Indlela yokuthola injabulo nokuvumelana kwangaphakathi

Indlela yokuthola injabulo nokuvumelana kwangaphakathi? Sivame ukuthi inkulumo ethi "Ngifuna ukujabula!" Noma "Ngifuna konke kuvumelane!", Kodwa uma ubuza ukuthi yini oyifunayo, lokho okudingayo ngenjabulo nokuvumelana, akunakwenzeka ukuthi impendulo itholakala ngokushesha. Iyini injabulo nokuthi ungayithola kanjani?

Ezikhathini zobufilosofi, injabulo ichazwa njengesimo sengqondo lapho umuntu ezwa khona ukwaneliseka kwangaphakathi nezimo zobuntu bakhe, ukugcwala kokuphila nokuziqhenya. Ukuvumelanisa kakhulu kuchazwa nje ngokuthi isimo sangaphakathi sokuvumelana nokuvumelanisa ngokwakho. Kodwa kanjani ukufeza lesi simo sangaphakathi, ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ungumuntu ovumelanayo? Ayikho imithi ejwayelekile lapha. Wonke umuntu kufanele azikhethele izinxenye zenjabulo nokuvumelana.

Kodwa akuyona into encazelo yefilosofi yokugcwala kokuphila nokuziqhenya. Zama ukubuyela emuva empilweni yansuku zonke futhi uzibheke ngisho nangaphandle, kodwa kancane kusuka phezulu. Uzobona izwe elikhulu, kulo izwe lakho nedolobha lakho, futhi kwelinye lamigwaqo yedolobha - indlu yakho, ohlala kuyo. Cabanga ukuthi ubuke ewindini lakho. Uzobonani? Indlu ehlelekile lapho kukhona khona owesifazane onothando nothandekayo ozungezwe umndeni? Noma isidleke esithandekayo lapho abathandi ababili befihla khona? Noma ikhaya elihle lomuntu owenza umsebenzi onesizungu? Ubheka kanjani ngaphakathi kwekhaya lakho? Uyisimo esivamile, ungazitholi - yini okushoyo: ukukhathazeka nokugxila, okukhululekile futhi okuzolile noma okujabulisayo, okujabulisayo? Lokhu kuvivinya okuncane kubonisa isimo sakho sangaphakathi nesilinganiso sokwaneliseka ngempilo. Into esemqoka akufanele ibe ngobuqili. Ungacabangi ukuthi umfokazi uzobona yini ngokubuka efasiteleni lakho - phambi kwabangaphandle sivame ukugqoka imaski, futhi kulokhu ukubonisa ubuqotho kubalulekile.

Ukuzibona uvela phezulu, hlola indawo yakho emhlabeni. Unelisekile ngakho? Unelisekile ngendima yomphakathi? Uma okungenani enye yezinhlangothi zokuphila ikuhlazisa - awukwazi ukufeza ukuvumelana. Hlola ngokucophelela futhi ulinganise wonke amaqiniso. Nquma ukuthi uyaziqhenya kanjani umsebenzi wakho, impilo yakho siqu iyaqhubeka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umkhuba wakho wansuku zonke uyenza injabulo. Khetha indawo ofuna ukuyisebenzela. Uma ngokuvamile unelisekile ngakho konke, kodwa "kukhona okungalungile", zama ukumba ngokujulile. Ngokuvamile, injabulo iqukethe izinto ezincane, futhi ukufeza ukuvumelana, azikho izingxenye ezincane - njengendebe yokushokolethi eshisayo ekuseni. Kungenzeka ukuthi uma uhlolisisa uzothola izinto ezincane ezingathandeki ezilula ukuziqeda, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, khumbula okuthile okukuthakazelisayo, ongakwenzi isikhathi eside.

Kodwa-ke, kaningi isizathu sokuzizwa ungajabuli akuyona imininingwane yangaphandle, kodwa kuwe. I-dictum edumile kaKozma Prutkov ibonisa ngokucacile ukuthembela ngokuqondile kwenjabulo kumuntu wangaphakathi: "Uma ufuna ukujabula, yiba naye." Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo zithi ngenhlanhla kudingeka ujwayele ukuqeqeshwa, ukuqeqesha lo mzwa, nokuthola ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi umsebenzi wansuku zonke.

Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, uma uphendula umbuzo othi ungubani, udinga ukufunda ukuzitholela ngokwakho, noma ukwakha uhlelo lwezenzo zokukhonkolo ezihloswe ngushintsho. Ngokuvamile ukunganeliseki kwangaphakathi no-self kanye ne-samoyedstvo okubangela umuzwa wokungajabuli. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzithanda wena, kanti abanye bazokubuka ngamehlo akho. Zama ukubukeka ngokucophelela kulokho okubonakala kuwe iphutha futhi ubuthi bakho - ingabe ukwesaba ngempela noma mhlawumbe, ngokuphambene nalokho, kukunika i-piquancy?

Ngokuvamile ezingqondweni zethu kukhona umqondo wokuthi injabulo ayitholakali ezandleni zomuntu nakho konke kufanele ikhokhwe, futhi wena, ngokuhluleka kwakho okubi, ikakhulukazi akufanelanga injabulo. Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela? Injabulo ihlale ihamba nathi, into eyinhloko ukuqaphela nokuyijabulela ngaphandle kokudala izithiyo kithi lapho engekho khona futhi engeke ibe khona. Ungasho ukuthi: "Manje ngizokunqoba lokhu, bese ngizojabulela injabulo nokuzwana." Lokhu akulona iqiniso, uma ungakwazi ukujabula manje - akunakwenzeka ukuthi kamuva. Injabulo encane yomuntu siqu ihlala njalo njalo futhi. Kudingekile ukuba uzijwayeze ukubuka okuzungezile okuthile okujabulisayo okugcwalisa umuzwa wokuvumelana.

Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukuyeka ukuzithuthukisa-cha, udinga ukuqhubeka usebenza ngokwakho, kodwa ungalindeli ukuthi injabulo izokwehlela emva kokuqedwa kwayo, kodwa funda ukuthola injabulo nokuzwana lapha nakamuva. Ukuphupha ngekusasa, ungakhohlwa ukuhlala okwamanje!

Gcwalisa impilo yakho ngezenzakalo ezithakazelisayo: hlela amaholide amancane, imihlangano yabangane, uhambe emanzini, qalisa ukuzilibazisa okusha - zonke lezi zinto ezincane zakhiwa ekuphileni okugcwele injabulo nenjabulo.

Ukuvuka ekuseni, qala usuku lwakho ngokumomotheka, uzilungiselele ukuthi usuku luzophumelela futhi lujabule. Phakathi nosuku, ubuchopho bakho bujwayele ukulungisa zonke izigameko ezimnandi futhi ungagxila ekuhlulekeni okuncane. Kusihlwa ngaphambi kokulala, khumbula zonke izinto ezinhle ezenzeka emini. Ulale ngombono omuhle, ukuze usuku luqale ngalo.

Ukuthola ukuvumelana kwangaphakathi, ukuvumelanisa ngokwakho umsebenzi wansuku zonke, ukuzikhandla ngokwakho, ukuzifundisa ukucabanga ngenjabulo. I-Strange njengoba izwakala, kodwa iningi lethu alizivumeli ukuba sijabule, silungise ukuhluleka kuphela. Ngaki kaningi, uma umngane ethi "ujabule", simphendula ngokuthi "yah, ungubani, yini enhle injabulo lapho." Ungazigibeli ujabule, uzivumele ukuthi ungumuntu ovumelanayo, zivumele ukuba ujabule - futhi injabulo izofika endlini yakho, ngoba njalo lapho kulindeleke khona, lapho ejabula khona. Indlela yokuthola injabulo nokuvumelana kwangaphakathi? Kukawe!