpumelelo kakhulu ebuhlotsheni bomuntu siqu. Futhi manje uzama ukucabangela wonke amaphutha adlule futhi enze ubuhlobo obusha CORRECT.
Ubungani ubuhlobo nomuntu abuzange bulethe ukudumala, owesifazane kuqala kudingeka aqonde ukuthi ufunani kuye. Mhlawumbe ushadile, noma mhlawumbe uzohlela isimo senkosikazi ... Kulesi sihloko sizobe sicabangela ubuhlobo nomuntu oqondile embonweni womphakathi, okungukuthi, ukuholela emshadweni omude futhi ojabulisayo. Yiqiniso, owesifazane ohlakaniphile futhi ozimisele ukwakha umndeni, ngeke ahlele ubuhlobo besikhashana, lapho eyobe engumnikazi wesikhashana kuphela lapho engekho umfazi osemthethweni. Ngokulula, abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kubo indoda izoshiya umndeni okhona futhi udale entsha - nayo. Njengomthetho, lo mbono uyiphutha. Amadoda asheshe asheshe ahlukanise futhi agijime ukwakha umndeni omusha. Kulesi simo, ngokuvamile bathola izizathu zokuzimela, kusukela ezigulini zomfazi ezidabukisayo ezinganeni ezingenakushiywa. Lokhu akuhambelani nobuhlobo obuhle nomuntu ozoholela owesifazane kwimigomo yakhe nomndeni oqinile. Kungcono kakhulu ukuzinqoba nokuyeka lezi zinsuku, ezibangela ukungezwani, futhi ekugcineni, ukudumazeka okungenakugwema.
Njengoba kubalulekile ukusho ngomunye uhlobo lobuhlobo, okuthiwa umshado womphakathi. Lapha kancane kancane. Izizathu zokuthi kungani abantu behlala ngale ndlela zihlukile. Kukhona izikhathi eziningi lapho lesi simo sifanele bobabili abalingani. Futhi kubo, lobu buhlobo obufanele. Phela, kungenzeka ukuthi omunye wabalingani uzohlukanisa, noma mhlawumbe abasha bayasindisa umshado noma bafuna "ukuxuba" omunye nomunye. Kodwa, kungenzeka ukuthi owesifazane nje akayitholi kathathu, kodwa kumuntu konke kulungile. Khona-ke asikwazi ukubiza le ndlela yokuphila ngakwesokudla.
Ngemuva kwalokho, uma owesifazane ehlala ephazamisekile ehlala emshadweni womphakathi, ubuhlobo obunjalo ngeke bujabule.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho nendoda, udinga ukubeka kahle izitshalo. Unayo imigomo ephakeme? Ingabe ufuna umndeni nezingane? Ngakho khetha indoda engashadile futhi ilungele umndeni. Yiqiniso, awukwazi ukuyala inhliziyo yakho, kepha uma owesifazane efuna ukuthola umndeni wakhe injabulo - kufanele ucabange ngalokhu ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakhe nendoda. Kumelwe sakha ngokucacile umugqa wokuziphatha, siqonde ukuthi indoda idinga impilo. Futhi-ke kufanele sithole iziphetho futhi sinqume ukuthi lokhu kuyadingeka yini. Owesifazane ngamunye uqobo lwakhe unquma lokhu "ukufaneleka" kobuhlobo. Kuthiwani ngabanye ababi futhi bangacacisi, kungaba kuhle kakhulu kuye.
Kungcono ukunikeza lo muntu ngokushesha lokho okufunayo kuye, ukuze ungenzi izinhlelo ezinkulu futhi ungadumali, ngenxa yalokho. Uma ubona ukuthi indoda ayifinyeleli ehhovisi lokubhalisa futhi ngokuvamile iyaphendula ngakho ayikho ukuhlehlisa, futhi uphupha isembatho esimhlophe - kungcono ukuhamba ngokushesha, ngoba lokhu akuyona inketho yakho. Uyazi, kunamadoda amaningi emhlabeni afuna ukushada futhi abe nezingane zokujabula. Awuzizitholi ezithombeni nokudumazeka.