Ukulinda ingane kuyisikhathi esihle kunazo zonke kubazali bobabili. Lo mzuzu uvame ukungena emqondweni wabo yonke impilo yabo. Umama wesikhathi esizayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa uzwa imizwa enethando kakhulu futhi efudumele ngomntwana wakhe ongakazalwa. Kodwa owesifazane okhulelwe angajabula kuphela uma eqhuba kahle. Izinkinga ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, ukwanda okweqile kwesisindo phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ukuhlambalaza kwabanye abantu nezinye izinto eziningi kungabangela ukuphefumula kwe-phobic ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Mayelana nokuthi lombuso nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nakho, futhi kuzoxoxwa ngezansi.
Kuphi lapho i-neurosis ivela khona?
Empeleni, i-phobic neurosis, kanye neurasthenia, ayikho kuwo wonke umuntu ohlangabezane nezinkinga noma ukucindezeleka. Kunesimo esithile esithile kulokhu okuphathelene nokukhubazeka, okungabonakala kakade ebuntwaneni. Yiziphi izimpawu ezisemqoka zesifo se-neurosis? Ngokuvamile lokhu kubonakala ngokungazelelwe kwengane yokwesaba nokwesaba. Kungaba izenzo ezithintekayo, noma ezinye izinto eziyinqaba. Isibonelo, lapho intombazane icabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu uyibhekile, futhi ugweme ngokucophelela izindawo ezigcwele. Izingane ezinjalo ziyesaba ukuphendula ebhodini ekilasini, ziyesaba kakhulu ukukhuluma esidlangalaleni. Ingane ehlushwa yi-phobic neurosis ngeke iphenduke kubantu abangabazi, iyesaba ukukhula ebomvu phambi komuntu ongajwayelekile. Kusukela kubantwana abanjalo kamuva abesifazane nabesilisa bakhula, ngokuya kokuhlaselwa kwesifo se-phobic. Kubesifazane, lesi simo ngokuvamile sibonakala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Zonke phobias zihlale zihlotshaniswa nokusola okukhathazayo. Umuntu ubaluleke kakhulu, njengoba ehlolwa ngabanye. Izinkinga ezinjalo ze-phobic zibizwa ngokuthi "ezenhlalo". Ukubonakala kokuhlaselwa kwe-phobia futhi, ngokulandelayo, i-neurosis, kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuxabana ngenxa yezidingo eziphakeme kakhulu kuwe, ukungabi khona kwamathuba okuzifakaza ekuphileni kwabo kwangempela. I-neurosis ivela ngenxa yokuthi umuntu (kulokhu, owesifazane okhulelwe) unesimo somsebenzi, isimo sakhe sengqondo nokuziphatha kwakhe kuthinteka.
Okuyinhloko yenkinga
I-neurosis ye-Phobic ayikwazi ukucatshangelwa - lesi simo kumele sihlolwe njalo. Uma kungenjalo, ngeke kuthinte kabi isimo sengqondo somama, kodwa futhi inhlalakahle yengane. Ngokwezibalo, cishe ingxenye yesine yabesifazane abakhulelwe banesifo sokucindezeleka nesisindo. Lokhu kuvamise kakhulu ngenxa yenguquko emjikelezweni we-hormonal othinta isifo sengqondo sowesifazane. Kodwa-ke, uma i-neurosis evamile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa iphathwa kalula futhi ingalawulwa ngokuzimela, i-phobic neurosis idinga ukungenela okukhethekile. Uma uthola ukukhathala okusheshayo futhi uhlale uhlushwa ubuhlungu nokukhathazeka, kusho ukuthi usuke ulungele ukuphefumula nokucindezeleka. Izimpawu zalesi sifo - ukuleleka, ukucasula okungenangqondo, ukunganandaba nakho konke, noma nomuzwa ozwakalayo wecala. Kubonakala kuwe ukuthi awudingi muntu futhi ngezinye izikhathi ucabanga nokuzibulala. Lesi simo singakhula ngenxa yokunganaki ngokwanele kuwe umyeni wakho, ngenxa yokwesaba noma ukungathandi ukuzala, ngenxa yokukhulelwa okungakahlelwa, ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Kungenzeka futhi ngenxa yesimo sakho sezimali esidabukisayo noma ukungabaza kwakho ukuthi ungaba umama omuhle.
Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, owesifazane unesimo esikhethekile sokugxila okuphelele enhlanganweni yezwe lakhe langaphakathi nengane yakhe yesikhathi esizayo. Lesi simo asikwazi kodwa sithinte impilo nempilo yakhe (ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukukhathalela owesifazane ngaphakathi kuye kusiza ukubhekana nezinkinga nezinkinga - kubonakala kudlula kuye ngaphandle kokuthinta imizwelo nemizwa. Lesi simo esiyingqayizivele, ehambisana nowesifazane ngesikhathi sonke sokukhulelwa, sifinyelela phezulu esikhathini sokubeletha. Khona-ke ingaqhubeka isikhathi esithile isikhathi sokuncelisa. Kodwa-ke, ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu ukuhoxiswa ngokwakho kungaphazanyiswa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi - khona-ke ukuphefumula kwe-phobic kuyaqhubeka.
Lesi sifo senziwa njengempendulo kumcimbi, futhi njengokungathi kusuka endaweni engekho. Abesifazane abakhulelwe bajwayele ukukhala, ukucasuka, ukuhlaselwa ngaphandle kwesizathu, "ezingeni", ngenxa yezinguquko emlandweni we-hormonal owenziwa emzimbeni futhi kuthinte isistimu yezinzwa. Uma ziphethwe yi-neurosis ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, imizwa, imizwa kanye nemizwelo iyashintsha ngokuphawulekayo. Ngenxa yokushintsha okusheshayo ekujuleni komzimba wabo, owesifazane unomuzwa wokuthi umhlaba wonke ozungezile uyashintsha futhi. Umama wesikhathi esizayo uba yingozi kakhulu, azwela amazwi kanye nanoma yiziphi izenzo zabanye. Ekuqhubekeni kweJiyomethri, isidingo sabo sengqondo sesiguli nesethenda kuyingxenye yabaseduze nabangaphandle.
Indlela yokubhekana nayo
Indlela ethandwayo kakhulu yokuqeda i-neurosis nokucindezeleka kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo i-psychotherapy. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukukhulelwa akukwazi ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa zokulwa nokucindezeleka. Zithinta kakhulu inhliziyo, izinso, isibindi nezinye izitho zomntwana. Kungcono ukuthi ufune ngokushesha isifo sengqondo se-psychotherapist. Kuzosiza ukukhohlwa ngalezo zinkinga ezingabangela lesi simo. Uyosusa konke ukuhlupheka futhi abe nomthelela ekutholeni ukuthula kwengqondo. Ngokuvamile i-neurotic phobic ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa iphathwa ngukuphathwa kwengqondo noma ingqondo yokuziphatha kwengqondo. Lezi zindlela ezimbili zizosiza owesifazane ukuba eze embonweni ofanele wezinto zonke nomzwelo wenjabulo ephelele yobumama besikhathi esizayo. Kunezeluleko eziningana zobuchwepheshe ezizokuxwayisa ngokuthuthukiswa kwesibindi. Hlela njalo ukukhulelwa kusengaphambili! Zizinakekele ngesikhathi ukhulelwe! Yidla kuphela ukudla okunempilo! Qinisekisa ukungena kwezemidlalo! Okokuqala, cabanga ngawe nomntanakho! Ukwazi ukuphumula futhi ucabange ngezinto ezinhle! Ngokugcina le mithetho, uzoba ngowesifazane okhulelwe okhulelwe. Uzofunda ukwamukela kusuka enkundleni yakho kuphela injabulo. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane yisenzakalo esimangalisa kakhulu empilweni yakho. Akukho lutho futhi akufanele nanini lube phezu kwalo. Khumbula: impilo yakho enhle kakhulu isiqinisekiso sokuzalwa komntwana ophilile.