Ukuziphatha komuntu oshadile ekuboneni kwenkosikazi

Amadoda isithembu - leli qiniso lingaphezu kwesisodwa eliqinisekiswa ngocwaningo lwezingqondo, lulungiswa yizinkulungwane zezibonelo zamabhangqwana ajabulisayo, lapho umyeni ngezinye izikhathi eqonda isidingo sakhe sothando olungaphandle futhi uhlonishwa ngumphakathi.

Kungenxa yalesi sizathu ukuthi indoda ingashintsha emishadweni engu-60%. Futhi yilokhu kuphela okuveziwe kwemishado yendoda eshadile evela kumlingani ukuya kumamahhala. Kukhona, ngaphandle kwalokho, okungafani okujabulisayo, ukukhonza, njengoba kufanele, ubufakazi bomthetho owaziwayo. Kodwa-ke, iningi lamadoda lalingamanje futhi lingabalweli bokuqala lokuhlukunyezwa emshadweni.

Indlela yokunquma ukuthi umyeni uyakhohlisa?

Lo mbuzo uhlushwa amakhosikazi amaningi asolisayo. Ngokuvamile kuyisifiso sabo ukuthola ukuthi othandekayo unomunye wesikhashana noma ohlala njalo - futhi uxosha amadoda ukuba enze ukuhlukumezeka. Kodwa lesi sibonelo sabesifazane asiyeki ekufuneni kwabo isu elilungile lokuthola iqiniso lokuhlubuka. Kukholelwa ukuthi indlela elula kakhulu futhi ephumelelayo yokuthola ukuthi inkosikazi yendoda yakhe iyinto elula yokuqaphela izenzo zakhe. Futhi lobu buchwepheshe bephenyo busiza ngempela owesifazane ukuthola impendulo yombuzo obaluleke kangaka kuye. Ngokwezibalo, ukukhashelwa komkakho komyeni kubonakala ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Futhi ngamacala angu-80% - ezenzweni zamadoda lapho bebona inkosikazi.

Ngakho-ke umyeni onecala uziphatha kanjani, uma emphakathini lapho ekhona nomlingane osemthethweni, ngokuzumayo kubonakala lowo obhekene nombhede wakhe obheka imizwelo ehlukahlukene? Okokuqala, linikeza ongakholwayo - isethi yezenzo, ukubonakala komzimba, ukukhuluma ngezwi kanye nezinye izindlela ngaphandle kwamagama ukuveza imizwa yabo. Njengoba esengokwengqondo nangokwenyama, umuntu onjalo uyisisulu sokwesaba kwakhe. Ngaphandle lokhu kubonakala ngokubheka, ukunyakaza okukhulu, ukuzama ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kuleyo ngxenye ekamelweni, okuvela endaweni yenkosikazi kususwe ngokukhululekile nezwi eliphakeme. Ngokuvamile indoda yakhe izama ukufihla ukwesaba kwakhe ngemva kokumomotheka okungokwemvelo. Kodwa izandla - zinikeza ngokuphelele. Bahamba kusukela emlonyeni kuya entanyeni, bashaya ibhuloho lempumu futhi bazama njalo ukuxubha izinhlayiya ezingekho emlonyeni webhokisi.

Ukuqaphela inkosikazi emcimbini lapho umuntu efika nomkakhe noma othile ongamtshela ngokuziphatha kwakhe okungaziwa komunye owesifazane, indoda ngokuqinisekile izokhohlwa ngokukwazi ukubheka abantu emehlweni. Ukubukeka kwakhe kugijima nxazonke ekamelweni lokuthola okuthile okunamathela ekucabangeni ngesimo. Lokhu ukuphunyuka kwamehlo okuvela eqinisweni akuhlali isikhathi eside: ngisho nasendleleni yenkosikazi, amadoda akwazi ukuzibamba ngokushesha futhi, okungenani, athathe ukubukeka nokuthukuthele. Kodwa uma ebonakala ngokuqondile emaminithini okuqala kokuvela komunye, omunye, lo mfazi okhanda ngeke adibanise noma yini.

Futhi uma inkosikazi ingumngane?

Yiqiniso, uma ekhetha owesifazane ovela engxenyeni yangaphakathi yesigamu esisemthethweni, khona-ke uma umthandi wakhe ebonakala, cishe ngeke alahlekelwe ikhanda lakhe: ekwazi kahle ukuthi kuzodingeka amhlangabeze njalo phambi komkakhe, uzoziphatha ngokuvumelana nokuziphatha okulungile ezimweni ezinjalo. Eqinisweni, lokhu kungakulungeli okuyisongo esikhulu kunazo zonke kubantu. Ukuba ngumuntu osebenzayo futhi othanda ukulawula konke okusemandleni akhe, indoda ilahleka kalula uma into engeke ihambisane nendlela ehlele ngayo. Ngakho-ke ukubuka okusheshayo, nokuzibonakalisa komfutho, nesifiso sokuhamba ngokushesha nesikhala senkosikazi yakhe. Kodwa uma kubhekeke omunye owesifazane, khona-ke uzoziphatha kahle. Nakuba okuthile okwamanje kungakunika.

Okufanayo, bheka. Inkosikazi yamadoda athile abashadile ibonisa inkululeko yezocansi, isithandwa esinqatshelwe, okuyinto, njengoba wazi, akukho okujabulisa kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo phakathi kwakhe nowesifazane ohlala naye emndenini, kungaba nomuzwa wokuthi wonke umuntu. Ikakhulukazi - umfazi owazi kahle umyeni wakhe. Kusukela ngenye indlela, ngaphandle kokubheka komuntu ukuveza imizwa yakhe ngomfazi okwamanje kulesi simo asikwazi, kungenxa yalesi siteshi ukuthi uzibeka engozini. Ukuhlala ngokucophelela bonke abantu abakuzungezile, uzongena njalo ngomzuzu wesikhathi sakhe samahhala ebuka inkosikazi yakhe. Yikuphi, cishe, kuyomphendula ngezimali ezifanayo.

Okunye okubonakalayo

Yiqiniso, hhayi ngokubona kuphela, kodwa nakweminye imibonakaliso ekuziphatheni, kunganqunywa ukuthi ekamelweni noma ehholo le-cafe kukhona owesifazane ogogozwe naye kumkakhe. Ikakhulukazi, uma isondela, ngokuqinisekile iyoqala kancane, ingabonakali kahle. Futhi lapho ekhuphuka, uzobe evinjelwe kakhulu naye futhi ngokuqinisekile uzothumela ihlaya elimnandi kuye ngokushesha nje lapho eshiya lo mbhangqwana. Le ndoda enecala inikeza indlela yokuphuma enecala labo bonke abaguqula abayeni, ngisho noma bona abazivumelanga. Okuphambene nalokho lapho oshade naye ephikisana naye hhayi ekufuneni ukunqoba okusha, kodwa ukuze aphindiselele kumfazi ongathembeki.

Ngokuvamile ukuziphatha komuntu oshadile lapho ebona inkosikazi kunciphisa kuphela ukudumisa nokubonisa ububele ekuthandweni kwakhe okusemthethweni nangokugxekwa kowesifazane othile. Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, amadoda anjalo azama ukuheha abafazi bawo ngokukhululekile kunkosikazi wabo. Futhi baqala ukukhuluma izinto ezingakhethi mayelana nowesifazane omnika inkululeko yesikhashana, kuphela uma ecabanga ukuthi umyeni wakhe usola okuthile. Noma uzama ukwenza umngane nenkosikazi yakhe, okwesabisa ngezinkinga eziningi ezingenakulungiswa.

Ukubukeka, ukuzithokozisa, ukubonakaliswa kokwesaba, ukumomotheka okukhulu, ukuzama ukuphuma ngokushesha lapho omunye owesifazane evele khona ngokuzumayo, yizibonakaliso zangaphandle zokuziphatha kwamadoda ezimweni ezinjalo. Futhi kukhona nenani lemibonakaliso ekhethekile yecala lakhe. Ngokuyinhloko, lezi zizama ukukhombisa omunye wesifazane ukuthi akulungile yini lapha. Ngokusobala, kungenjalo, kunokuba ahlukumeze umkakhe nganoma iyiphi indlela, ngeke akwazi ukwenza lokhu. Ngakho-ke lo muntu uba lapho izimo eziyingozi zifika kuye, ungokoqobo, unesizotha, unembile ekuhambeni kwakhe futhi unesizotha emazwini akhe. Ukuphikisana kwendlovu nomyeni wakhe kuyeke ukuphela, kanti ukukhulunywa komngane wakhe ozondayo womkakhe ngokuzumayo kuveza kuye isithakazelo esijulile kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuqotho kwendodakazikazi eledlule. Ngaphezu kwalokho, indoda enjalo iziphatha kahle kakhulu nabammeli besifazane abakhona kule nkampani, lapho efika nomkakhe. Ngaphandle kwalokho - nkosikazi. Kuye ngokuvamile uzama ukungasondeli. Kodwa ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzobe eshiyashika embonweni womfazi ngamaminithi ambalwa, bese echaza ukuthi wayesekhefu, endlini yangasese noma nje umoya ophefumulayo. Okumangalisa ukuthi ngesikhathi esifanayo, lona wesifazane oshaywe umyeni wakhe kakhulu noma engazange alalele nhlobo ngeke abe khona ehholo.